How do you convince your parents from eating unhealthy food?

Malaysia
March 25, 2009 12:44am CST
Just a few weeks ago, my parents' medical reports came out. Both of them have high cholesterol and my father's cholesterol level is actually way above the safety level. I am very worried actually and I told them to eat healthily. Less fried and oily food, more vegetables and fruits. Also change the cooking oil from normal corn oil to olive oil. However, both of them are pretty stubborn and my dad is actually very stubborn. He refuses to listen to me and always buys food which is high in cholesterol. That's why I need some advice here. I'm wondering whether anyone of you is facing such situation? How do you convince your parents from eating unhealthy food?
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@jeneias (608)
• United States
25 Mar 09
If I were you, I wouldn't convince them with my words. I'd convince them with my food! What you should really do is just buy healthy food, then go and cook lunch or dinner for them. But give them good, flavorful but healthy food. It's possible. Not all healthy food has to taste bad. Maybe that's what your father is thinking. He doesn't want to give up flavor for health. Which is still wrong, but it can be compromised. What I would do is cook a nice chicken dinner, with a ceaser salad on the side, maybe some couscous or rice and beans, with veggies like corn, spinach, etc. Season EVERYTHING! Salt is a must, on anything, no matter what. This is how I get my 68 yr old [stubborn-as-heck] grandmother to eat healthier, which even her doctors can't do! Try it!
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Hmm good suggestion. Maybe I should try that. Well, at least my parents listen to the doctors. LOL.
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@rockroy (65)
• Hong Kong
25 Mar 09
It is hard to change the eating habits of old people. It is better to cook or buy some healthy food for them what they love. I think what we can do is to supply rather than to stop. It is not an easy job. Good luck!
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Yeap, by supplying and maybe replacing some of the unhealthy food with healthy food, it might actually work. Thanks !
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• Hong Kong
31 Mar 09
I wish you reach your goal next month.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Well that is pretty difficult to do especially that parents have this kind of pride in themselves they hold. So now that we are capable of expressing our own opinion about them they simply feel intimated and that is where the resistance really starts with. I guess you will need lots of patience for that since its really hard to take care of parents they are simply not used to being cared for by their children and is as much as they can will try to do their old ways. Slowly convince them by example that is you practicing what you believe in eating the right food for yourself and slowly through them.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
I am doing that actually. Trying to be good examples by eating healthily and going to gym regularly. Seems like they are beginning to follow my footsteps.
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@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
I am glad its working for you. Of course there is resistance because they don't want their children to take over them. But with them aging they just don't realize that roles are reversing and we should also slowly make them realize that because all their life it was the opposite they were doing.
• United States
25 Mar 09
Trying to change my parent's habits? I may as well hit my head against a brick wall. What I can do is cook soup for them, which they love. My soup is good, also very nutritious. It is cooked in a crockpot from scratch using whole ingredients using stock from turkey bones. My mother's favorites are Lima beans with ham and split pea chunky style. If you can slip a few extra nutrients under their noses, it will help.
• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Well, my mum does the cooking and not me. LOL. That's a problem.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
Yep, that is a problem.
@kevends (47)
• China
26 Mar 09
I think you'd better tell your parents what's the truth from the hospital,if they do not believe the report from the hospital,you should try your best to persuade them to do the test again in the other hospital.abd gotta let the doctor to warn your parents some food are really threaten the health.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Some doctors are quite flexible and they don't want to tell the patients how bad the situation is.
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@seow227 (31)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 09
My fathera also have high colesterol and stubborn not listen to people advice. So i bid with him try to avoid eating seafood for 3 months and check the chlesterol level again and it works. Now he not eating seafood anymore.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Bet. I didn't think of that! Maybe I can try that.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 09
we are in the same situation, when we had a bloodchem the result was quite normal her sugar and cholesterol were normal. but the food that is provided evryday is quite difficult,maybe it is because it is hard to change the habit immediately. you need to be patient,at first it is really like that. You have to befriend them then tell them the possible consequences,you may also ask their doctor for help.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Sometimes my parents will trust whatever the doctor says and not a single word from me.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
25 Mar 09
Actually it is impossible. They will not listen because you are their child. They will listen to their doctor as long as he is older then they are. You have to do it gradually and convince them that the food you make is very healthy. It might be that you have to find what fruit and vegetables they like first. Maybe you should go shopping for them or invite them over and make your delicious food and maybe cook using olive oil, but sort of forget to tell them.
• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Good suggestion. I believe the passive approach is more effective than a direct approach.
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@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I don't think you can convince them to do otherwise. My grandma is the same way. She is not suppose to eat certain foods but she doesn't care. My grandma has good genes though. She is still around and she was suppose to start eating healthy 20 years ago. She is almost in her 100s and still eating bad food. I would just try to get your parents to eat less unhealthy food. Bad habits are hard to change.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Weird. My grandma is also pretty old and she insists on drinking sweet stuff. She used to prepare a cup of coffee for me and I couldn't even finish it. It was just too sweet for me. And she's perfectly healthy now. Funny.
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• China
25 Mar 09
well. it's always diffcult to persuade parents to change their manners man. the only thing you can do is keep on doing same thing that told them eat unhealthy food wouldn't do any good to their health. if they are n't healthful. you will face more problem and worry and care about them. this will bring you sorrow also. just keep on saying day after day. they will have some change step by step finally.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
I'm trying to do that. I know it's hard to change their habit but nothing is impossible. If there's a will, there's a way.
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• China
25 Mar 09
First,you should let them know what is important. The answer is doubtlessly healthy or life. Second,Eating more unhealthy food, losing more opportunities to eating food whether healthy or not. Third, the most obvious disadvantage of high-cholesterol food is harm to those who prefer trash food . it can bring many disease such as hypertension,heart disease,etc. just little tips,Glad that can help you!
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
High cholesterol is the cause of many heart diseases and our country is actually ranked pretty high on top of the chart in terms of the number of people suffering from heart diseases. This is due to our local food. That's why I'm trying my best to make my parents aware of the risk in those unhealthy food. :)
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• India
25 Mar 09
we cant convinve them,they will force to eat healthy food,but there are some techniques to use,we hav to find their weekness and praise them,and convince them that that food is very good for health.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
er...that sounds more like treating children.
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• Brazil
25 Mar 09
Parents always have a preffered channel they like to watch everyday. They're probably more susceptible to believe everything in this channel than others. So all you have to wait to see when they show something in this channel talking about the benefits of eating healthy food and make your parents watch! This is really the only way.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
My dad watches Sports channel and my mum watches singing show. Hmm, I wonder how can that help. LOL.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 09
The change should come from within. If you want them to change their eating habits better start to learn cooking healthy food. Another way is by substituting the "not-so-healthy " ingredients with the healthier varieties (for example use canola/olive oil rather than regular cooking oil when frying). Bring them more fruits and stop buying those food that you dont want them to consume. Show them you are into the healthy stuff and they will surely follow you. Also , tell them you love them more often than usual. It will work, I assure you, because they would want to live longer knowing that their children loves them so much.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Yeap, I recently bought olive oil to replace the normal cooking oil. It's quite expensive in my country, about 50-80% more expensive but I think it's worth it.
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@mhayfie (241)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
the question should be how can you convince your parents from not eating unhealthy food? by the way thats not the point...why not buy them foods which look like unhealthy but its very healthy its just a copied look of some junkie but its made of very delicious and healthy food. You should show that your really concerned about them.maybe this action would somehow help for them to be conscientious and to refrain from eating to kind...Atleast once and a time offer them this kind of food so that they will not crave for those goods.
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Actually your question and mine sound quite similar if you read carefully. :) Anyway, I do bring them out for some nice meals once in a while, but while at home, I will always make sure they eat healthily even if they are not happy with me.
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@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
25 Mar 09
daydreamer20, There are 2 areas where we find a lot of difficulty changing and they are our habits and our taste buds. I can understand what your parents are going through and for them to change suddenly will not be easy. Insistence and being pushy here will just not help one bit further here. I can understand that your task will be a mammoth one here as you are not the one responsible for the groceries and cooking. So, you may want to adjust this by volunteering for the groceries as a start, where you will get to decide and buy the necessary healthy cuts of meats, skinless poultry, lots of green veggies and fish. Next will be cooking, corn oil can be acceptable just be a little flexible here. Just tone down on the amount used for the dishes and it should be fine. However, I wonder how are you going to be in charge of the cooking lest you have other equally health conscious siblings and/or spouse at home to ensure and cook the meals accordingly. The other alternative will be educating them through attending health seminars, shows or talks and even healthy cooking classes organized locally in your city. These attendance will definitely bring home the message and I am sure that these mediums will certainly have same age group audiences where your parents can feel belonged and share openly without any generation gap issues. High cholesterol is a manageable condition and we should just take it into stride, be patient, tactful and pace evenly when and whilst we try to convince and educate our love ones, especially the elderly members where their habits and taste buds have been honed in for decades. Take care and have a nice day.
• Singapore
31 Mar 09
daydreamer20, Thank you for the BR here. I just hope that you will have a good start for the changes and that your dad will eventually be able to see the benefits and need to change. He will be quite difficult but I believe that given time and patience here, I am sure that you will earn dividends here. Take care and all the best here.
• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
I have to give you the best response for the amount of details you've put inside here. :) I do understand that it's not easy to change my parents' eating habit overnight. I'm trying to do that one step at a time. First, I told my mum who does the cooking most of the time, to cook more vegetables and less fried food. Fortunately she listens to me more than my dad does. Then I replaced the normal cooking oil and olive oil. And I tried to tell them horror stories about junk food like Pringles. :D Let's see how things go after 1 month.
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@Pleiades (846)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I'm sorry to hear of your problems. Several years ago, I was convinced more than anything that eating a diet other than Kosher was going to be the end of people. So, I tried in vain to convince my family not to eat pork, shellfish and other such foods. They thanked me (some not so much) politely and even more politely told me what I could do with that diet...in a nice way, of course. I tried gentle hints on how they'd live longer and stuff like that...nope...too stubborn. In the end, I gave up that way of life and am right along side them in the eating habits. So, I guess your best bet would be to either make those healthy dishes and have them try it. Even if they don't go cold turkey, one step at a time is better than nothing, right? *Pleiades
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• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
I think one step at a time is the best option right now. Nobody can change everything overnight anyway.
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