What will you do when he/she tells you let's separate or break up?

Hi, Yes.It will be shocking indeed.afterall Love is TRUSt & that trust is no more existing.Any Lover will be shocked.But to know Why?What?etc will be quite normal tendency. Most of the cases the reasons are 'Silly' or'Just eye-wash'. I'll Give best shot to counsel/convince that together 'we can overcome'.But if I ultimately find that it was pre-determined, i will quit quietly.I cannot Love(by force),it's not my cup of tea.I'll cry,possibly scream...but alone..in my dark room! =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.

You should ask her if she love me anymore,if not,just let she go.If she don't say anything,that means you still in her heart,you need to find the problem what divided you two!Don't give it up easily!

Just like you, i'll be shocked of course.. i'd try to ask him questions such as why? are you seeing other girls? don't you love me anymore? what have i done to make you say that? aren't you happy with me? if the problem is with me then i'd promise him that i'll change for the better, i'll try to patch things up.. i'll try my very best to work it all out..

I will be shock too! with a big question mark (?) On the first place i will know the reasons why and what wrong i have done. I will let him speak the real reasons why and to convince me that i am deserving to left. If we feel both in love to each other then why to separate. It really hurt me if this could be happen... Hope not.! Have a nice day friend!!

first ill bring him to a peaceful place so that he can think a million times. ill ask him if he is sure about his decision that he wants to part our ways. and ask him is there someone else. If he will answer that he is sure that he wants to break us apart then i have nothing to do with it i wont force him to stay with me ill accept if what is his decision. It hurts i know but its stupid if you will beg on him to stay then later on you will found out that he is cheating on you. I'll set him free. Someone is deserving for your love. Love can wait.... theres a right time for love...

I was a fractious girl when I dated my hubby before. He had suggested to break up a while as he found he could not make me happy. At that moment, I was shocked, I asked every questions you wrote, and finally I found he loved me so much, he told me the truth that he was afraid he was not my prefect match, so I told him I could control my temper, I would learn how to do it. So we were together again.

Yes it will be greatly shocking if we love him/her the most, from heart and cant live without that person. I will try to know what's the reason behind it first. If she needs some change in me or is upset with my behavior and so want to separate then I will assure her that I will try to change. If she doesn't likes me anymore then for her happiness I will let that person go. I will never force our relationship on that person. I will try not to let her go but still wont tie her to be with me as love cannot be forced.

Well, I have been through that before. It's hard to accept at first but I have to really accept it. There is no point in sticking to a relationship if one doesn't want it anymore. I always let go. There was a time when it was me who called for a break up but the guy didn't like the idea. he did everything to iron out things but it didn't work out.

I am not sure what i would do... I would first ask them some questions and see if we couldn't work things out if i didn't feel the same way and still want to be in a relationship with them...but if they didn't want to be with me and then i don't know... i would be really sad and depressed i'm sure... and i would just have to deal with it and let time pass so the pain could heal and i would have to find someone new...

Hello n30wing! You're right, it's so hard to let go of someone you love but if that person is not happy with me anymore, although it's hard, I have to let go of that person. But first, I will ask the person first what's the reason why he wants to break up with me or are there other things I can do just to change his mind. But if he will say he fell out of love to me, then that's the time I let go.

It depends upon the situation bro... If he explained the reasons why he wants a split up., I mihght just let him go...

Well when the person is not intrested in the relation and want to break off, i dont think there is any point for us to be in it or try and explain him/her that this is not right what they doing.It is their freedom and right, they thought of leaving you because they found something wrong in you, just because there was something wrong in that person there was no cope up, or feeling left may be thats why. We cant nag the person to be with us, just because we feel for them, we will be forcing them then and this is not right at all. it is their wish completely to be with us or no. We can take care for ourseleves even after being in pain of being away from them, but we cant see them in pain and be happy too.

I am very shock when my ex tell me he want to break because have other lover.We have been together for 3 year.I beg and try to make he come back to me but fail.Then i found another love....

I will definitely talk to my partner and find out what is really bugging him. If he doesn't feel like it will work out or if he is not willing to work things out, then I would have to let him go. One-sided love is never a good thing for both parties. Either we do it together, or go our separate ways because the pressure is on one side and that's not a strong partnership. We should always know when to let go and when to keep fighting. Living in denial can be frustrating and unfulfillable.

Yes it will be greatly shocking if we love him/her the most, from heart and cant live without that person. I will try to know what's the reason behind it first. If she needs some change in me or is upset with my behavior and so want to separate then I will assure her that I will try to change. If she doesn't likes me anymore then for her happiness I will let that person go. I will never force our relationship on that person. I will try not to let her go but still wont tie her to be with me as love cannot be forced.

Yes it will be greatly shocking if we love him/her the most, from heart and cant live without that person. I will try to know what's the reason behind it first. If she needs some change in me or is upset with my behavior and so want to separate then I will assure her that I will try to change. If she doesn't likes me anymore then for her happiness I will let that person go. I will never force our relationship on that person. I will try not to let her go but still wont tie her to be with me as love cannot be forced.

n30wing, I do not think we should be taking such a thing at face value especially when it is being mentioned for the first time in a tiff but should be serious enough to recognize there's a problem for both parties to resolve. Hence, both parties must be mature and serious enough to sit down, talk and work it out. Love being mutual exclusive there should always be both parties facing the problems and working together to maintain the relationship. As the saying goes: "Love is not about looking at each other; but looking together at one collective direction" we may have our differences and imperfections but if we can both learn to accommodate and accept each others imperfection then I believe everything will be perfect between both parties. Getting together is never easy or a mere coincidence, though it may take a moment to fall in love with each other but it will take a lifetime to forget a person. So, we should always learn to love and cherish each other in this special and wonderful experience called relationship. Cheers.

Of course I would ask what's going on and why make him say that. Becaue there muyst be a reason for somebody to want to break up with somebody, it is not like I don't want vegetables so I will never eat it. And if there was really something wrong besides cheating, I would try to figure out and maintain the relationship.

I would probably hold on at least a first but the right thing to do would be to let go.