Dating - 17 and 19???
By crazyredhead
@crazyredhead (954)
United States
7 responses
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
25 Mar 09
ok here it is as a dad. i dont think i would have too much problme with it really. and i'm not going to use my son but my daughter, because i am way more protective of my daughter then son.
but if she's 16 dating an 18 yr old and he drive. it depend on him and how he acts around me. if he comes in my house for the first time. and yes had this happen.
he walks in not wanting to shake my hand, bad very bad. then he calls me dude, dowg, buddy, anything inproper. if he comes in and shake my hand and call me mr.**** good sign. or if he comes in and his butt is hanging out of his jeans, very very bad.,
but it all depend on the guy and if my daughter and him can follow my rules. knowing where they are going, who will be there, and get home on time.
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@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
25 Mar 09
It's nice to know that the age doesn't really bother you but who they are as a person.
@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I probably would have too - unless of course I knew there was a good reason for the late night visit. Like health reasons maybe. And you are very right about 13 or 14.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
25 Mar 09
oh but if my daughter say was 13 or 14 and wanted a dude like 18 or 19, it isnt happening.i would have to say as long its close to her age then its ok.
i've been through a few b/f i hated. even chased one away from here with a bat. show up at my house 2am he must been stuipd. lol
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@anomunous2008 (8)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Ok, you requested for me to come over here, so now I'm here and now you ask a question that I basically already answered?! Anyway, no in these two cases the 18 & 19 year olds would be taking advantage of the 16 & 17 year olds, respectfully. They are simply too young, and some people say that they might be mature for their age, but the truth in the matter is that they are not, if they are 16 or 17 they are too young, and they are being taken advantage of, because they want something that they might have never had, like if they haven't had any sort of relationship similar to the relationship that they are trying to get into, then they are not mature enough. Plain and simple, and if they have had previous relationships that are similar, then it didn't last long enough and they need to try to date someone their own age, they are just to young and inexperienced and this will make them more liable to be taken advantaged of, simply put It is never a good idea for those age groups to date. It doesn't matter that they are non-physical relationships.
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@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
25 Mar 09
How can you judge if they are mature or not? I know 17 year olds that are more mature than my 37 year old father.
@anomunous2008 (8)
• United States
25 Mar 09
You can't judge if someone is mature enough, that is why you need to wait, if you do judge and say they are mature enough, you may be wrong and things will fall short for you real quickly, and if you guys really do love each other, then waiting a year or two shouldn't be a problem, because then you know that it is meant to be if you show that you can wait before doing anything as little as dating even. The way I see it, you are allowed to be immature and the law protects you to be that way when you are under 18, but when you are 18 the law slaps you in the face if you are not ready for the responsibility, and then once you recover for the slap so to speak, then you are responsible enough to make these decisions, no sence in ruining what might have been just because you are being impatient with someone.
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@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Okay, I understand waiting to do anything else. But, if you know you're going to end up dating anyways - why wait if it isn't illegal?
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
29 Mar 09
that time i still shy to have a date.i started my dates when i was 23
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@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
25 Mar 09
What is wrong with these number? What is wrong with these ages? A 30 can marry a 19 still. As long as they love each other. I have no age difference opinion. As long as they love each other.
@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I completely and totally agree with you. As long as they love each other it should not be a problem.
@taki_takaishi (1279)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
For me, age doesn't matter. I dated a 15 year old when I was 17. Well, it was a friendly date for me I do not know for her. hahaha.
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@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I am 19 and dating a 17 year old but many people seem to have a problem with it.
@taki_takaishi (1279)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Well, maybe they are not use to it. But, I think it is okay for me. Just don't mind what the people say as long as you enjoy the date that should be fine.
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@erica1221_112 (275)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I started dating my husband when i was 16, almost 17 & he was 21, so i dont really see the problem with a little age difference. It's really only 2 years, my mother was mad at me when she found out how old my husband was, because i told her he was 19. She was ok with 19, upset with 21. Go figure. Lol.
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@crazyredhead (954)
• United States
25 Mar 09
My grandparents are 10 years apart. My mom and her fiance are 20 or more years apart. And my dad and his girlfriend are, again, 20 or more years apart. So this is why I don't see why my grandmother is getting upset over me dating a 17 year old boy when I'm 19.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
I guess age does not matter in the case you presented. The ages are not that far from each other and I think they could still find common interest with each other if you would ask me it can work out depending of course if they could find same interests.
