My best friend and boyfriend hate each other!
By Soteira
@Soteira (75)
United States
March 27, 2009 3:11pm CST
I need some advice on how I could fix this or avoid bad situations. Any advice or just your comments will be very appreciated!
It started out my best friend and my boyfriend were friends with each other. My boyfriend and I broke up for a few months and got back together but now my best friend hates him and he hates her. Her boyfriend and I are friends and are always stuck in the middle of their fights. The four of us use to be inseperable, we did everything together. Now that they don't get along its hard for us all to get together. I'm always stuck choosing between them. Of course, they are both mature enough that they don't come right out and say "You have to choose" but when there is two sets of plans for a night I still have to choose who to hang out with and I'm always afraid of hurting one or the other. My friends boyfriend and I have tried to get them to work things out and sometimes they are friends for a time but it doesn't last long. One of them does something that irritates the other and we end up right back where we started. Part of the problem is they are both grudge-holders, it is hard for them to let go so they always clash with each other. Another problem is they are both very opinionated individuals and they stand by what they believe in. Sometimes it is hard for each of them to accept someone elses point of view on a subject. We just can't seem to find some middle ground for this whole situation and it is really tearing us all apart. My boyfriend and I end up fighting over stuff involving her and its the same for her and her boyfriend, she fights with him over stuff involving my boyfriend.
It makes me sad that they use to be such good friends. I miss the good days when the four of us could get together and have fun, not worrying whether they were going to go at it with each other. She is also the one who introduced me to my boyfriend and helped get us together so it really confuses me. I don't know where things went wrong or why they aggravate each other so much but it has gotten to the point where it stresses me out so bad that I don't want to be around either one of them and I'm not sure how much more I can take.
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@agrim94 (3805)
• India
29 Mar 09
This is a real mess and can be really very very frustrating and all i can say is just dont try to be with ur best friend and ur boy friend at same time so chances of fight are not there , give some time and if they dont meet for say couple of months it would be good for everyone especially you since if they fight then u being common to both of them u have to suffer most.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
28 Mar 09
I think,the problem lies where you and your boy friend gets separated and united.In the mean time,your best friend could have taken steps to reunite you both and your boy friend could have told something wrong and irritating about you.Even after your union with your boy friend,your best friend,I think,is unable to digest those words.So,it will be better for you to avoid situations where both will meet.Time will heal all the wounds and you four will be happier as before.Cheers!
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@Soteira (75)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I never considered that, I'm surprised that slipped my mind as I have tried to think of all the possibilities for the issues between them. I will ponder about the time when we were broken up and see if I can remember anything that could have happened during that time. I hope you are right about time healing the wounds and us being happy again! Thank you very much for your input, it was very helpful.
Hope you have a great day!
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
27 Mar 09
I think you better have a real nice loong talk with them, talk to them seperately. then get them together to see why they don't get alone or why they don't like each other.
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