Could you donate to someone so they could have a child if they coudn't?

United States
March 30, 2009 9:02am CST
Back when I was in Cailifornia I saw add for places wanting women to donate their eggs or get paid to be a surrogate. Everyone has heard of sperm banks as well. I know their are many wonderful people out there who want kids but can't have them. I just don't know if I could have a child out there and not know anything about him or her. I think I would always wonder about them. My husband said he would not consider the child his if he had donated sperm but I think in someway they still are. I know this is a tuff subject. I think adoption is different from this because their are some families who can't keep their babies and wonderful families who are willing to take these babies in as their own. My cousin had a baby at 13 she gave up. It turned out to be a good thing for everyone. Her baby got a loving home, My cousin got to back and finish school, and the family got the child they couldn't have. She had an open adoption so she gets photos and she has gotten to her child from time to time. It turned out to be a blessing. I know their are wonderful people who donate for others. Could you do it? Could you give that gift to someone else? I think it would be tuff on me even if it was for a good cause. What are your thoughts?
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I wouldn't be against it. In the past I have even considered being a surrogate for someone if they were unable to carry a pregnancy to term, but I don't know that I would want to do that any more now that I'm a bit older. Pregnancy is harder on you when you're in your mid 30s as opposed to your mid 20s, and I was really nauseated and sick when I was pregnant with my daughter 5 years ago lol. Donating eggs is not a bad idea at all, but I'm sure there are age limits there...
• United States
2 Apr 09
I would consider being a surrogate for someone elses child but I don't think I could give up my own DNA. I would feel to attached to that child. I would also wonder about that child or if I donated an egg I would wonder if I had children out there I did not know about. I know there are great families that would love kids. I think it would be a very hard a personal choice. I am glad there are people out there who help other families have kids. I know is a sacrfice. It shows a lot of strength.