what if your partner is cheating on you and you know it

@Dorrdavy (276)
Jamaica
March 17, 2009 2:24pm CST
i happen to know a lady whose husband is cheating on her and she just pretend as if nothing is going on, at one point she got mad and spoke to one of the girls but said nothing to the husband. there's also another lady whose husband cheats on her with another MAN she saids nothing either. why do you think some women keep so silent on these issues? is it because they are ashamed?
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6 responses
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
there are some that are ashamed that their husband/wife is cheating on them. but there are some that are called martyrs. even if they knew it they just pretend that everything is normal. they are on the denial stage. others kept silent because they are afraid to be left alone with all the responsibilities. And some are afraid that they might not find a job to support their family. so they sacrificed a lot for the sake of the kids. but if it will happened to me i guess ill file an annulment and ill ask him for the support for our child. whats the use in living together if one of you is cheating on the other right?.
@Dorrdavy (276)
• Jamaica
19 Mar 09
yes, indeed there are so many reasons why these women keep silent but trust me i dont think its worth it.
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
18 Mar 09
They are probably afraid and in denial. Change is hard, major change is harder. If they left their husbands they would have to contend with a lot of stress and change. Some people can't handle it. But I tell you if my man was cheating on me, he would be out the door. Because cheating is just an emotional issue its a health issue. The cheating partner could bring home some disease they got and give it to you.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
19 Mar 09
If I knew my husband was cheating on me I would kick his butt to the curb. I could never live or love and man who cheats on me and I know it. I couldn't lie to myself, and I would always be wondering where he was and what or who he was doing.
@Dorrdavy (276)
• Jamaica
19 Mar 09
you would really kick his butt? can you fight that well? WOW!!
• Philippines
18 Mar 09
really? they are an amazing couple! haha! if that happens to me. he'll see what i can do. he will hell. right at the moment i caught him cheating on him he's already finished. he's surely out of my life! i can never tolerate that! even if i love him dearly, there's no room for forgiveness for what he has done to me. i don't think anyone deserves to be treated like that! and to be cheated even if she's not the perfect woman in the world! she still deserves her right to fight for her humanity. anyway march is the month for woman empowerment! happy empowered women to us! happy mylotting!
@Dorrdavy (276)
• Jamaica
19 Mar 09
thank you so much, happy mylotting to you too and thanks for responding
@spalladino (17923)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Along with being in denial, some women are financially dependent on their partner or have no other place to go so they're stuck. That's why I believe that women need to have their own incomes...their own ability to take care of themselves. I would never put up with my husband cheating on me. I wouldn't leave because my daughter and grandchildren live next door but it would probably take about two days for me to run him off if I wanted to.
@Dorrdavy (276)
• Jamaica
19 Mar 09
i agree with you that women should have there own income, even if there husband is an angel sent from God.
@daneg33 (1131)
• Canada
17 Mar 09
I think they are in denial. In other words if they ignore it, then it really isn't happening (in their minds). Personally, I would not put up with that behavior. The guy would be out the door and his clothes would go to the salvation army.
@Dorrdavy (276)
• Jamaica
17 Mar 09
that makes two of us thanks for resonding