How do you live with someone that screams all the time?

@blion23 (403)
United States
March 25, 2009 3:29pm CST
I am currently living with a roommate that is always yelling at me about the stupidest things. I mean when I ask him something, he says that I am yelling at him, he yells and screams at me back. Has anyone else ever had a problem similar to this and how do you deal with it?
5 responses
@shay3434 (881)
• Israel
25 Mar 09
Hello! I'm sorry that your roommate screams at you like that. I think he shouldn't do that and it is very rude! I don't believe people should scream at all. It's not good. Everyone should talk nicely and politly because this is much more pleasant for eveerybody. In my opinion. if he yells at you so much and you just can't stand it- you should move awy or make him move away. I don't think it is healthy for you to live under this pressure and when people yell at you. Try to explain him that if he doesn't stop with this kind of behavior you won't live together anymore. Try to tell him about you felings and tell him he most stop screaming at you. I wish you good luck and have a wonderful day.
@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Actually, my husband yells about everything too. I usually yell right back now, but at first I wasn't sure how to deal with it. When he started yelling at my children for no reason whatsoever (he yells when they talk at dinner, he yells if he can't hear the tv, he yells, and yells, and yells), I started going off. I told him that if he can't have a normal conversation with them, he needed to not talk to them at all. I told him if he spent more time with them they'd probably not be nearly as irritating trying to get his attention. As to your roommate, I understand that you need one, but maybe you could try to find a different one if his yelling at you bothers you that much.
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Well I am not sure why are you roomates or how much time you must spend together in your aparment or home, who has the lease or on whose name the rent is, but try to talk things over with him for at least one time and if the screaming levels do not go down, either look for another room or another roommate.
• United States
25 Mar 09
I think it is time you find a new roommate, your relationship does not seen to healthy. You deserve better than that time to get out or kick your roomate out.
• United States
25 Mar 09
I used to have this problem and honestly, the best way to deal with it is to leave the situation. You can compromise yourself emotionally and continue living there and deal with the backlash, or you can change your situation to fully restore peace in your environment. If there's no way for you to leave the situation, then you can remain passive in your interactions with him, even tell him you won't speak to him until he calms down and speaks to you like a human being. Sometimes there are influences affecting a person that go unseen, and they end up taking it out on someone else, and hurting this person by exchanging their negative energy with them. You can make the conscious decision to not take on their negative energy, and even though the yelling probably won't stop, at least you won't be affected by it.