Children and Surgery

I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and your family Anora. I am sure that all will be well, but you are bound to worry. My solution to most things is time and cuddles. Be there for her before and immediately afterwards. Be there for your husband and other children too. Share your energies. Share your hugs and kisses. All will be well.

My son had his tonsils and aednoids taken out when he was 2 1/2, we really didn't have to explain much to him, we took him up early and let him play in the play room, and show him his room. Letting him play made him comfortable. He came through the surgery like a trooper. They bounce back so fast. He also had emergency surgery and then extensive surgery when he was 5. He was in pain the first time, so we didn't have to explain anything to him, nor did we have the time. The next time, we explained and told him that he was going to be all better. The doctors and nurses were great with him. My Mother came and helped out after he had surgery so that was a great help.

It's over now and so I hope things are fine and your little one is comfy. That's so young Anora...you must have been a bit of a mess with worry and anxiety. My elder daughter had a cyst removed from her neck when she was 2. It was a rare thing back then and we were living in Singapore where the surgeon doing the op was on the phone with a surgeon in England throughout the procedure. My husband had been uncharacteristically playing with her and had been too rough and clumsy which caused the cyst to balloon dangerously. It was really horrible for me ...fearing him because he knew he was responsible and that if he was pushed, he would take it out on me. I had a six month old at home. The hospital was a long way away and I had no transport except for the bus from the army base to the hosp, I still had to get to the base. I could not take my infant daughter into the hospital. The nurses would not let me comfort Jo when she came out from the anaesthetic. She was screaming and terrified and she was thrashing about and ripped her tubes out. She had spotted me when they took her to the treatment room to re-insert the tubes and she was crying for me and screaming in pain. They would not let me go to her, thinking I would be too upset but I was worse for having to stay out and listen to her...this was 37 years ago. When she came out, they had sedated her and her little arms were in splints so she could not rip the tubes out again. The poor little mite...I felt they had treated her so very cruelly by not letting her Mum comfort and re-assure her. That ten days was a really horrible time for me....Jo has no memory of it. The day I brought Jo home, she was on the floor, quietly playing with a new toy when her dad got home. He picked on me for something as he was taking his army boots off and threw one of his boots at me, just missing Jo who was sitting between us...I'll stop here as I'm going off topic. The memories are still there and flooding my mind. Having sick or injured children requires us as Mums to be really strong. I hope you find the strength you need....I'm sure you will. Blessings upon you and your little one. Namaste~MsT

I know that if I was having surgery (unless it was really major), I'd be pretty calm about it. If it was one of my children, I'd be a lot less calm. I can take a lot of things for myself that I absolutely don't want them to have to deal with. But I've never had to deal with one of my children needing surgery. Hang in there though,I'm sure all will go just fine.

Hi Anora. Hope your daughter is much better now. I'm sorry I didn't get to respond to this sooner..it's only now that I got to read this. If I may ask, why did she undergo surgery? It's okay if you don't respond to this, I would understand if it's too personal for you. Take care.

a few years ago my oldest son who was 5 at the time had to have surgery I knew it was a minor procedure and the surgeon was great but.... that was my SON in there on the oreperating table I had a hard time with the whole ordeal there were 4 other kids at home with my husband worried about their brother I dont know what he told them to comfort them but it didnt seem to work when i called to update hubby I could hear them crying in the background never leave comforting a child up to a man LOL

I am sorry to hear that, I have being done three large surgeries. I even did not know how I get through, the only thing I remembered is hospital is hell. I also feel scared in the front of hospital, it's a bad memory. If she is an adult or much old, it will be much easy. You can explain to her, but she is just six months old. Hope her will recover soon, best wishes for her!

Children are very fragile and undergoing any surgery can be very dramatic. Explaining the surgery could be a positive thing depending on how you talk to them. Treat your child as an adult, because they are going to be apart of a very adult procedure (

Dear Anora - I have never had this problem but my heart goes out to you... I will be thinking of your daughter and wishing for a full and speedy recovery!

Hi anora , My daughter is now 26 years old , but she has had many operations and much pain in her life . When she was 2 years old she was diagnosed with Juvenile Rhumatiod Arthritis , often I had to carry her because she couldn't walk in the morning to get out of bed . As far as operations she has had 4 all together . Her last one was when she was 18 years old and had a total hip replacement . I know how you are feeling , and the worry you are dealing with . You feel helpless when your baby is hurting , and feeling helpless is the worse feeling . When I feel helpless that is when Faith steps in . I put it in Gods hands . and he hasn't failed me yet. Say a prayer for that baby , and for strengh for yourself . At 6 months she won't even know what's happening , soon she will be home safe and sound with mommy again . She is going to be just fine Anora