what is considered as cheating for you?

Malaysia
March 22, 2009 11:15am CST
what is considered as cheating for you? kissing? having bedtime of course? what about thinking? is even thinking means cheating for you in a relationship?
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@Elegant7 (142)
• United States
22 Mar 09
To me, cheating is when someone in a relationship goes on dates (and kisses) someone other than the person they're supposed to be seeing. I think what makes cheating worse, is when the person who cheats doesn't admit that they're cheated. For me personally, I don't mind if a guy looks at another female. However, as long as it's looking and not touching, it's fine in my opinion.
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22 Mar 09
Well in bed with someone definatly. Kissing on the lips... Yes. A quick kiss on the cheek when meeting or leaving, I would allow my partner to do. Altho I do think I am quite strick when it comes to my partner. Altho I do treat her very well.
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25 Mar 09
I would say cheating is kissing on the lips. That is a no no. I would be soo angry, If my boyfriend slept with another girl, I would chop that thing off. haha. Things that shouldn't be done is talking dirty to other people or showing them your body either on cam or sending pictures. It's not cheating, but it ain't right. I think my boyfriend would even think kissing on the cheak is wrong. I done this once to another boy (only because he has never been kissed before). I didn't think my boyfriend would mind, especially because the guy is his friend as well. I brought the conversation up one day and he shouts "You didn' kiss him on the cheak did you!!? I would be soo angry" I was like damnnn O_O haha, But I don't think I would like my boyfriend kissing girls on the cheak either haha. We both get jealous so easy ^^
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
23 Mar 09
If thinking something is cheating then I think everyone or most people are guilty of this. I think that doing anything against your vows is cheating. Or kissing someone else, making love to anyone else, or anything that a person feels is wrong then it's wrong.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
Actually for me, thinking is not really cheating on your relationship if you're still single but if you're already married its spiritually does. Naturally we are human isn't it? Of course that's normal its up to us how to minimize and control it. I hope you got me understood..thanks
• United States
22 Mar 09
I am a little odd. I feel that my marriage, if I were to marry, would have lovers, But a boyfriend-girlfriend is totally different. Cheating to me is when a partner loves someone else More than his or her partner. They think about them All the time a. They may have kissed them buy it is the feelings being stronger than his.her feelings for their partner that makes it cheating. if they are just boyfriend -girlfriend then they should break up so he. she could be with the one they love.
• United States
22 Mar 09
i think if you do some thing that you dont want your partner to do then it is cheating
@Eweniks (362)
• Nigeria
22 Mar 09
Having bedtime with another person, ofcourse is cheating. Thinking about what? I don't really understand what you mean by thinking. Is it thinking of another relationship? well, in relationship simply means giving a false impression of one.
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
22 Mar 09
I don't think that thinking about someone is the same as doing something with that someones so it is not cheating. We will all come across some temptation in our lives but that is okay. It is how we handle them that is important. We are all human and will meet people in our lives that we are attracted to. But the test is if we can resist that temptation. I am 52 years old and have been with the same man for the last 13 years and I still have temptations now and then come into my life, but since I love my partner I don't act on them. I stay true to my loved one, although the thoughts have been there from time to time. So just stay human and don;t act on any of the temptations and you will be okay. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day, Chris
@savypat (20245)
• United States
22 Mar 09
If i was not sure of my lover, I might consider thinking cheating, but since I know he loves me and I him, thoughts that come and go are not threat. Think of how many movies you'd have to give up if they were.
• United States
22 Mar 09
I can't say thinking is cheating. We all have thoughts of others at one time or another. I would only have to say touching inappropriately. Like holding someones hand during a conversation. Or touching the inside of a persons palm. Kissing someone with your mouth opened.