On a date do girls like this?

@agrim94 (3805)
India
March 27, 2009 2:03am CST
I havent been on a date ever but i would like to know what girls like do the girls like a true gentleman with manners who would open car door for her and would draw back the chair at the restaurant and would be courteous or do they like a guy who is not like this and treat girls as like ok i get the car and u jump in?
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31 responses
• China
27 Mar 09
I may act in a good manner but not pretend a gentleman.All the girls just want to know your truth,considering your goods and bads,and then they will choose the right person to go along with.Open car door or draw back the chair,that the stereotype of the old gentleman expect for in the upper-class condition.You are in the everyday scene and you needn't to be that,let the driver or the waiter do this.But you won't act as when you are together with your male friends and girls like you treat them as a female.Let them feel themselves princess.Every girl prefers the love.Just give them the dream.
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Thx haohaoyes i would like to do these things on my own unless girl feels u know little bit difficult to breath by all the attention i give her and if she feels she doesnt like all this attention then attention would be taken away and she would be my princess so it is my duty to make her feel princess.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
23 Mar 11
Hi. agrim94. Yes, girls like it when a guy opens the door for her. I know that I do. And I don't appreciate a guy that just jumps into the car without opening up the door for me. If he does this, it shows that he does not have any manners for himself.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
23 Mar 11
And that he does not have any respect for me at all.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
24 Mar 11
Hi Cream, Thanks for responding to a discussion of mine and yes everyone should have basic manners not only on a date but also anywhere you go, you have to value time tested values and manners.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
27 Mar 09
it is hard to say, it depends on the girl, plus that question would be better asked of young people in your country cause different country customs do come into play.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
yes definitely it depends from culture to culture. thx for the response winterose i appreciate it.
• Netherlands
28 Mar 11
Girls want to be special.They want a man with manners. My man doesn't have to open/close doors for me....no he has to make me feel save. And not to forget fully attention, if you make promises you'll to fulfill promises!!!!!!!!
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Hello agrim94! If my date would be like that then it's a big plus for him. I mean, I like a guy who would treat me as if I'm special. I like a true gentleman who will respect me as a woman. But today, gentlemen are slowly vanishing.
• United States
27 Mar 09
well, honestly, there are some modern girls who doesn't like that..I know you know what I mean, right?
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
yes i know thats y i asked it here because i wasnt sure if my girl would like if i did it and wont run away feeling really that she dated a weird guy.
• United States
30 Mar 09
Yes i would like it...i would love to feel like a lady with a man who could protect her and fight for her no matter who is speaking against her
• United States
30 Mar 09
well then she will have to hire a body guard
• Malaysia
27 Mar 09
Do you still do that nowadays? I feel uncomfortable if I am treated in such a queenly manner. It is only seen in movies and not in real life. It look very artificial to me and wish to be treated naturally. Men who do that to their dates are over reacting.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
I intend to do it when ever i have the date. If my girl would mind it then i would expect her to tell me and i wont do it again. But i do want her to feel how special she is to me and it is done from heart.
• India
27 Mar 09
ya thats the spirit ,i like gls like wht ur taking abt ,they hav no attitude ,but i hate those who have attitude and want to be treated like queen .they r often greedy abt ur money .
@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
27 Mar 09
Hi agrim.. Hmm, well I think it's important to treat women with a good manner But you shouldn't push yourself too hard Don't pretend to be a "super" gentleman who always open the car door first or offer seat first, etc Because it's only an acting and it'll become something fake Such thing won't last forever, then when the man stopped being gentleman, the woman will be very disappointed Well I know some men were trying so hard to be gentleman, just to attract women But some of my female friends said that they prefer an ordinary guy, who was just an easy one to chat with and can make them laugh Manner is also important, but that's not the only thing that women would consider Just try to not become someone else, And you'll have a great date I hope this will help, Thanks .. !!
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Thanks unuzzz for the response and i dont know but i feel it natural this way and when ever i go out with friends ( not on dates i do draw out chairs for girls ) or would evenhold door open till all of them are out of it .. i dont know but it looks like my mom has installed this thing in me like you install a software in a computer.. but after last few responses i read i think i should ask her if she would mind if i do it because i think lots of girls are against this idea.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Manners are always a nice thing and any girl worth a grain of salt would love to have a gentleman open the car door, pull out her chair, use please and thank you, ect. Alot of men don't seem to have many manners anymore so it's really nice when you find a man that has them. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
28 Mar 09
Thanks twoey for the response. I certainly want to do all these things from heart and would like to make her feel pampered.
@regal_aeros (2605)
• Singapore
30 Mar 09
yes. i would love my man to have manners. and i would appreciate it if he were to treat me like a princess. meaning, opening the door for me, holding my chair, taking me into consideration and like you treasure me.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
thx for the response Regal and yes i am sure your boy friend does treat you royally. But i think these are small things which goes a long way to show a girl how important she is in the life of the man and how much he value her.
• United States
27 Mar 09
i dont like guys opening the doors for me UNLESS its winter time where i live.. the reason is because i get shocked by metal in the cold weather so yeah i wont have a problem then.. but during other times and the whole pull out the chair?!?! no.. not for me.. i just want to be treated equal
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
28 Mar 09
Thx for your response moonlitmagikchild. This was whole point of discussion that i wanted to know if girls like this or not and now i am sure not every girl would like it this way so the best way to do is let my girl decide if she likes it or not.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
27 Mar 09
It would definitely impress me if my date is like that---gentleman and all. I think any girl would appreciate such gestures if it comes from the guy's own initiative and he looks sincere about it. Just don't look so trying hard though. . Of course on the first date, offer as much assistance and courteousness as you can. That should sweep your girl off her feet. Like I said, be natural about it.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Well i asked because i would definitely want to treat her this way and i dont know may be on first date i would be nervous i am sure and would want to impress and might over do it but if it is first date of the girl too then she would be as nervous as me if not more i am sure so she might not be able to know if i am being natural or trying hard and i intend to do it on every date. I am sure she would see how special she is to me.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
30 Mar 09
Oh, I see. Good luck. I really think you just have to be natural, or at least try to act natural,and really prepared. The jitters are usually on the first date. Sooner or later you guys will start to loosen up and be at home with each other's company. Being too gentleman has limits too especially in these modern times. So don't overdo it to the point that you'll annoy her. Just always remember simple courtesy, and good manners. Treat her with so much respect.
@kiaza28 (25)
• United States
28 Mar 09
im going to get married on a couple of days and my man still do those things to me,he opens the car for me,and everywhere we eat no matter where he still move th chair for me or help me take out my coat if i have one. i like it so much,i think it doesnt matter what year we are or if you are in old or new age,its just show what kind of person you are,:)
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
30 Mar 09
best of wishes for your married life Kiaza, may your married life be full of love, understanding and it be very fulfilling emotionally, financially and physically too. Now about the topic yes a man should do it all the time because it would benefit him too because if he can make girl feel real good and happy then she might make him lot happier too:D
@blion23 (403)
• United States
27 Mar 09
Depending on the girl, yes girls generally like that. Girls like true gentleman with manners. However, the thing to remember is to not make them feel as if they are not capable of carrying on in their own life. Manners are very important to girls because it shows them that you will respect them and show that you are confident. I would generally go and bring out your manners on any date and change them according to your dates preferences. Good luck.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
28 Mar 09
Thanks Blion for ur response and i would try to be a gentleman but if my girl wont like it or would feel strange then i would not do it
• Philippines
17 Mar 11
Honestly, I haven't experienced to date with a guy and if this happens when we meet i want a simple style,i dont want treated me like a princes being gentleman with manners is enough for me cos i'm a simple person, in the first meeting date i want to know the real attitude of the guy thats why i dont like that kind of treat during dating.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
17 Mar 11
Hi rhizziel, Thanks for replying to one of my discussion and i understand you are not looking for a gentleman nor you want to be treated like a princess. Yes it is vey important to know the real person or what is in his heart . But would you like a guy who is showing his true colours and is very rude with you?
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
27 Mar 09
[i]Hi agrim, I just don't care as long as the action is sincere whatever will work for me. I had experienced in the past to date a very gentleman, who will open the door for me ect but he ends up to be a playboy..LOL! My hubby is not that gentleman but he cares so much my feelings and make me feel his love and for me, that is the real gentleman![/i]
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Thx for the response Checapricorn. I understand what you want to convey to me but we are talking about first date when you are getting to know each other and long way to go to know each other up to acceptable limits and not post marriage thing.
• China
27 Mar 09
haha,many girl have different thought.so when you have a date with girl you'd better know what she want.However,Mostly a girl like a true gentleman.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Thx lawrenceluo for the response and i do hope i would know but i might not know and then the trouble would start i know.
27 Mar 09
Ya I feel every girl likes a man with manners. She feels precious when he does so. Also if it is a first date she expects a gift or alteast flowers from the partner.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
28 Mar 09
Thx for the insight lovelyruth. I would definitely do it.
• United States
27 Mar 09
Manners all the way, but if you start off that way & you continue to date the same person, you cant slack off on the manners. So many men do. They start to get comfortable & out the window goes their manners.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Yes i know and i dont think i would stop unless girl wants me to stop or gives me a hint that she is embarrassed by my doing this.
@tontunan (254)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
As a lady, I like gentlemen but not those silent ones. I hate to accompany a silent person and also I do not like those who talk much. Just gentle, fair that we could share experiences, stories and plans in life.
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Thx Tontunan for the response and i am confused u dont like him if he is not talking much and u dont like the guy if he is talking too much. I am bit confused. How do any guy set the boundaries that ok i have talked 5 pounds of talks and no more or i was allowed 3 liters of talking and i am finished with it.
@airianne (50)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
In going on a date with a guy, some rules apply. [ladies point of view] Here are the ff: * You should not be late. * Be true to your words from the very first day. * Be prompt. * Be yourself. * Be honest. [if you don't have a car, don't rent!!! *_*] * Don't order pasta for meals [Messy!!!] * Wear comfy clothes. * Don't be Mr. Right [b'cause you're not] * Send her home on time. ***there are a lotta things you need to consider, Nevertheless, just BE YOURSELF!!!
@agrim94 (3805)
• India
27 Mar 09
Thanks airianne for the response . Are you talking about date for urself or your daughter as last rule says send her home means it is not for you and anyways if i have 2 cars and even i didnt have and rented then i wont tell her it is mine.. i might even rent good clothes if i dont have so that the lady doesnt feel bad and probably tell her at appropriate time hey car is rented.. just cant say this first words as soon as we meet hey this car is rented but i wont like her to walk so may be rent one if i dont have one.. I would like to wear typical mens suit with leather black shoes madam and certainly not pasta.. not my liking at all and yes send her home at time what ever her parents fix. certainly not a minute over that.