married life

Philippines
March 22, 2009 8:28pm CST
if you are ready to marry him/her .. do you think your mother in law will like you? Because some people got a good mother in law..but most of the complain of couple is their mother in law....what can you say about your mother in law?
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@eagle_f15 (2051)
• Malaysia
30 Mar 09
My relationship with my mum in law is neutral - ph7. That's because she lives in another state working and has an apartment of her own there as well. She seldom comes back to our state and my husband and I seldom goes there as well. She communicates with my husband mostly through the cell phone at night. So I hardly talk to her at all. When she does come back to our home town which is seldom, my husband and I and his sisters will go out for meals with her and after that chat a bit. So there's no conflict between my mum in law and me.
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@samar12 (991)
• India
9 Apr 09
Its the same with me too. I live in another city now but for one year I stayed with my in laws and I should not be saying it but it was hell for me. I had a very bad year, almost the worst year of my life. I think the mothers tend to get jealous when her son starts to share time with his wife, I don't know if that's natural but I don't want tobe that kind of a mother in law.Anyways I have a long story about her probably I will take pages to write if I try to explain the situation, but I had a bad experience with her and she hates me. After praying so hard my husband and I shifted to another city and now I live a peaceful life but whenever I come to know that she is coming over to our place my heart starts to pain. She was here last month and stayed here for a month and my life was hell again, now we are going where she stays for 7 days in the first week of May and I am just praying to God that everything will be ok but my heart is paining.Anyways I guess this is life and you have your ups and downs. I feel those people are so lucky who are away from their monster in laws!!!
@eagle_f15 (2051)
• Malaysia
19 Apr 09
Hehehhe....monsters in law !!!....actually what you said about mum's tend to feel jealous because their son spend more time with their wife....I remembered happened a few years ago before we got married. My mum in law to be did got jealous..though no words were exchanged or any heated argument arose but when my husband to be,his sisters, mum and me went out for meals, I could sense the tension. I think this was because they were kinda close to my husband and then now a new girl is in his life and he is giving her more attention and spending a considerable amount of time away from home during the day - so I could feel the tension from the ladies of the other side hehehe! again no words were exchanged but the vibes were everywhere. Thank God all these vibes disappeared after we had our wedding service...and would return (the vibes) on and off. But now it;s been 3 years since the wedding service no more vibes. all gone !! LOL !!
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I've often wondered why some people do not get along with their mother in law. My fiance's mom, my soon to be mother in law is a good woman. Sure I've had times that I didn't agree with her, and even got a little mad, but that's just a part of life, and you can get mad at anyone or about anything. I am the type of person who looks to people for advice, and she gives good advice. She's never evasive unless she has to be, and when she is it's because she's just being a mother.
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I mean invasive, not evasive. Sorry!
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
well, i can say that my future mother-in-law is nice. she's really nice to me. she's cool and very accommodating person. i think she likes me. because if not i would have known easily , right? but then of course, i don't put too much confidence on that. maybe she's just like that because i am not still married to his son. i still don't know how well she is as a real mother-in-law. anyway happy mylotting!
@rsa101 (29007)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Well that is the most common belief that others do complain about. I really do not know where this belief started but I guess the nature of mother as caretakers of their children and since their children are being taken the adjustment period of that transition sometimes takes longer for mothers to let go of this responsibility she's got used to doing with their children. In my case I did live with my MIL and so far the conlfict was not really from me but they as mother and daughter was the one that always have this some kind of conflict and friction about each other. I really have to endure those moments and tried to support my wife as much as possible. My MIL somehow has kept her distance so that we won't have any conflict at all. There were times that she would side with me but of course I would side by my wife at that time.