Is it weird to feel this way?

United States
March 23, 2009 3:06pm CST
I'm just a young woman but for some reason for the longest time i've just been wanting a baby. I know that sounds incredibly childish because there is sooo much more to it than just having a baby. I even know that having a baby would mean giving up school, working constantly, and giving up most of my free time and so much more but still....lately when i've babysat for people i just feel so happy when i have the little ones to take care of and when they leave or i go home i feel almost empty. I often catch myself watching someone with their baby and feeling jealous. Is this really strange? Has anyone else ever felt this way?
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@daneg33 (1128)
• Canada
23 Mar 09
It is very natural to feel that way. It is instinctive, as a woman to have those feelings at some point in your life. It is your eggs talking to you. The thing is that you have to recognize that it is not the right time in your life (if it is not) and go from there. Other woman just go ahead and go to the sperm bank... LOL.
• United States
25 Mar 09
I know where you are coming from. I'm 19 and love kids and know how difficult raising a child is but still want to have a baby. I also know however that I need to wait. It is a really bad time for something like that to happen for me. Which is why I just try to get around little ones as much as possible.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
23 Mar 09
what you are feeling is normal, i think but there is so much more to having a baby then just spending a few hours with it while it is smiling. seriously, babies are hard work. they cry at inoportune times, keep you awake and more.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 09
You might like to work in childcare in a children's day care center. I love children and I am interested in education so that is why I am a primary school teacher. I hope that you will have a baby in the future because I feel sure that you will make a wonderful mother. Before then it would be great if you could find a lovely home, a great career and a lovely man to be the father. Pregnancy is a special time and you will enjoy that a few years from now I imagine. Good luck.
• United States
23 Mar 09
I've talked to a few girls that feel this way. I'd have to say it is natural...but same with a teenage guy feeling the urge to go to Wendy's at 3AM for a Jr Bacon Cheeseburger. My point is, just because something is natural doesn't mean that it's the right time for it. In my opinion, parenting is much more than just "having a baby", and the parents (both mother and father) need to mature before assuming that responsibility, and maturity only comes with time. I mean, I would like to get married someday. But I realize that to get married and support a family, I need to finish school and get a career. So yeah, sometimes I am a little "jealous" when I see people that are happily together (or sometimes I'm just disgusted if they're are going overboard on the PDAs...), but I just have to realize that that day will come, and I shouldn't rush it. Maybe that's something you could consider, that, yes, maybe you want to have a baby, but it's not like you have to have one right *now*. Sometimes I think that the maturity of knowing when to wait and when to act shows if a parent (er..soon-to-be parent) is maturely ready to have a child. Maybe the desire to be a mother could just spur you on to do better in school, almost like building anticipation. Just a thought from a nerdy 18 year old guy who's never been on a date.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 09
No its not. I myself am having the same problem as yours. I really like to have a child you see.
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