What do you prefer a civil wedding or a church wedding?

@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
March 27, 2009 1:40am CST
Well for me and my fiancee it will just be a civil wedding first. What is important is were married. The church wedding could just follow. Have a nice day to all of you!
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@neha2k94u (406)
• India
29 Mar 09
I would prefer a civil wedding too... Have a nice time...
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@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
For me as long that were married! It will be simple but happy sharing our life together. That it's man and wife for ever! What is important that the end is a happy ending between us! Anyway have a nice day to you!
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
It would be nice if we could get married the traditional way. If that was the case, it just means that we are really ready for that kind of relationship and we are stable enough to avail such an event in our lives. Then again, there are couples who really don't mind not being married but still have good relationships after many years of being together.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
I respect your opinion ratyz5, but what is important is you love each other, and a life time spending your lives together. Still I prefer for us to get married even it's just simple wedding in civil. That is just how much I love her. A contract that will show how much we love each other it's forever! Anyway have a nice day to you!
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@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
A contract is binding ansd it's an assurance of your love that it will be for ever. That idealistic!
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Hmmmm, a contract... well, I guess you can look at it that way but, its just a document anyway and true love is always unconditional. (^_^ )
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
I wish to have a church wedding as what my church firmly believes into but your choice of having a civil first is no less than good... I respect your idea for I know you knwo whats best with you two. God bless nad hope Ill be invited to your wedding and I will not decline if you offer me the role as an ABAY.... hehehe :)
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Hi my bro you will be there, and share the happiness we feel for each other, me and my fiancee will be happy seeing you there. I know that it's only once in a life time you get married. What counts is the happy ending of our life together. The church wedding will follow. What is important pronouncing us husband and wife that will share a life time memories together. Anyway have a nice day to you! Take care!
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Thank you... COUNT ME IN! I promise that... And I am really sorry for I was not able to attend your child's graduation day because I really don;t know the school and I am a bit confused whether its april 1 or april 3 which was the first date you told me. ANd the time as well. I was really waiting for a text or a message here... because I was so excited to attend and share the happiness with you guys. May God bless you two and your future matrimony. :)
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Although i don't mind civil wedding, as a Catholic, i still prefer church wedding. But like you, i don't mind if the civil wedding comes first. You are right, church wedding nowadays is really expensive. It would take a lot of preparation but it is really worth it considering that we only marry once. It's the most special day that's going to happen to me and my future wife.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
My friend modstar, it will be a civil wedding for us, as long as were married. What counts is that I can make her happy as my lawfully wife to be. It's how life will be precious to us as husband and wife forever, and a life that we will treasure a life time. It will be simple wedding but full of love that will treasure also with our love ones. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
hello! Well i prefer to have both. We are civilly married first then after a year we got married again at church. That was happened because my husband is ex-seminarian and teaching in private school during that time so their co-teachers and brothers who manage that school required us to get married at church. We both no choice so they helped us to prepared our wedding and within a month we have it. In our plan we're not yet going to a church wedding because of financial problem. We need to save first otherwise we are married already in civil and for me that's enough. Anyway friend if are planning to get married my advice is choose your wish with sacramental rites. Goodluck friend!!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
Hi my friend mods, I don't know but for sure it's a civil wedding first. I greatly appreciate your advice. But what counts is to make her happy the rest of her life as my wife. I rather spend it to our honey moon that is why. I know that will make her happy to be just the two of us spending time. I want her to treasure it the rest of her life. It wasn't that easy for her to say I do, cause she made a promise to her Mom that she wont get married. It was all her love for me that she wont fullfill her promise. Everyone was telling her you deserve to have your own life on your own now after sacrificing your happiness and we all want to see you happy now. She's one great friend to everyone. A heart that is full of kindness my friend. Tell me my friend? What counts is making her the happiest woman in the whole word and making her life complete. Have a nice day to you! God bless us all!
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
I had a church wedding. I love church weddings and love coordinating weddings too. Although a civil wedding is much simpler and less costly, we both wanted a church ceremony because we think a wedding is such a important milestone and wanted close relatives and friends to witness our union. We had a very simple wedding ceremony but it was celebrated with much love, happiness and memories. Congratulations on your coming wedding.
@Galena (9110)
27 Mar 09
but you can still have friends and relatives at a civil ceremony. just because a wedding doesn't take place in a church doesn't mean it has to be any less of a wedding. you can still have all the trimmings, big dress, veil, lots of guests, bridesmaids, readings, father giving away, speeches, a sit down meal, a big party etc, if that's what you want. my civil ceremony will be taking place beside a subterannean lake, in a cave that will be full of candles.
@Galena (9110)
27 Mar 09
but you can still have guests at the wedding, and still dress however you please for it. it doesn't have to be a lesser wedding. after all, if you are not a Christian then a church wedding will be a bit meaningless to you. surely non Christians can have grand weddings too. I'm sure some of the venues for civil ceremonies can be very grand. just as some registry offices (which would be the UK equivalent) are in very beautiful, grand old buildings, and some are in very plain buildings.
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
I guess this needs some clarification here. You see, in our country, when we say a civil ceremony it is something that is officiated by a judge or mayor in a judge's sala or the mayor's office. A church ceremony is a religious ceremony and it usually officiated by a minister or priest in church or some other place preferred by the couple. We had ours in a hotel. More than just make our union legal, we wanted it to be a spiritual union that is why we chose to be married in a ceremony that was officiated by our pastor with all the significant Christian symbols of marriage and our vows said before God and men.
@cuttyrish (2667)
• United States
28 Mar 09
wedding,,big word.. i do not have plans of getting married at the moment since i am still studying...i am told that civil wedding is much more binding, on the law.. it's not easy to get annuled if you undergo civil wedding.. i learned from one of my law subjects... either one is fine, but when i get married, i might like a church wedding, or even a garden wedding, or beach wedding....i do not like civil wedding, its to formal, and there are much people that can be invited on the ceremony..
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Hi cuttyfish, you made me laugh out loud with your comment. But I respect your opinion. But for now it will just be a civil wedding with my fiancee. As long as were married, and it's full of love. What matter most is the happy ending. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
i am not sure about other countries but i have been to a civil wedding twice and the ceremony was not solemn at all, you cannot even feel the effects of being in a wedding. church wedding still is the best.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Well for me it will be simple, but true with what we feel for each other.Church wedding can follow. As long that were pronounce man and wife. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
3 Apr 09
It didn't matter much to me, so long as I was marrying the man of my dreams. My husband and I got married at the county clerk's office, so I guess we had a civil wedding. As we are already married I don't see the point in having a church wedding. Plus church wedding can be quite costly. Why go into debt for it? I am happy enough with the wedding that I had. It may not have cost very much, but it was nice just the same. I wouldn't change it for the world, other than maybe having some pictures from my wedding day. My husband and I had forgotten the camera! But at least we have the memories!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
Hi sacmom your right I like what you said that as long as your marrying the man/woman of your dreams. Well church wedding can follow, what counts your happily married. You can have the grandest wedding you want, but what counts is the happily ending story of you both. Well thanks for giving me the reminder the camera, I'll even vedio it to treasure a life time. Even if it's just a simple wedding I'll make it sure, I'll make her happy the rest of her life being with me. Have a nice day to you my friend!
@Galena (9110)
27 Mar 09
obviously, as I am not a Christian, a Civil wedding. unfortunately in the UK the marriage laws are outdated, so there is no possible way to have a legally binding religious wedding for me. so I am having two ceremonies on one day. first the Pagan Wedding and then the Civil ceremony to make it legal.
• China
27 Mar 09
I wish i will have a church wedding
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
For me, it doesn't matter as long as we're married, just like what you said. But of course, I'm still dreaming of a church wedding. Never mind if it's just a small one with only our families, close relatives and friends. ^_^
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
I think anyone would like a church wedding, but what is important is you showed each other and make a commitment for a life time. But still a civil wedding is binding will and spending life together.Anyway the church wedding can follow. Have a nice day to you!
@tipay26 (867)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
Civil wedding is the wedding itself legally and Church wedding is a legal wedding too with the blessing of the church.Either way both forms of weddings are legal.But I would choose church wedding.Being a catholic myself it is necessary to be blessed on your wedding day because it is not only for religions' sake but by doing so we are placing God in the center of our marriage and that if God is present in us, there will be no any mountain high enough that can be the reason for our relationship to drift apart.The Blessed Sacrament will make our bonds stronger and that it will be a tool in keeping in keeping us close to our GOD.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Hi tipay, I know that everyone wants a church wedding, but we just like to get married and could bind us. Anyway God will understand us if we get married first civilly. It's the faith to God that counts a lot. God will always understand! Then waiting that long hearing the I do part.Well I respect your opinion.But we can't wait any longer. As long as were married, and no one could be against what we feel for each other.Anyway have a nice day to you!
• China
27 Mar 09
Civil wedding is also good in my mind.I'am always dreaming having my wedding in the church,with my families and friends' blessing.But getting married with the people you love is the most important thing.
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
I would prefer a civil wedding. Church wedding is flamboyant and impractical. There are many things to be prioritize so better save up at this time of crisis.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
For me it will be first a civil wedding. What is important your married.There is a ring that binds you a vow you will make and do for a life time. A commitment for a life time together. Anyway the church wedding can follow! Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Canada
27 Mar 09
Well right now common law what my relationship is considered in Canada. I don't think Ill be married by a priest, I think I will just have a small family wedding without a priest. To me its all about spending time together. We can't afford a wedding even if we wanted one. So one day a big party will be held just to celebrate our life together.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
I like what you said what is important spending life together for better and for worst. As long as your married that counts a lot civil or church wedding. As long as your wearing a ring and people can't ask you are you married hahaha! Getting married is a life time. What is important you prove that you both love each other and a life time commitment. The I do part hahaha! Have a nice day to you!
• Malaysia
27 Mar 09
I had a church wedding. As a catholic I think couples should go for church wedding as we all want our marriage to be blessed by the church. But there is of course no harm to get married in civil wedding. It all depends on the wedded couple.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
I think anyone would like a church wedding. Walking in the aisle. But now a days it's to expensive to have a church wedding. But for me what is important is proving that you love each other, and be married, no matter what people say your married. Anyway the church wedding can follow. Have a nice day to you!