Should a teenage girl be allowed to spend the night @ a girls if she is bi?

United States
March 21, 2009 5:00pm CST
I recently started a discussion about my neighbors daughter who is 13 and her wanting to date. She claims to be bi or more so gay and acts and dresses like a boy. She says she wants nothing to do with boys. Ok thats not a big deal to her mother. The issue on the other discussion was should she allow her daughter to start dating at an earlier age because she its with girls. On to this topic. Her mom was talking to me more and asked if she should allow her daughter to spend the night at a girls house, who she claims is a friend of hers? Should she be allowed? Would she allow her to spend the night at a boys house if she werent gay? Nope! So should this be any different? Her mom claims at least she wont have to worry about her daughter (or the other girl) getting pregnant...but still. And next weekend she wants to stay over at another friends house but a girl she is interested in will be there too along with a few other girls. Bad idea? Or no big deal? I told her I wasnt sure on this one either because there are pros and cons for the whole thing....any thoughts?
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21 Mar 09
Is the other girl gay? I think perhaps she should give her the benefit of the doubt, because it's likely she has girl mates and it's not fair to say she can't hang around with them just because she's bi. Then again, I'm not a parent, so I'm less experienced with kids and decisions (:
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@TLChimes (4822)
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21 Mar 09
I'm not sure I would allow her spend the night out anywhere with how she's been acting. And I wouldn't want to tell her NO friends but I would be careful to keep an eye on things. Go to the get together and be home at what ever time.... That's how I would go. I'd tag it with a if you want more, you'll show me you can handle the responsibility.