grandmother's love is sweeter & tender than mother's love?

Philippines
March 25, 2009 2:22am CST
When I was a child i love to spend my summer vacation with my Grandmother in their province. It's not just because of the refreshing ambiance but mostly I love how my grandmother's took care of me when I'm with her. I terribly missed how she would introduce me to our relatives & to her friends. I wonder then why she's a lot different with my mother. When my sister gave birth to thier 1st grandchild, i found the answer. I'm starting to see my grandmother's attitude with my mom. Now that I'm a mother already I understand why they were like that to their grandchildren. Being a human we cannot really do all the stuff we need to fulfill specially on raising our children. And there is this saying, "Theres always a second chance." I believe that grandparents are just doing their unfinished task by simply giving their cute grandchildren the things they considered they haven't done to their children. What do you think?
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27 Mar 09
I am the mother of a boy and and a girl.now they are just married .When they were kids my mother used to dote on them.She used to give them the food that they loved ,buy them pretty dresses and toys,take them out to temples and so on.When i used to find fault with my kids she uesd to pacify me and take up for the children .But when i was i dont remember my mother being so .May be she was too busy with her household chores to spend time with me .Of course she used to be a good mom-no qualms about it .But now with her grand children she is over passionate .Even now although she is 84 years and very weak she still thinks about them and asks about them.
• United States
27 Mar 09
sounds like you may know what your talking about I just wish my kids grandmother would over due it with my kids soo much. At times i feel like i am being replaced..she must have a lot of mistakes to redo because she goes overboard..
• Indonesia
25 Mar 09
I am a mother myself, so I can understand the situation. My mom seem always has the energy to treat my daughter better than me. But I don't think that is because my mom liked to have a second chance. I think, the elder people tend to miss the presence of little children around. And they have more energy and spirit if they saw their grandchildren.
@momoftwo (94)
• United States
25 Mar 09
There is no replacing a grandmother's or grandfather's love. We as parents, have to do all the day the day things to nourish and protect our kids, keep up with the house and the yard, take care of the pets, find a way to pay the bills and still keep our relationship with our husband on fire. Grandparents are past that. They have learned to simplify things and focus on the present and just "being" with the ones in front of them. AND not to mention.. they know they can send them back LOL I think a lot of us try to be the super hero and do everything. Even the things other people will most likely not notice. We would all be better off if we tried to sit back and enjoy the simple things God has already given us.. and truly enjoy each other. Our children will benefit from it and learn to respect life more and realize that just because the sun sets and rises every day, doesn't mean you get the same view. God provides us a different sun set/ sun rise every day, with different colors and settings each time. God Bless
• India
25 Mar 09
Well, i guess so...well i am not sure i agree with your justification...but i can see my momz love is sweeter and tender than mine towards my baby boy!! I absolutely love my son, but when compared to the care and affection my mom shows towards him, i feel like i cannot match it up....
@srganesh (6348)
• India
25 Mar 09
Obsolutely correct!As a mother they have to be strict apart from showering love.And there is this strict attitude more when you start going to schools.Then they have to fight with you to learn,eat,dress,etc,etc....They are keen to grow you to be a good human.Love is not enough and they have to spare the rod more for it.With grand children,they have no worries and they pour out their love with full heart.We can count that love for us.Cheers!