Catch 22
By charblaize
@charblaize (1026)
United States
March 27, 2009 9:49am CST
I have a little dilemna. I have a veeeeerrry hyperactive son who will be 6 on Easter. He has many appointments, school activities, and sports. At this time, I am going to school full-time, working part-time and wanting to be a part of all his activities. His father don't go to any of these things, especially 4-H. I am also now on the 4-H/purdue ext committee. We have moved into our place and even before we moved, I was contemplating getting a full-time job.
The only thing is: I should be starting my clinicals this fall. If I start a full-time job, I don't want to quit my schooling when I am this close. Yet, I know I may need the extra income than what I am making at my part-time position....
I also know once I start my clinicals, the school may help me find employment or many doctor's offices/hospitals will let me work with them if I am still in school. I still want to do these activities with my son also........
Any mom's out there have this problem?
5 responses
@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
27 Mar 09
My husband doesn't do anything with our kids either, and I try to do everything for them. I'm looking for a full time job, but have no one to watch my children after school. I'd say, finish school first, that way you'll make more money from the job they help you find. Hold on as long as you can, and be there as much as you can for your son.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I would be having a very long talk with my husband about not doing things with the kids.
Try looking at the schools for work, then your scheduals can be the same.
@Boofybutt (316)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I've talked to my husband, he got mad and slammed his bedroom door in my face. I've tried the schools, but the only ones looking for help are the ones that start and end an hour earlier than where my kids go right now. Thanks for the advice though, I appreciate it.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
27 Mar 09
It sounds like you have to many things going on in your life. I would suggest not working a full time job. If you have clinicals then you need to concentrate on them. If you need to work more then get a summer job.
As far as all of your son's activities, if they are expensive you may want to cut down on them. Have him choose one or two. This will help you save money and still give him an outlet for his energy. I personally do not know how you are going to all of his events and fullfilling all of your school and work commitments.
Remember that by finishing school you will make more money, expecially if you are going into a medical field.
I think that the bottom line may be that you need to limit your and your son's activities until you graduate.
@charblaize (1026)
• United States
27 Mar 09
all of my son's activities are free and are usually in our town. I have him in activities so he can "let loose" and get his energy out. like now, i am needing to take him somewhere........:))
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I just hope you don't put aside your education in place of your son's activities. Eventually you will be employed I'd imagine full time especially once your son is in school full time. And you are right you've come too far to let your clinicals get pushed aside now. Can you find another relative who would enjoy the time with him at these activites? Or if anything if your son has to not partake the activities in fall so be it... a few months break compared to risking your families financial future is something to consider.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
28 Mar 09
My kids aren't in school yet, but I'm in graduate school and my husband is in college as well. I think you have to decide what's best for you but I'd stick with the college. If you are this close it's not worth giving it up. I know there are days when you think how can you possibly do it all, but somehow you'll find the strength. If you can last without having to work, I'd do the best you can. Once your clinicals are over you'll find you can breathe again.
Namaste-Anora
@irenebelle (116)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
As a mother, we need to find quality time for the kids. But in ur case set the most priority u should have. One should be sacrificed in such a case you end up having to enjoy everything u wanted it to be.
