Being There.

@Pose123 (21666)
Canada
March 17, 2009 2:26pm CST
Sometimes just letting someone know we are there for them can make all the difference. They may not call on us or ask anything of us, but we never know how much just being there can mean to them. This is especially true when a friend loses a loved one, but it can also be true at other times of crisis. Just having a friend to talk to have saved countless people from taking their own life. It is often thought that most of those who commit suicide do so because they feel that there is no one who understands them, no one who cares. Many are hurting in today's world, maybe you have a friend who has lost their job but you stay away or don't call because you know they don't want sympathy and you feel helpless. Find a way to keep in contact, especially if no one else is. Often when people retire, we give them a big send off, wish them well and forget about them. Retirement is not an easy time for many people and they would love to have an old friend from work drop by. I can speak from experience because when I retired, there was just one friend who kept in touch, but that was enough to make all the difference, especially during the first year.
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I agree with you Pose123. I have a friend that has been going through a difficult family matter for sometime, and we definitely keep in touch, she has helped me through difficult times, and I have helped her. Plus it just is good to keep in touch if we can.
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
18 Mar 09
Hi MaryLynn, Thank you for commenting. As you have experienced, it works both ways. Blessings.
• United States
19 Mar 09
So very true Pose. It is great to help out, and it is great to have your friend there when you need someone too. Hugs
@titansaha (188)
• India
20 Mar 09
Hi Pose123, I completely agree with you & I too feel that the mere thought that someone is there for you no matter what happens,gives your life a new meaning especially when someone loses a near & dear one. Thank you for the lovely post. Regards.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
Hi titansaha, Thank you for commenting and we agree. Blessings
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
19 Mar 09
I think that a good thing to practice is when we know that someone is going through something, we call them and let them know that we are there if they need anything. This way, we don't feel like we are imposing and they can call us and we feel less awkward about the entire thing.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
Hi Rozie, Thank you for commenting and sometimes your suggestion is all that's required but often we need to follow up. Blessings.
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
18 Mar 09
Very true indeed. What a person needs is not a friend who is around only when times are good but a friend who is around when times are bad. Such friends are hard to find and if we can find even one, we must cherish that person and be there for that person.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
18 Mar 09
Hi poohgal, Thank you and you are right, sometimes it's hard to find even one such friend. The old saying holds to true to have a friend, we must be a friend. Blessings.
@lingzi (568)
• China
18 Mar 09
en, pose, being there is important for our friends or family members who need us. i always feel good because of konwing their care even we don't contact each other for about a year. i am sure, they love me.it's enough.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
18 Mar 09
Hi lingzi, Thank you for commenting. Blessings.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I know that people who have lost their jobs often feel ashamed and here is a way you can help, just stay their friend and stay in touch.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
17 Mar 09
Hi savypat, Thank you for commenting. I agree that many people feel ashamed when they lose there jobs, and it's happening more and more often. Stay their friend and stay in touch, you've said it all in one sentence. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I always tell people that they can call anytime even if is to talk about nonsense. I have a good friend who is going through a divorce and I always make sure that she has my support. We should never neglect those who might need our emotional support. Like you said, just been there means a lot to people.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
17 Mar 09
Hi Mirita, Thank you for commenting and we agree, just being there can mean so much. Blessings.