On a date, do guys need to finish the food on their plate first?

@modstar (9608)
Philippines
March 22, 2009 8:40pm CST
Hehe, this question just came in after i had a date yesterday. So the question, On a date, do guys need to finish the food on their plate first? To the guys, does it bother you if she's done eating ahead of you? To the ladies, do you intentionally slow down to give way for him to finish first? Don't just stick with the question. You can explain further or if you have something to point out or something. Me? It doesn't matter. It's even better if she's done first because it could mean she enjoys the food.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I think that I used to think it's better for the guy to finish first but often times my fiance and I come in tied for the finish on eating. If the person who finishes first is sloppy I can see where they might want to slow down for presentations sake on the first few dates, but after that it's take me as I am, baby! lol! My fiance doesn't mind how sloppy of an eater I am, and I don't mind how sloppy of an eater he is.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
That's true. If you're comfortable with eachother, who finishes first will never be an issue.
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@CJscott (4195)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
23 Mar 09
This is a great question lol. Where does it come from? Is it traditional?? Me, food, if she beats me WOW. I grew up with a few brothers, and they would steal the food right off my plate if they finished before me and were still hungry. So, I eat fast like. It really does not matter to me. I can't think how it would matter to anyone, but it will be neat to know!
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Haha! Looks like this doesn't apply to you since you eat with lightning speed. Well if the lady happens to finish first that means she will be waiting and watching you eat. Of course it's normal but some may find it awkward or something.
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@carrine (2748)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
wow ur dating! LOOOL... well i dont bother if its me whos done first or its him,, i mean no big deal at all.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I date of course! You can ask me out if you want hehe..
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@carrine (2748)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
naks.! yeah right i know ur dating, and thats ur right. LOOOL
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
whoa...flirting time for modstar...nice one...
@Canellita (12051)
• United States
23 Mar 09
In my experience, men typically eat faster than women and women do more talking during the meal. It used to bug me when my partner rushed through his meal but now that is just one of the things I put up with. A few weeks ago I finished first and I couldn't believe it. I said something to him and we had a laugh about it.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I do take time to eat but if i sense that she's almost done, i catch up. I get conscious when someone's watching me eat. Lol!
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@Canellita (12051)
• United States
23 Mar 09
That is funny. I like to take my time and thoroughly chew my food so it will digest properly. I also like to actually taste and enjoy it as opposed to inhaling it, lol.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
23 Mar 09
On a date, if it was with someone I really liked, I usually tried to eat slowly so that the meal lasted as long as possible. There's a simple reason to this. Most activities on a date are done side by side. When having a meal together, you usually sit across from each other, face to face. The eyes are the mirror of the soul, and it's easier to study them from the front. Plus, you'd be amazed at what you can learn about some one watching them eat.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Hehe, that's a good point! I learned that my date separates the chicken meat first before eating. She hates mashed potato too. Lol!
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Hates mashed potatoes? That's different. What about french fries? And more importantly, she does like chocolate though, doesn't she? When she eats M&M's..does she chew them, or does she let them melt in her mouth? These are very important things to know...
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
23 Mar 09
You are to silly. I dislike french fries and I really don't like all that much choc. but I love mashed potatoes and baked. No french fries ICK.
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• United States
14 May 09
Hmm... I think it all depends on how nervous a person is about the whole meal situation. On my first date w/ my hubby I pretty much refused to eat, he convinced me. But being a bigger girl one can feel very insecure around food and first impressions on top of that no less.
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
21 May 09
Well i don't think that bothered your husband even during the time you were dating. He's even bothered that you're not eating.
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
13 May 09
Hmmmm, me? I don't really mind though whoever finishes first, I get to finish first sometimes and my bf finishes after, as long as we had a great time and enjoy talking to each other. I really don't tend to make it as an issue since it shouldn't be, eating is suppose to be enjoying what your meal even if it is a date. hehehe
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@sharra1 (6341)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
Why should it matter who finishes first? What if you are both fast eaters and finish at the same time? Who cares. I was taught that it is rude to eat quickly and to eat everything. Personally I think it is just plain stupid. A lady it seems is supposed to eat like a bird and just nibble at her food. She is not supposed to ever get hungry and must always eat enough so as not to insult the cook but leave as much as she can so she is not thought to be greedy and to keep her thin of course. All absolute nonsense. Of course a 'lady' is also supposed to be a woman who never works, is always supported by a man, and never actually does anything like sport or exercise or enjoy herself. Personally I eat the food I like and I do not care who finishes first. When I think about the meals my partner and I eat I remember that sometimes he finishes first and sometimes I do. I certainly never watch him eat but then we both either read books or watch tv. At a restaurant I am never conscious of watching him eat, I look at him when I talk to him but we rarely talk while eating as we are too busy eating our dinner. The same goes for when we were dating.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I would love to date you. Hehe, that's really, really true! Girls get hungry too and it's my duty at least for the night to provide her food. Just be yourself.
@sharra1 (6341)
• Australia
24 Mar 09
Well my own definition of a lady is someone who acts with dignity, shows respect for herself and others and is polite. Anyone can pretend to act out such a role as the one I mentioned but it is all fake and totally dishonest, a bit like being an actress all the time. It is not natural behaviour which is why girls went to finishing school to acquire such skills at faking this behaviour. I prefer to be honest and I cannot tolerate fake behaviour. There are people who believe that if you do not clean your plate then you do not like the food. If they have not served too large a quantity then I could agree with them. If you do enjoy your food there is no reason not to eat it all but eating too fast will give indigestion as you should chew your food properly before swallowing.
@guia10 (139)
• Philippines
22 May 09
Well modstar, you had a date yesterday?! Must be tough to be awarded as the MVF (most valuable flirt) here in mylot...LOL! Anyway, for me it doesn't matter if my date would finish the food first. I love to eat and I talk a lot so I can only imagine how frustrating it would be for him to wait up til I finish my food. :D
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Yesterday? I was at home. My computer is my date. Hmm, well if he is really interested in you then i guess waiting for few minutes won't frustrate him.
@kimutaku (145)
• China
23 Mar 09
ladies always stop eating if guys stopped first do you feel comfortable that someone staring at you when you are eating? the best choice is stop eating at the same time~
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Nope, i may not want that. I get conscious.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I actually don't care a bit about this sort of thing at all. I am a slow eater and I get full very easily. My biggest concern when out on a date with a guy that isn't used to me...I don't want to waste his money. I try to order small. I eat slow and hope that I can eat enough so that he knows I enjoyed it. Combine my normal appetite with nerves of a date and sometimes I really just can't eat so much even tho the food is great and the company is great as well. I actually am relieved if the guy needs a "doggie bag" also. If he doesn't, then it is always a good sign if he doesn't seem at all concerned that I didn't eat much. I actually prefer going "dutch".
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I would love to go out on a date with you too! I mean, no pressure. If you cannot eat even half of then it's fine. What's a "doggie bag"?
@darsa123 (36)
• United States
23 Mar 09
in my opinion, if she eats fast it might point out that she doesnt take her time and is sloppy, do you want a woman who takes her time and is delicate or one who scarfs down her food and rushes in every aspect of life? also, if she is done faster than you then you did most of the talking. yes she likes her food but she may not be interested in the give and take of the conversation. are you talking to much? maybe shes just a good listener. if you are both ordering plates about the same time and talking just as much and enjoying eachothers company you should be done just about the same time.
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Well i can't really tell. It could be that my servings is a lot more to chew on than hers.
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
never to finished yr food because its not good. Both should eat less bec its a date and if we talk about date , it is more on interaction not on food trip..
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
That's the essence of the date but of course you can't just ignore the good food.
@kekexinfeng (1303)
• China
23 Mar 09
I think it will matter me if they guy who I don't familiar with,when I first have meal with some one,if he eat quikly or so slow,then I will feel nurvous,I wish we can finish our plate at the same time.But if I am familiar with the guy,I think it doesn't matter if he finish his plate first.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
That's right. Just be yourself if know the guy pretty well.
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Hmmm, good question. As a woman, I would probably feel a little uncomfortable if I ate all the food on my plate before my husband finished his. Normally, I don't eat it all, but I will pick at it until he is done. I don't think it really matters, on a social level, I think it is more up to the people that are on the date.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Hey he is already your husband. I'm sure he wouldn't mind if you finish first.
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Hey modstar! I know that you probably know the answer to this question already! Most women will probably tell you that they will want the guy to finish eating first because it would not look ladylike for the woman to finish eating first! It would make her look like a pig! I think that if I saw that I was getting ready to finish before my date then I would definitely slow down on purpose too! It just wouldn't be ladylike to finish dinner first!
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Ah huh! It's kind of unladylike but some ladies might have this "accept me for what i am" attitude. Some men couldn't care less who's done first but just to be safe, it men should finish first.
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• Malaysia
23 Mar 09
I think the food in front of you doesn't taste good on a date. Your dinner date take the center stage during this time. The men tend to eat slowly even when they are dying of hunger and table manners are closely guarded. They want to paint a rosy picture with the ladies they are dating and most of the time it is conversation that control their time together. Well, for me I don't really appreciate a man who eats in a glutton way as if missing my presence. There is no way I can find that man sweet when he has finished his food even before I have completed half of mine. It is embarrassing to me and wish not to go out with him the next time if the occasion arises. In a dinner date it should be a fair play. Eat slowly, enjoy the food together while pouring your heartfelt feelings in a sweet and romantic atmosphere maybe with a candlelight. You are not against time but more on creating a good first impression to the lady of the night you are with.
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@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
That is true! Manners should really be taken into consideration. I think it does reflect the person's personality in a way.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
24 May 09
Wow I have been on so few dates that I haven't put too much thought into that. But recently I have started to do more dating and there was only one day that I was done first and though it really does not matter, I did feel kinda strange just sitting there waiting for him to munch away. I had a vegetarian combo plate while he had the buffet, so it is natural that I was done first. I think it really does not matter as long as we are both having a good time and the food is good.
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@jayrene (2712)
• Philippines
24 May 09
well, on a first date, i tend to intentionally eat slowly... because i dont want my date to think i eat like a pig or something... but i do really eat fast, a lot of my guy friends tell me so, sometimes we eat togethere during lunch (this was way back in college), and we get to finish at the same time... they said, wow, not like all the other girls, and my guy friends said, they prefer it that way as they dont like waiting. but on a date its different of course, you want to leave a nice impression so i tend to eat slowly, but when we've known each other for some time, the next dates would be my normal self... hehehe ... but not like i would rush eating... just the right speed, talking and eating at the same, and not eating slowly anymore.
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@zed_k4 (17619)
• Singapore
24 May 09
Good discussion here. Normally, whenever I'm out on a date, I don't have any preference as to who finishes the food first. I like it slow and steady or steady and rushed; doesn't matter. If my date could show appreciation for the food which I recommend, and by that means to finish eating first, I'll be glad definitely. What I can't stand are dates that are fake. Like they are hungry, but they eat really slow like waiting for the sky to drop on the floor. LOL...I like dates that are very themselves and not pretending.