Bad In-Laws

United States
March 23, 2009 4:23pm CST
I just have to vent about my in-laws. I know a lot of people say they have terrible in-laws, but I really think mine take the cake! To start with the father-in-law... first, the man is sexually attracted to me and not at all sexually attractive himself. Not that I would do anything, but you know, it'd be a lot easier to swallow if he was nice to look at. And he's a pervert. He's tried to get me to sleep with him for money, and has even listened in on my husband and I. Yuck! But my mother-in-law is the bane of my existance! I hate her mostly because she treats my daughter unfairly. My daughter is her second grandchild, only by a few months. My niece gets so much love and attention, while my daughter doesn't even know her name. My niece gets a lot of toys, clothes, trips, etc. I don't want material things from her, but I want my daughter to feel loved by her family. She also takes every chance she gets to remind my husband and I that we are fat. Coming from a woman who goes in a diet the second she hits 100 pounds. Ugh! So tell me your stories... how bad are YOUR in-laws?
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• United States
23 Mar 09
Well, I can honestly say that I was double blessed. Try having to deal with your own wacky parents and then the in-laws. My only salvation was that eventually everyone passed away. I wish I could encourage you in some way. How about a moving van to the other side of the world. I remember the day I lost it with my mother as she lectured my daughter throughout the grocery store about how fat she was. Mom loved to serve every sweet in town and then give you a lecture about being fat. I love the happy place that I'm in now. PEACE!
• United States
26 Mar 09
Well, we are getting in the moving van, but only moving three states away. Good enough! Right now we live a state away and actually don't see them that often. Unfortunately, every moment spend in their presence is an eternity. In fact, I have to see the devils next weekend. But we only see them in large group settings. It didn't stop my FIL from grabbing my butt last time, but it also didn't stop me from elbowing him in the groin pretty hard. If my mom or MIL EVER said anything to my daughter, I think I would fly off the handle like you did. Geez, I got mad when my MIL made a comment towards my daughter (who doesn't like spaghetti) to the affect of, "What kid doesn't like spaghetti?" Well, mine doesn't, B-Word! Worst of all, we were going out to eat for MY daughter's second birthday! Thanks, to all of you, actually, for letting me vent. Greatly appreciated!
@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
26 Mar 09
LOL! That was funny to think that 'eventually they all passed away'. I know it's not NICE but at least that means there is an end in sight for people who are miserable. I would never allow a friend or family member to lecture MY children... cripes. And if they didn't shut up the second I started in on them, then they'd likely not be a friend or family member in my eyes from that point forward!
• United States
27 Mar 09
I think if we could solve the problem of bad relatives, we could RULE THE WORLD. LOL
• Canada
26 Mar 09
Wow, you make my in-laws sound like angels. Why is it that you and your husband put up with this? Does your husband know that his father has been trying to sleep with his wife? The worst part is that your daughter has to suffer because of it. I realize that most people have their favourites in the family, but to make it so obvious is a terrible thing to do to a child. They should all be treated equally no matter who was born first, they are still a part of your mother in law. Im sorry to hear it, you should be staying clear of people like that, you dont need them in your life, and your daughter definately does not need them in hers either. I would be afraid to leave my children alone with people like that. My in-laws on occasion make me angry, but nothing to that extent. I think that since day one I have put my foot down with them by letting them know that I am the parent of my children and they are the grandparents, and truthfully they have never really over-stepped their boundries, and whenever they have come close I let them know about it before it went too far. I think that In-laws are a big factor in their childrens relationships, they have a big impact on their childrens lives. I hope that you too can put your foot down and refused to have your daughter treated this way. Your husband should be stepping up to the plate and doing something about it for sure. Good luck!
• United States
26 Mar 09
The problem is, my husband and I deal with things differently. He ignores people who bother him. Ergo, we don't see his parents very often. Just a few times a year, really. But I am the type who feels the need to tell people how it is, especially where my daughter is involved. I have questioned my MIL to her face, such as, "Oh, I see you got Lauryn a cute t-shirt from the beach. Where's Sophie's?" She just stammers and doesn't have an answer. I make her mad the best and meanest way I can: by constantly telling her how wonderful my mother is to our daughter. Every chance I get I brag about all the fun things my mom does with Sophie, all the special time they spend together, and how much Sophie adores my mom, like wanting to call her every night and talk to her. That, more than anything, hurts my MIL to the bone. FIL is a totally different story. As much as I hate my in-laws, I have to respect that they are my husband's parents. He certainly wants to distance himself from there, but wants to do it peacefully. Since we are getting ready to move three states away from them, I think we might finally be making the final cut of the umbilical cord.
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@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Well it sounds like things are going to get better, jd. Since my MIL moved away, I don't really feel like I have to rub anything in her face, but our daughter has seen my mom and my mom calls her and sends her cards and gifts and we have visited. My mom is normal though, and sane, and she ASKS us what our daughter likes or needs and the proper sizes of clothing, and I would trust her alone with her too. She lives 2 states away though so it involves a plane flight for somebody either way.