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@mamalovestoread (692)
Canada
March 19, 2009 4:08pm CST
Ok heres my delima! I have a horrible last name from my marriage. I also have two children that have his last name also. Recently we got divorced. He has nothing to do with the children and hasnt seen them since last june. I want to change my name to my step dads. My mother remaired a really great man that I consider my Dad! I want to take his name. Should I change the kids to his name? I really dont want them to have the name they have. What would you do?
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@daneg33 (1128)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
I never changed my name when I got married, but my kids have his last name. If you want to change your name, then go ahead. I don't know what the legalities of changing the kid's names are though, if your ex has a say or not, and if he would give his permission?
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@mamalovestoread (692)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
Hi thanx for your responce. If I had of known that I didnt have to take his name I never would have. I realy dont think he would have a say over the kids names as I have full custody and he does not see them at all!
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
19 Mar 09
When I got divorced I kept my ex-husbands last name to spite his mother and his newer wife. She was the mother in law from H&%* and his second marriage lasted only a few years.. We didn't have any kids so I had only myself to consider of keeping the last name or changing it back. It considered it too much of a hassle to change over credit cards,drivers licenses and other legal things. When my b/f and I get married he will be taking my married last name and it will be none of my ex's business what name I use or contine to use or give to my next spouse. If we would have had kids I would have wanted them to keep the same last name but it would be up to them when they became of legal age to change their name.
@mamalovestoread (692)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
Ha that is funny! My ex mother in law was also from the same place! She would be happy if we kept his name! I think she would be more mad if I changed it! Its cool that your new man would take your name. Its not very often that you see that! I have stated that I would never get married again. But who knows it may happen!
@littleone3 (2063)
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19 Mar 09
I don't think there would be a problem with you changing your name. I know that if you want to change a child's name here in the UK and their dad is still alive you have to have the fathers permissions to change their surname. They can take a different surname but on legal documents, bank accounts and passports etc they have to use their legal surname.
Not sure if it works the same way in Canada.
@mamalovestoread (692)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
Oh ok thanx for the info. I guess ill have to check with my lawyer first!
@Pleiades (846)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I just recently got divorced and am waiting for my paperwork so I can go to the DMV to get that name changed! On the divorce papers you have that as an option to have your name reverted back to a previous one. Now, for the children? I do believe you'd have to have the father's permission since it's his name on the birth certificate...I could be mistaken.
*Pleiades
@mamalovestoread (692)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
HI thanx for the info. I dont know if I do need his permission as they have no contact with him! Hopefully it wont be a problem!
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I changed back to my maiden name when I divorced my ex, but the childrne kept their name. I think it's all dependent upon what happened, and your reasons. You could always state it is for spiritual reasons and change them, but it is a long process and some paperwork.
Namaste-Anora
@mamalovestoread (692)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
HI I am def going to change my name. I want the childrens names to be changed because one I want them the same as mine. Also because the last name that they have is a horrible name lol. And I dont want to go back to my maiden name because its attached to a horrible father!
