March 17, 2009 2:26pm CST
Sometimes just letting someone know we are there for them can make all the difference. They may not call on us or ask anything of us, but we never know how much just being there can mean to them. This is especially true when a friend loses a loved one, but it can also be true at other times of crisis. Just having a friend to talk to have saved countless people from taking their own life. It is often thought that most of those who commit suicide do so because they feel that there is no one who understands them, no one who cares. Many are hurting in today's world, maybe you have a friend who has lost their job but you stay away or don't call because you know they don't want sympathy and you feel helpless. Find a way to keep in contact, especially if no one else is. Often when people retire, we give them a big send off, wish them well and forget about them. Retirement is not an easy time for many people and they would love to have an old friend from work drop by. I can speak from experience because when I retired, there was just one friend who kept in touch, but that was enough to make all the difference, especially during the first year.
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• United States
18 Mar 09
I agree with you Pose123. I have a friend that has been going through a difficult family matter for sometime, and we definitely keep in touch, she has helped me through difficult times, and I have helped her. Plus it just is good to keep in touch if we can.
20 Mar 09
Hi Pose123, I completely agree with you & I too feel that the mere thought that someone is there for you no matter what happens,gives your life a new meaning especially when someone loses a near & dear one. Thank you for the lovely post. Regards.
19 Mar 09
I think that a good thing to practice is when we know that someone is going through something, we call them and let them know that we are there if they need anything. This way, we don't feel like we are imposing and they can call us and we feel less awkward about the entire thing.
18 Mar 09
Very true indeed. What a person needs is not a friend who is around only when times are good but a friend who is around when times are bad. Such friends are hard to find and if we can find even one, we must cherish that person and be there for that person.
• United States
17 Mar 09
I always tell people that they can call anytime even if is to talk about nonsense. I have a good friend who is going through a divorce and I always make sure that she has my support. We should never neglect those who might need our emotional support. Like you said, just been there means a lot to people.