what makes you fall in love with somebody?

@jane9147 (252)
Philippines
March 21, 2009 2:02am CST
why do fall for someone? is it because of how the person looks? is it how much money that person earns? or you just fall and you don't know why? i still ask myself, why i love and why i have fallen in love with this guy. he's got looks but i don't think it's the reason why. i love him for no reason at all?? is that even acceptable? cause i really can't figure out what is in him that made me fall for him and love him. (note: we were never together. silly love. hehehe) how about you?
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29 responses
• United States
14 Apr 09
Actually, it's a mixture of receptor sites in the brain to pick up some neurotransmitter (I don't remember which one, maybe dopamine...?) and hormones that alter your behavior to become receptive to the male in the first place... it's nothing magical, it's just a chemical reaction based on what causes your brain juices to flow. Sorry if I killed the "magic" of "love."
@jane9147 (252)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
yeah, you really killed the "magic" with your response. hehe. it's okey. happy mylotting to you and God Bless!
• Indonesia
21 Mar 09
I think there is no reason for a person to love with somebody.Love is more than that.Love can touch anyone anywhere without looking where they are coming from, who they are and what they are.
• China
22 Mar 09
i do agree with you. there are no reasons for falling love, i consider love as a fate for each other.*_^
• Philippines
25 Dec 09
Hi there jane9147! I must admit that one factor I consider would be the looks. However, this is not my priority. What is important for me is that he is a good person. His attitude is definitely a big plus factor. Another thing that I find important is intelligence. I find it important that I can talk with him about things that really matter and to some extent argue on no-nonsense issues.
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Hey there! Yes, it is very acceptable. You love that person but don't know what the reason is. You just love that person for whatever he/she is. I too feel the same way. Me and my girlfriend love each other but don't know the reason why we do. That truth is love is the reason and there's nothing else. Have a nice day. Happy posting!!
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
It's an interesting question. I tried to figure the answer before. It's the same question as why do we become friends with some people and not others. I put it down to a certain chemistry, energy if you like between people and I would guess it would be the same when we fall in love there's that initial unexplainable chemical attraction because it is more than physical; we can be attracted to individuals but not necessarily be in love. What keeps us with a person and deepens our love for them are the compatible qualities that we value such as kindness, similar interests and values etc...
@Annmac (949)
23 Mar 09
I call that being 'in lust'. It's a purely animal response that we humans like to pretend we are above. Physical good looks and wealth are seen as signs of desireability. We want the 'fittest' parent for our offspring or the one who can provide the 'best' chance of survival for them! If you don't know someone and have never been in a relationship with them, you can't love them. We often say we love or hate someone who is a 'celebrity', but what we really mean is, we admire them or dislike them for what they 'appear' to be. When you've been in a relationship for a while, then you 'get to know' the real person, the good looks may hide a selfish personality, the wealth a shallow uncaring one, they may have 'ideals' you can't share, or compromise on, so you split up and realise you didn't love them afterall! True love comes when you get to know the real person and the 'faults' are over-whelmed by the 'good points'.
@Ygjack (27)
• China
22 Mar 09
I keep being single for a long time.I nearly forget the taste of love. I first fell in love with a girl happened in my high school time.She is a very cute girl,but I don't think that can be the reason I love her cause I didn't consider her as a very cute girl at the first time I met her.The point might be her character, which attracts me most and makes me feel her is a quite wonderful girl. Appearence comes first when he or she is totally a stranger to you,and then after you get to know each other,character become first intead of looks.I love someone means I love the time and the feeling when we are together.We know each other, trust each other,give each other confidence and comfort. But now I couldn't find a right person that we won't feel embarrass even we stay without a word between us. I am waiting my life for the right girl come along.
@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
i can't really say... but i am easily drawn to somebody who has a great sense of humor... that's an added points to me... but basically, i don't really know why coz usually, i just do... hehehe without even knowing... i don't really go for looks, and most especially not the money...
@derek_a (10898)
22 Mar 09
I think that is a question as old as human-kind. It is a purt experienceand this cannot be defined in words. It can be felt, but I would be hard-pressed to explain what it was that I was feeling, because it is so much deeper than the rational mind. Best just to go along with the experience and enjoy it.. - Derek
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
22 Mar 09
for me, it's how the person makes me feel. some call it love at first sight. others call it the attraction of the pheromones. to me, it doesn't matter either way. it's a feeling that only one, and no one else, can give me. material things doesn't, and shouldn't, play a part in love. love means being there no matter what happens. if one falls for looks, does it mean that the love stops when the looks is gone due to old age or accident? so i think it is just how the other person makes me feel that is important.
@net101 (157)
• India
22 Mar 09
This is a great mysterious question you posted. The poets, thinkers and philosophers have yet not gotten clear answer to this question. You know, this universe works on the law of attraction. Every planet is attracting the other and balancing the nature. Now straight to the answer. It is not money, look or riches that attract. It is one single trait in a person (male or female) that can attract the opposite at any moment anywhere. If the opposite likens that single trait, you become follower or you start liking him thinking that this guy has something in special which makes you attract. Thus the law of attraction goes. There have been many instances in the history that emperors wanted to make specific females their queen but they failed, notwithstanding all their riches and kingdoms. History is replete with examples that many rich and high class women likened poor fellows. So we can conclude that there no one hard and fast rule for falling in love. relationships develop like that. All you have to do is you have to be careful that it is not momentary emotion.
@iamsolucky (1242)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
i personally think that there is a magic of feelings why we fall in love. there are many good looking out there, and yet i dont think its a basis for loving someone. There are many who earns and live well, but yes its still the same, its not a basis for loving someone. There is a connection of feeling where the magic sparks in between. You dont want to go away to him or her, because you feel that the day and night is so special when you are around the person you love. You dont care how he/she looks, how much money in his pocket, if its true love you can accept him, although you also want to help him in many ways to improve himself. Not to totally change him/her, but to improve. The day i fell in love, i promised to myself that i am going to help him no matter what. Happy mylotting, Happy loving!
@marciascott (25553)
• United States
22 Mar 09
There has to be something that made you fall in love with him?
• United States
22 Mar 09
why does anyone fall in love? That is easy some fall in love because of looks, money but the real reaso to fall in love is what the person has to offer back to you if its love then that is right but if the other person can't tell they love you then you shouldn't be with the person. Its also how caring a person is from the inside out its not only about the outside but its about whats on the inside to.
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
Although at first you some description on your mind what is an ideal man/woman for you. In reality, only few things would follow, when you love someone you don't know the reason why. sometimes you wonder some people who are good looking falling in love with not so good looking maybe the inside of the person is beatiful.
@substance (588)
• India
21 Mar 09
How i wish LOVE was that easy to fathom then maybe I will know why I love my BF to pieces. I thought I was the only one to love somebody like crazy but I can see that lots of Mylotters are crazy in love too. I miss him when he is not there and when he is with me, I keep wondering why i missed him. Its a crazy world, dear.
@parvezjs (422)
• India
21 Mar 09
"Love has no reason and when it has its not Love" its a famous quote by someone I don't remember exactly by whom. Love has really no reason. Love is the most beautiful feeling in this world. Love changes everyone's life. Love turns a bad person to be a best one. It changes everything. When we fall in love we get a glimpse of heaven. We see love everywhere. To get love form someone we should first start giving love to others.
@ancy114 (102)
• India
21 Mar 09
hmmm even i used to wonder ...u knw wat buddy .... i fall in luv wid this guy coz i found a spark in his eyes... till these years i didnt find this spark in any bodys eyes... so i mean to say there s no reason for us to fall in luv wid somebody... only thing is once u find the spark then u'll fall in luv for sure... so no apperance,no attitude,or not even a kind heart s needed to fall in luv
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I haven't fallen in love but I wanted to. I have three suitors that are keep corting me. The first one is my classmate for 6 months. He seems responsible but no permanent job and not stable. I don't feel the magic for him. The second one is my classmate for 10 years. He is responsible, funny and dreamer and still virgin (according to him). Same thing, I don't feel the magic for him. I met the third in a website and we have the same town and we met. He is separated with three children and financially stable. I would like to try a relationship with him but he don't have time for me. Cell phone is the only thing that keep him in touch. I don't how to fall inlove. I want it all in a package.
• Taiwan
21 Mar 09
At the beginning of my hubby courting me, i had no felt at all.What i know is only he takes me very carefully just like my family member. After a long time,i find i can't leave him anymore,i feel very happy with him together. He is a nice man,and he can make me happy when i'm in a bad mood.Although there is a so long distance from his family to mine, and my mom doesn't wish me marry so far,we get married finally.