Why do ex's hang on so hard and make people's lives hard?

United States
March 24, 2009 11:15am CST
I have noticed conversations about ex's doing stupid things like stalking and stuff. I don't understand it. The same happened with my husband's ex and she dumped him for a married man but when he started dating again she went full out crazy stalker mode. Why do ex's do this? It only makes the other person hate them and try to get away even harder. It makes them look bad. So why do it at all? I don't think it can be love. People who love you wouldn't want or shouldn't want to annoy you like that. Does anyone have an answer for this?
2 responses
@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
26 May 09
i'm a psychology graduate and based from what i learned and from personal experience some ex's do this low kind of stuff because the current state of their lives make them hang on to the bliss they once had which happens to be the life they used to have when they were with their ex. couple that with the personal sense of no decency and you have what you just described.
• United States
27 May 09
It was my husbands ex that gave us a hard time. I don't quit get it or understand it. I have also read many people's stories who have had similar situations. I have always wondered what makes people act like this or do these things. I know they just make their exe's dislike them more by acting like this but they still continue to do it. It is an odd obsession.
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@Cheryl_A (40)
• United States
24 May 09
I've been stalked and I've seen other people being stalked. I seriuosly think that those people have to have some kind of psychological problem or chemical imbalance. I think they are attention seekers to some twisted extreme. I don't think it'll ever make any sense. It can get pretty scary and you can't convince them they are doing anything wrong.
• United States
27 May 09
I have been in a situation like this but not with my ex. It was my husbands! It lasted 2 years and then we moved far away from the situation. But I found that it can get scarey and very annoying. I have never been able to understand it or what fuels it.