How Do You Cope With Unexpected Death?

March 23, 2009 11:56pm CST
Sadly I've managed to lose someone I know every year since 1994...and it's now 2009. A few relatives, a lot of friends, every year someone, and a lot of those people were young too, between the age of 22 and 65. A few were older, in their late 80s, but there were plenty of young people. In an earlier discussion I mentioned that just last week I lost the president of my radio club, a very good friend to all who knew him. It wasn't just an on-line radio club, it was a FAMILY of close friends. We all loved eachother, and Brian took great care in keeping everything organized. We have others who will follow in his foot steps, but it just won't be the same without him. How do you cope with unexpected deaths? Sadly I'm getting used to the fact of it happening (I'm 27, and I've lost someone every year for FIFTEEN YEARS) but getting "used to it happening" doesn't make it any less painful.
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@winterose (39898)
• Canada
24 Mar 09
it is a process hon, you have to go through the grieving process, you do very well, you are stronger than you think. I thought for sure you would have fallen apart when mofar passed but you hung in there.
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@Chay428 (65)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I have lose my strange husband somtime of Septemper last year. It was a tragic one because I never expected him to do such things, he hanged himself. His family is blaming me for what had happened to their son. We are already separated and I have my own life with our daughter. I have a nice job that can support my daughter's needs. Don't get me wrong guys, cause everybody is blaming me fo this but they didn't know that out of my knowledge, he was living with another girl. I felt so betrayed at that time and I just happened to know that in his own wake. His family knew all about the other girl..AT that time, I don't know how I feel, if I have to cry or not or I have to hate him from doing that and now with another woman. Honestly, i didn't cry for the first two months of his lose, but after that I felt the lose of my daughter's father. That was the first time I cried so deeply and looking for an answer. Now, I fully accepted the fact that he is already gone forever.
• China
25 Mar 09
At first,I'am sorry to hear that.I can feel your feeling now.It's not a easy thing to get away from this kind of pain.It can only be cured with the time.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Mar 09
It really depends on who the person is. Now when it was Princess Diana, it hit me hard because I adored her and then I was angry. When it was Micheal Landon, it was hard to take but not as much as Princess Diana. Now that Patrick Swayze is so sick and I'm hearing he's worse off now, I'm heart broken over that but the past few months has sort of prepared me for it when and if it happens but it still saddens me. Other than celebrities, such as my fiance who was killed almost 19 years ago, that took me a long long time to get over. I don't think we ever get over it really.... we just move on with our lives but the event never really goes away.
@maeras (115)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Mar 09
It is always painful to grieve for unexpected deaths, but it's true that you have to let go and make amends of whatever it is that is holding you back. It may be that you have some regrets because of the things that you did not say. If it becomes to painful for you, just think if they would like it if they see you grieve that much for them. I'm sure they'll want you to live a happy life. Think of them and think of what they want you to become. Don't dwell on what-ifs and might-have-beens. Make them your inspiration instead.