What do you dislike in People?

@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
March 18, 2009 8:05am CST
There sure is something in a person character that puts you off. Everything in that person draws you to him/her but due to his over obsessiveness and jealousy can be a great hindrance in an otherwise healthy relationship. Yes, jealousy! This is a trait I've come across in many people. It bugs me because there shouldn't be any reason to be jealous, be it in work or love. We should always be confident when it comes to relationship. I am the least jealous woman. I don't have the problem with him admiring or talking to a hot chick because at the end of the day he comes home with me!
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@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I really really dislike people who are fake or are trying to be someone they aren't. I feel like you should be who you are and be proud of it.
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@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I agree with that. It has taken me a while to be comfortable with who I am.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I agree! and if you're not proud of it, then maybe that's not really who you are...? I wonder that sometimes about people who seem almost at unease in their own skin. Sad.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
19 Mar 09
boasrtful and aggressive people put me off to the extent that i will not stay in a conversation with them blessed be
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
I feel the same with you.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
20 Mar 09
Well, for me, it is snobbishness and arrogance. Some people are just so snobbish, they really do not know that they are stepping on the toes of the people around them. They are so full of themselves, they think the world revolves around them and not the other way around. I try to avoid these people as much as possible!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
snobbishness and arrogance is a taboo to me too. I refrain from associating myself with such kind of people. Thanks for coming to my post.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
23 Mar 09
you are most welcomed my friend!
• United States
29 Mar 09
I hate liars and people who think they are better than everyone
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
30 Mar 09
Liars are people who lack self confidence. They lie to get attention.
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• United States
30 Mar 09
I totally agree.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I hate lying.. I think that I have to say that if someone lies to me I lose all faith and trust in them and so there for lying is the worst thing someone can do.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 09
They are many people who lie just to gain attention.
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• United States
27 Mar 09
and they aren't worth the breath they use to speak.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
26 Mar 09
That's a very healthy attitude. Unfortunately there are not many women who can do that. I have rarely been jealous myself. I always figured that if my man wanted someone else my objecting wasn't going to change that, and anyway if he was the kind to sleep around he wasn't worth my time anyway.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 09
My experience in life has taught me to be patient and my maturity has mellowed me down and to accept the true nature of men.
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@savak03 (6684)
• United States
27 Mar 09
and women, right?
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Mar 09
Yes, when people become jealous of me, I do not like that. Me talking to a woman (even if known to me) and my better half getting jealous of me, makes me feel uncomfortable, because when the feeling of jealousness enters in her mind, her attitude changes and she behaves in a unfriendly manner. I also do not like those person, who are not courteous or say kind and soft spoken. Some people speak and behave in a very authoritative manner and do not show any soft and mild attitude towards me (or for that matter to others), it puts me off.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
21 Mar 09
I agree with you.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
Jealousy is joy killers in any relationship. so should avoid that at all cost.
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
19 Mar 09
i dislike people if they are fake,rude and pretender.its just goes to my nerves.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
You are such a jolly good person and definitely fake and rude people are not your piece of meat. LOL
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
21 Mar 09
but all in all zandi depends the person i am with.if they are nice yes i am jolly person but if they are rude i am worst than that word "dare devil"
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@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
What ticks me off is the self-righteousness that some people display. I mean, wtf. We're all humans. You and I, we both make bad decisions. People like these tend to see only the bad in people. They have this superiority complex that yells "I do not make mistakes. Maybe you do, but not I". It just pisses me off. It just makes me red with anger when I am put down by these people. We have a local saying here that says before you point out the dirt in the face of other people, you should first check in the mirror to see if you, yourself, don't have any. Anyways, good discussion again Zandi
• Brazil
19 Mar 09
Yeah, most people tend to think they are better then you in some level. "We're all humans" as you said. i'd like to add something else: we need to accept others for who they are. Deversity and acceptance is the only path for peace. 10.000 years of civilization and what have we learned so far? not much really. We develop eletronic minds and think these are going to solve our problems. We are always trying to escape from ourselves but have we devoloped our minds? We still have wars don't we? So yeah, just accept me and accept you, thats the only way to end wars :)
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
Thanks kayedanda for your valued appreciation of my post. Blaming others for little mistakes they make is a sickness. Some people constantly have a critical vision and are always blaming, criticizing or having doubts about others. This fault finding nature is also like an illness within. It brings pain to others.
23 Mar 09
I can stand those who think themself high becasue they are rich ,what's more ,they are fake .They would show kind to you when they are in face of you ,but they would speak ill or gossip you from your back .I hate that kind of person !especially there is one in my relatives .When I met her ,what she said always makes me sick and disgust .Be happy ,mylotters !
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 09
Being rich but humble is appreciated but being bossy is a real put off. Yes, I don't like fake-ness too.
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@pmcepe (194)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
I would sum up the turn-off characters into "inconsiderate". Yes, inconsiderate people don't think about another's feelings..Like a person do not care if he smells.LOL. Being late for appointments, backbiting, etc., etc. If you are a considerate person you would not like to offend others intentionally.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
I am always a considerate person and wish that I have a good record in everyone's book.
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@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
15 Apr 09
Great to hear that you have such confidence over your man. Be aware, men can be very tricky, and they won't tell your the truth. Even you find a slight evidence, they could weave a story to cover it up.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 09
Actually men are hunters, once out of the house their sincerity turns zero. Their shotgun has already been loaded with bullets ready to shoot on the next prey. LOL
• United States
2 Apr 09
Dishonesty, fakeness, two-faced.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
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@punkster (52)
• India
30 Mar 09
i really dislike bad breath......
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
30 Mar 09
Yes, bad breath are vomit inducing and feel like telling them to brush their teeth properly.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I really dislike loud, boisterous people, zandi! There is usually one in every crowd who seeks to be the center of attention. A quiet, sober type of person is more likely to get my attention.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
Hi worldwise, loud? yes, they are these kind of people who doesn't need microphone they talk as if everyone is deaf!
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18 Mar 09
I hate people who are not open-minded- who judge and are snobby even though they don't know somebody! This isn't fair at all! I don't like it when they feel like they're always in the right and what they think is the truth and anybody who disagrees is wrong so they will look down their nose at them. All in all, I dislike narrow minded people !
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
I understand your dislike for people who are not openminded and snobbish. They are not very easy to get along with. They are proud and egoistic.
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
I dislike jealousy in people...i also abhor poor work ethic - you know the people who show up for work but don't really do their job (like sit and read a library book when theres a stack of inventory sitting beside them to receive). I also hate people who are clingy. Drives me nuts cause i like my space..physically and well emotionally too...i like to have me time.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
Jealousy can cause lots of problems in a relationship. They have been cases where couples split up because of jealousy.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
19 Mar 09
Hypocrites and double standards. Jealousy is in there too but after those two. That is something I wish more people remembered. If you're in a committed relationship, why all the jealousy? There is no reason for my husband nor myself to feel that way anyway, we are with each other out of choice. Other people really mean nothing, as far as the relationship. The most anybody else can hope for is friendship. *shrug*
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
You have put an impressive response here and am glad that you came to my discussion.
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• India
22 Mar 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I try to like people at first, but I end up disliking most people over the long run. It's partly because I'm a big nerd, and I don't usually have much in common to talk about with people. It's also because I've noticed that a lot of people just don't seem to be passionate about anything - there's nothing that fascinates them intellectually or emotionally. I find this unnatural and off-putting, to the point where I can't really deal with people like that. I have a couple of friends that I'm very close to, though. People shoul never forget, "WHAT THEY ARE". May God bless You and have good day.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 09
You are right, people should not forget 'who they are or what they are. I agree with you on that.
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• India
4 Apr 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, So nice of your comments. May God bless them and have a great day.
@csrobins (1120)
• United States
19 Mar 09
First I think a little jealousy is ok and normal. It shows you care or they care. Also I will say I am a very jealous person...it is something I struggle with and harms me often times. Not so much in teh love relationships...but I am and have always been very jealous of other poeple who are a threat to me like pretty girls, successful coworkers, and anything that I strive at. Not to say these are things I should even be trying to strive at accomplishing, but it happens when I'm let down my guard. What annoyes me about others is their inability to look beyond the surface, and think about deeper things besides the latest celeb news and what's fo dinner. How can someone not wonder more about the deeper cause and affects going on around them and their world?
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
Maybe you lack confidence. Jealousy can be considered a disease that licks on good people. Erase the jealous feelings you have and you will progress well in life.
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@csrobins (1120)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Jealosy has always been my greatest weakness-its been bringing me down since middle school and now its affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. Thanks for that thought, thumbs up