Is anyone allergic to turkey?

Yes I know a relative by marriage who is allergic to turkey , chicken and eggs. For all the family gatherings at Thanksgiving and Christmas turkey is always served. Since each of us bring something for the meal I always bring another meat dish, a ham, filet of smoked pork or a beef dish. The person who is allergic really appreciates it. If you are invited to a family gathering ask what it served. If it is turkey tell them you would like to add to the meal by bringing a complementary dish such as ham, beef, lamb or vegetarian since you are allergic to turkey. Make the dish large enough so everybody can have a slice or a spoonful. This way it looks as if the meal has been planned that way and the hosts will not be offended.

I agree with myklj - you can't expect them all to give up the definitive Thanksgiving main course just because it doesn't agree with you. I do think it's odd, though, that there's not perhaps an offer to give you something different since this is your family. I think your only choices are: A - Go somewhere else for Thanksgiving B - Go, but bring with you a meat that you can eat C - Go and eat only the side dishes that you like (God knows there's plenty of that kind of stuff around at Thanksgiving!) Best of luck to you but I really do think you're being unrealistic.