Have you ever had a friend who dropped you like an old sock because of money?

@inkyuboz (1365)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
March 29, 2009 9:20am CST
I mean, have you ever had THAT kind of friend who would forget about you when money matters comes in the picture? There are so many friendships which get ruined because of problems arising from financial decisions. Sometimes, people would do the worst things when the "tempting" smell of money is introduced within the relationship. So tell me... have you ever had those kinds of friends? Do share and we'll talk about it.
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@laydee (12801)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
I have a friend who did that to her a few years back. It was not a good thing to be in. They were tight friends for years, then they decided to put up a business, it wasn't a very big business but the friend put in more money that her other friend and the other friend put in more time managing the business. Soon, because of economic reasons their restaurant failed, and now the partner demands she pay back everything without accepting any kind of risk. It was their friendship's downfall there. My friend is still paying for all the money, she says she no longer explains that in business there are failures, just to keep the peace. They are no longer talking too. Whew, good friendship down the drain. That is why, we as friends always see to it that we don't touch the matter of money. Money isn't worth it if you lose good friends along the way.
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@carrine (2744)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
yes i encountered a friend whos like that, were not really the best of friend type, but i considered her as a good and close friend. honestly i dont want to recall what had happened. LOL
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@carrine (2744)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
i agree with you! well nice experienced on the other hand, because ive learned a lot from that kind of experience
@inkyuboz (1365)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
31 Mar 09
And if it's money that ruined the friendship, it's best that you don't remember it.
@snowy22315 (148973)
• United States
29 Mar 09
I think I have one of those kind of friends right now as a matter of fact. I guess that it is sad that soemthing like that would come between us, but unfortunatleuy I think that it will. I just wish that other people will come around and not be afraid of the lack of money.
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@inkyuboz (1365)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
31 Mar 09
Some people can be just too needy. They will try to use you and then discard you afterward. It is a sad reality.
@hotsummer (13128)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
of course. there are so many friends like that who will just be interested in what you can do for them. but i don't consider them actually as friends. i try to treat them as neighbors. i try to be good to them. that's it. i am not their friend and they are not my friend. as soon as i have found out that they are more concerned about money. cause friends will stick with us though we don't have money.
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@inkyuboz (1365)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
31 Mar 09
Just like that quote: "I'll rub your back, if you rub my back." Yeah, real friendship is hard to find--- it is a rare thing nowadays.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
29 Mar 09
Hi inky! Well, when I first became unemployed and I wasn't able to go out as much as I was when I was working it did become sort of a problem with some of my friends. When I would say that I couldn't go out because I couldn't afford to some of my friends got tired of asking me and did get kind of annoyed. And when I became disabled most of them didn't really ask me anymore because they knew that my financial position had only gotten worse!
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@inkyuboz (1365)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
31 Mar 09
Well, at least I'm hoping that you have true friends who stuck with you no matter what. Those are rare and I wish you well. A good friendship is better than money... That's just my opinion though, others may disagree.
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
Hi there. Well, thankfully, I don't have any friends who are like that - granted that there are actually only a handful of people whom I truly consider close friends. After all, my family is not really well-off to begin with and I don't exactly hide our financial status from my friends, never did. So, for example, when my friends would ask me to hang out and I'm a little under the budget, they'd understand if I won't go and some would even offer to treat me just so I could spend some time with them. So no, money isn't and shouldn't be an issue between friends.
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@inkyuboz (1365)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
31 Mar 09
My sentiments exactly. It's obviously a petty thing that good friends should know how to handle. It's tough when money comes between a really tight friendship...
@KrauseHome (36570)
• United States
30 Mar 09
Personally I think all of us from time to time have run across these type of people. They are Friends to you as long as you have money, and want to spend it on them, but then when the $$ runs out they are not there for you, or when they have $$, they never offer to help you or buy you something as well. For me, these are not really Friends a person needs, and I often just continue to chock them up to experience and wish them the Best and be on my way.
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• Australia
30 Mar 09
I have to admit that I have ended a friendship over money. This friend was always in some trouble or other, and kept coming to her friends to bail her out financially and emotionally. Though it was becoming difficult, I would have stuck by her, but she decided to declare herself bankrupt without speaking to any of us, and when I went to speak to her about it, she admited she did it so that she didn't have to pay any of us back, even though she eventually found a job and could have paid us off slowly. For me, this ended any trust left in the relationship, and I decided that I couldn't remain friends with someone I didn't trust or respect.
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@salonga (27786)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
Dropping me like an old sock just because of money? I'm happy I have never had a friend like that. Because if that would happen, I will not ever care and would even be happy that he dropped me otherwise I'd be the one to drop her. I never dream to have a materialistic friend. If money is the cause of breakup, I find it quite a shame. I've been married for 24 years but never in any single instance did I and my hubby disputed about money or money matters. Same thing with my good friend. Money has never been an issue. Maybe because I am very choosy with my friends. If I sense that this person does not pass my standard, I don't really make friends with him or her at all.
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@nurseia (40)
• United States
31 Mar 09
I had a phone put in my name for a friend years ago. It was called a courtesy phone. She was not paying the bill. I found out later that she had lost her job. Well, the phone got cut off and I paid the bill in full. No problem, at least I thought. A few years later, this same friend ordered $60 worth of Avon products for her and her mom. I never received a dime back and she stopped answering my phone calls. I thought we were best buddies. She would always do nice things for me and my daughter and lend me money when I needed it. Of course, I would always pay her back. I just don't understand some people.
@berrys (864)
• Singapore
30 Mar 09
Personally, I thank god that I have never had such friends who were money minded. I think the best times, when we meet our absolute true friends, are doing our school days, as thats when money never really popped into the picture. Whereas after that, they could be sucking up to the boss, or they pretend to like you just because their your colleagues, etc. Therefore children young and teenagers have to and should cherish the friends they make when their still at school for they will not find any more honest friends ever.
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@rymebristol (1807)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
no, and that's a fact. i and the rest of my friends are not that kind of people, we never judge people just by how our eyes see a person on the surface. if everyone had ever done such acts, it's a despicable thing to do especially that we are not from the rich families like the Ayala's. we value friendship and what it could offer.
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• United States
29 Mar 09
When I was in junior high I had a friend that no longer wanted to be my friend just because I did not want to start dating. I myself at that time I felt like I was not mature enough to go on a date. I was just 13 years old & I told her she was too young also. I did not start dating just because she did & then she told me she was no longer my friend. It hurt me really bad but I thought if she would stop being my friend just because of that she was no friend. She was a faker. I told my mom & my mom was very proud of me & my mom told me I was very mature for making that choice.
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@inkyuboz (1365)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
29 Mar 09
Ahhh, that sounds so sad. Teenage friendships are really fragile too, because most teenagers have no mature mindsets yet. It's a pity if you lost a friend that way...
@punkster (52)
• India
30 Mar 09
no never in my life....
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@chiyosan (30191)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
we should never really expect things to happen as we would want it to be.. there are many people who does value things more than friendship or relationships. Believe me, i have been in such a situation before and it was most probably the hardest part of all, that someone you thought would be helping you totally turned his back on you.
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@karbuks (270)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
i don't have a friend like that. Thanks goodness! but i know some people who would do everything just to satisfy their greed for money. when i say everything, i mean that even they broke a happy family or just do things that is below the belt already. They seem not to care. They don't even realize what the consequences is, by doing such things. i really hate people like that! they really don't have conscience. It's not bad to want money at all but if you're already hurting other people then i think that's the time i can say that money is the root of evil.
@sagnik42 (3593)
• India
30 Mar 09
yes i have a friend.no, i think i had a friend.i sold him about 15 dvds.he promised to pay for them in a week.well 4 months have passed by and he had not contacted me for once.whenever i try to call him,he cancels the call.it really hurts when you remember the wonderful 15 years we had been friends.
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• India
30 Mar 09
In our human world there are many types of relations between us. All the relations have its own importance...One of the most trusted relations of our life is friendship. This is the only relation by which one can live its life successfully because of the faith of your friend. But now a days there are many friends who makes friendship only for money.So in my opinion we should keep them out of those friends...
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@feepah (79)
• China
30 Mar 09
fortunately by now i've never meet a firend like that kind of,but the dafiting apart is common happening which result from other reasons,and it's what usually happened in my case.for instance the severe diffrence of the opinion is the main reason that cause the part,i think the most tight band between friends is the truely-heart treatment to each other.if money become the main problem that means there is no neccesary and meaning to stay together after
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• China
30 Mar 09
I think even the best friends money problem should be clearly divided,or else because of money problems willsooneror later,
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