Should you keep secrets from your partner?
By agmamayo
@agmamayo (804)
Philippines
March 23, 2009 3:51am CST
All of us have his or her own secrets in life, may it be personal, love, crime, riches or even issues of the past. When we fall in love and have choosen our partner for life, we all need to be an open book to one another, in order to know each other about his or her own strengths and weaknesses. How about your tightly kept secrets in your life, should you keep it for you only and not be know forever by your partner?. What do you think, will you share or not at all.
1 person likes this
5 responses
@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
A saying goes past is past, when you meet this special someone in your life, consider him/her a part of you, each should be open to one another, this is done to avoid or prevent issues that might become the reason of future disagreements that might lead to hurtful heart breaks.
Opening oneself to another is not easy at it comes but when the person's heart and mind is open to accept what you have done and who you are irregardless of what you have done true love will accept and embrace it. Your partner has the right to know everything you have been through, this may come necessarily at once but you have to be honest in a right time.
1 person likes this
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
for me, it is better to keep something for yourself. to keep the mystery of your relationship and also protect your interest. we can be open on the things that should be open. but sometimes, we have to distinguish what things should not be shared.
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I don't think I will have peace of mind if I keep secret to my husband (I don't know with my husband if he can keep secret with me). Before we got married, I have told my husband everything about my previous relationships and did the same.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
I truly admire you Ms. Doris, it is really important not to keep secrets anymore to your lifelong partner. Secrets sometimes are hard to reveal by ourselves alone, however with true understanding, and acceptance for what a person was before is a good thing. Honesty between couples is of great importance for a marriage to last longer and grow stronger. Paranoid thinking, jealousy and insecurity will readily destroy that lasting relationship if secrets are kept between two persons having a relationship. Being an open book to each other is a good thing to let you understand each others strength and weaknesses.
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
23 Mar 09
Yes i keep secrets from my partner.I keep secrets of those things and events which i think will be detrimental in the interest of our relationship.I avoid telling him the things which may become cause of conflicts and tensions between us.
After i got married i used to tell him everything related to my past but i found that he was not accepting the things in a good taste,so i decided to keep the things secret from him.
@reds08 (305)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 09
I will try to share everything with my partner..Whether is good or bad, but sometimes there's something very personal in our life which can't be told to anybody. For me, i will keep it by myself, sometimes silence is gold. But someday, when im ready with all its consequences and risk that maybe happen, i will tell my partner. And i wish he do so.
@agmamayo (804)
• Philippines
9 Jan 12
Yes it is really important to be honest to your partner and reveal all things about you, may it be good or bad. This way you can measure his or her weaknesses and test how far you accept your loved one for what he or she be. There are some secrets that should remain as is but sometimes secrets are revealed not by ourselves but by others may it be a friend or a relative, that's why it is better to be an open book to your partner and be truthful and vice versa. Thanks for commenting and sharing your thought regarding this discussion.
