How would you react if your bf/gf introduce you as a friend, not as a bf/gf?

@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
March 28, 2009 11:16pm CST
My first reactions I will feel bad, I'll ask myself why as a friend. She should even tell her reasons first then just doing that on the first place. Why deny me as being a bf? If were in a party maybe after wards we can talk things out, then hiding it in the bush. If her reason is valid I will understand, but if not I rather just forget about the relationship. She can look for someone who could understand her more. Have a nice day to all of you!
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
I will extremely be SHOCKED! And I may just walk out than confront her at that point. I just hope to hear a valid reason if not... then I'll call it quits. :(
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Same with me, and I'll really be speechless! I don't know if I'll leave her that moment and just let her realize what she did. I don't know how would I'll understand her more. Will it be very easy for me to forgive her and understand her reason. I'll let her just feel guilty firt hahaha! Anyway bro have a nice day to you! Take care always!
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
You got a nice idea there brow... :) make her feel guilty. :)) You take care also and your beloved family. GOD BLESS YOU ALL
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Although I'm married now if my Hubby had introduced me as a friend rather than a g/f before we were married I would have been upset about it. It would tell me that either he was ashamed of me being his g/f or he wanted to appear single and available. Either way, it would be a problem for me. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
Hi twoey. well it happened to me before, that is the time that I realized that she wasn't meant for me. I just let go and move on. Really forget what had happened. But now I have someone to love and be love and she never introduce me as a friend. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
31 Mar 09
It depends on how long we have been dating. There has been a few dates so far and my guy introduced me as a friend and that is okay because we agreed not to put labels just yet because we are seeing how things go right now.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Well what if your a girlfriend and still one time he introduce you to his friend as a friend.How would you react? Will you still stay or will you forget everything and just go? But if were just dating, sort of friends with benefits, I think that is the time you realize a lot of matters. Like would I am just wasting my time. Where are we going? Would he love me? It's until when were like this. I just did ask this question. Please don't get offended. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
31 Mar 09
Hello n30wing! If my husband will introduce me to his friends as a friend not as a wife, like you, I would probably feel bad. How come he didn't tell his friend that I'm his wife? Is he hiding something from me? Is he having an affair I don't know and his friends didn't know he's married? I will ask him first why he do it and know his answer to me. He would rather make it sure that his answer is really valid or reasonable or else, goodbye..hehehe..
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Hi my friend aisaellis, well I'll really feel bad, and thinking it wont work for both of us! I'll be uneasy pretending just to be a friend to her friends. Maybe I'll walk out and just leave her alone with her friends. I'll just forget it was us. Maybe she will tell me a hundred reason but what for, what is she hiding from me. It's a big question mark. Have a nice day to you! Take care!
@jjrlove (24)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I would be happy cause then I would have a good reason to leave him well coming from a person in an unhappy relationship of course but let me think I don't get mad I get even so yeah I would get even first then leave UH.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
I like that jjrlove, that was easy to escape a person,specially when you don't feel anything. That was a hell of a reaction. What if your getting to fall for him, I would just leave that scene and pretend nothing is wrong, but within me I will not see her anymore. It's just I know were I stand.Anyway have a nice day to you!
• United States
8 Apr 09
The only allowance I would give my boyfriend for introducing me as his 'friend' is if we were playing a game where we can't say words that start with the letter 'b'. Lol. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship so that would never happen. Unfortunately, something like this does happen to some people. It just shows that the person who says it doesn't want to be seen as committed or he/she may not really care for the person that they refer to as 'friend.' I think it is a shady thing to do if you really are with that person. The 'friend' should leave that person alone and find someone who truly adores them.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
I like your response! Well precisely if someone introduce you just a friend, you know were you stand, and forget the person. It's just a waste of time, and your effort is just not appreciated. Better really look for someone who can adore you and not denying you. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• United States
30 Mar 09
It did bug me at first I told her to call me vessel, growth partner, anything but just friend. Because we could never that straight maybe that is why we broke up.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Hahaha I like that! For me I'll just won't pretend that I really am piss off! Maybe right there and there I rather forget that there is a relationship between us. Have a nice day to you!
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
No boyfriend or gf would be pleased on that case, it meant she/he not proud of you, but definitely there are considerations she/he might have in mind, the first reaction would be kinda frustration, but just let go on the situation at the moment. Just like yourself, I would ask her the reason behind her denial. Then I would reconsider her reasons then weigh it if I found something smelly, perhaps I would end the relationship.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Well I think you were right, I'll think she was just playing on games with me. Definitely she is not proud of me. I'll just let go then in the end it's my lost not hers. But I'll still listen to her, if it's not valid forget us! Anyway have a nice day to you!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
29 Mar 09
Well,there are places where we can't explicitly say all things to anybody.I believe there will be a strong reason for her to introduce me that way.And if I know,I really mean more to her,then that will not be a problem.Trust is important in any relationship.Cheers!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
My reaction will be speechless for sure. That will hurt me after all, I know the feeling should be mutual. Their will be reasons to understand, if it's valid for me if not. Well just to forget the relationship in the end I know I'll just be hurt. Have a nice day to you!
30 Mar 09
That would be it. I think that would really set me off. Depending on the circumstances, I would keep quite for the time. But it would defiantly cause a big argument.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Same thing with me that will be it! By that I know what she feels towards me and I was thinking that feelings was mutual. I'll just maybe leave right there and there and forget about what I feel. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@mizstress (719)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
awww! that would be my initial reaction and pinch my boyfriend. if he would change his introduction about me, i leave the place. i dont want to hear and i will never understand his explanation at this moment.. i need some time compose myself and widened my understanding before allwing him to depend such action! but whatever his reason, one fact remain he hurt me by doing that intentionally or not.. happy mylotting
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Well I don't want to pinch her butt in front of her friends. But for sure my first reactions will be shock and speechless. I don't know what I will do if I'll just leave her and get out, or pretend that I am just a friend. But for sure I'll feel bad. Cause the feeling should be mutual and not a one sided thing. I know that I'll be talking to her after and ask her what is her reason. If it's just won't be valid well I'll just move on then getting hurt in the end. Have a nice day to you!
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
29 Mar 09
It would depend on how long I have been dating. But like you over all I would see it as a sign that she did not take the relationship seriously. Which would mean that it would not last very long. Unless we were newly dating, then it could be a simple slip. Of course there could be other less obvious reasons, so it is definitely a good idea to talk about it with her first. Girls have many many secrets after all, I guess us guys do as well.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
For me I'll talk to her alone after introducing me just a friend. It hurts you know especially if your already falling in love. I rather ask her her reasons, if it's valid I 'll still go on, but it's not I rather not waste my time cause I know it wont work out. It will just be a one sided relationship. Have a nice day to you!