Which is fair in love: Telling the truth or lying so the other don't mind?

Bangladesh
March 30, 2009 11:54am CST
It's just a simple question that came to my mind. Well i think everyone can have the answer to this question.lol When you love someone and if you don't want to talk with that person then what should you do. Tell that person a lie or will tell that person that you can't talk with that person now. Which one do you think is better? Well for me i think telling the truth is better. As for me i can handle the truth but i can't tolerate lie. And it makes me mad. And i am good at catching lies of those people who are close to me (Of course from their own faults).lol Handling the truth is more easy than handling the lie. And i can face it easily. But when i know that someone is not being honest with me that hurts me a lot and i can't think of what i should i do. Well that's me. What about you?
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21 responses
• China
31 Mar 09
I would choose to tell the truth to my lover! Only the honest is the pretext of true love
• United States
31 Mar 09
But, what if you did something "wrong", and that wrong doing could jeopardise the relationship? Would you not lie, if only a little, just to make the other person feel better?
• United States
31 Mar 09
Honesty is a noble approach, but what if there was something small, yet you felt that it was a risk to your relationship? Would you not hold back the truth just to keep a smile on that person's face?
• China
10 Apr 09
It doesn't matter. I don't think lie is a good way to solve the problem. If you tell a lie this time, next time when something change you need to tell another lie to cover the former one. Again and again, you think there are still truth in your love?
• United States
31 Mar 09
Not a bad way of thinking about things.. I feel, however, that if you're trying to protect someone from being hurt, then a little lie is nothing. The positive outcome greatly outweighs the negative, but like you said, that's just me..
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Yeah. Different people has different views. So others also might have different ways of thinking.
• United States
31 Mar 09
Oh, by the way, sweet Rock Lee picture. "I am the strongest of the Leaf Genin!"
• United States
31 Mar 09
Also, I think that it's very cool of you to ask such a question. To ponder so much on the aspect of lying to someone shows that your a good hearted person, and there's not a damn thing wrong with that.
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
31 Mar 09
Well, if I didn't feel like talking with my partner for any reason at all, I would simply say that I don't feel like talking right now. I think that it is perfectly OK for two people to not feel like talking. Or for one to accept the fact that the other may not want to at any given time. I would be one to just tell it like it is, the truth and not lie. I can not tolerate lies either. Especially in a relationship. Once we get to know our partner better, we can sometimes just tell, from their body language that perhaps they don't feel like talking. That's OK. Sometimes we just don't feel like it and there is nothing wrong with that.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Yeah. Your thought seems 100% fair to your partner. Lying is not a thing which should take place in a relationship. It makes things worse.
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
31 Mar 09
Lying anytime just isn't good. In a relationship, when one or the other lies and is found out, trust becomes an issue. I think any one with a conscience understands the ill effect of lying. It is we who must continue to live with ourselves even if our partner decides not to. On the other hand, although truth is the best policy, avoiding offering certain information can be helpful in some situations, be it with your partner or otherwise.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Hmmmm. You went too far.lol I had not this much in my mind when i made this discussion.lol
@camomom (7536)
• United States
2 Apr 09
If you love someone you should never lie to them no matter what. Lies hurt even if they are small one's. I hate liars.
• Bangladesh
3 Apr 09
Hmmmm. I also hate liars. But this changes when it comes her. Well she did not do this but when i think about it i don't mind it at all.
@camomom (7536)
• United States
3 Apr 09
If she loves you, she shouldn't be lying to you. I wouldn't put up with it at all. Best wishes to you.
@vworld4u (144)
• India
31 Mar 09
Well, Well, Well! I go for TRUTH! TRUTH may be hard to digest, but not an impossible one. Even it may end the relationship once for all (If your lover doesn't like to live with you for instance and tell it to you). But it is much more dangerous to tell a lie which may not affect you or your relationships for short time, but will surely affect everyday's life. Imagine a person who doesn't like to live with you, still stays with you telling lie that he/she loves you still. She/He is lying to you and your heart. That person never feels happy or satisfied with you. Differences raises every day and one day truth will come out at last. That day nobody will be in a position to accept the truth and life becomes too complex puzzle to solve. It spoils both persons lives! Truth on the other hand, creates lot of trouble for that time being, but over the period it assimilates and get digested. So it will end up in something good and helps a person to go ahead in his/her life from that point.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
At first i was about to disagree with you by reading the first line. But when i read the whole thing i agree with you. As for me i can handle any kind of truth from anyone. But accepting a lie is much more hard for me.
@vworld4u (144)
• India
31 Mar 09
Agreed! I thank you for reading through whole message with patience!
@hershiez (464)
15 Apr 09
Hi and hello there darksorrow! ^_^ As what the saying says: "The truth will set you free." Telling the truth is one of the best thing you can do to your loved ones. Telling a lie is like cheating on them. And also, telling the truth is like there's nothing to worry about. Happy MyLotting!
• Bangladesh
15 Apr 09
You are cute and i agree with you.
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
i was haunted with lies but i'm longing to face the truth because the truth always set me free, lies can hurt forever and truth will stay awhile and be gone afterward. i always prepare for myself in facing the truth because i feel satisfied on it. i like to handle the truth not lie. :) i'm also hurt when one tells a lie on me because i cannot lie i always tell the truth even if the risk is loosing somebody, i try to cover it up and try to moved on.
• Bangladesh
15 Apr 09
I don't know what i would do if the risk is loosing someone. It depends who i am going to loose.
• India
5 Apr 09
Telling the truth is better.In my point of view a person i loved so much if she was not honest to me i will speak straightly .. That your character is not well so keep change it .. SO it will be right ..I think so..
• Bangladesh
5 Apr 09
Well that would be a bad idea i think. This can make things worse. It's better to make her tell you the truth if you want to know that much.
@arshuuu (60)
• India
31 Mar 09
Telling the truth is always best in love...please try to frank with ur partner
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Well i am honest in my case.lol
@rakesh284 (1473)
• India
31 Mar 09
I think telling truth is fair in love. It is because if you lie and from some other source your partner came to know about it then he or she will get hurt. In love everyone should care about there partners and strong your base with faith in each other and truth.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Well in my case i can read the lie people tell me who are close to me. That works as a disadvantge for me.
• China
31 Mar 09
Honesty is important for all the people. It's the brige of relationship with others. No body likes lies, so do I. However, sometimes telling a lie can improve the relationship with others. I don't think telling the truth all the time can hold a good relation forever. Of course such a lie should be an occassional one and it won't break others' feelings. The persons who always cheat you are not believable.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
You got a point there. But when there is no need to lie then why use it.
@Cellyne (42)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
your like my boyfriend..hehehe. he had the same reason of yours and its true but there certain situation that you may choose to lie for the sake of others. it really depend upon the situation. Actually, i'm a professional lier but when i met my boyfriend i feel the most honest person on earth hehehe. i dont know if my bf has sixth sense or whatever coz he knows if im telling a lie or not that's why i'm always afraid to make the stories pervented like i usually do before. The changes happened very crucial but the result feels good. i had this 90%of chances that i'l be in heaven if i die..hehehe.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
I think your boyfriend knows you very well. That's why he can tell when you are lying.lol It is not 6th sense. When you know one person very well you can read what they can do or will do in a situation. Try it sometimes on your boyfriend and you will see what i mean.
@r0nwaren (39)
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
It's better to tell the truth all the time. Lies destroy a relationship basically "trust". If you have a feeling that you don't want to have conversations with the one you love it is better to say it straight. It may hurt but it's more tolerable than telling stories that aren't true.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Hmmmm. You are right. But to me truth is not painful. At least not till now. Don't know about the future but still i can say i will stick with the truth.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
31 Mar 09
What I think you are talking about really, is trust, If some one lies to you it is a betrayal or broken trust. Or they think you are not adult enough to hear the truth. I find it offencive when I hear adults telling lies to any one over the age of 5. Because when those children/ adults find out the truth they will never be able to trust the word of the liar again. This isn't just about what is fair in love but what is right in life
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Nah. Betryal was never in my mind when i thought about this discussion.lol I asked this out of curiosity nothing else.
• India
31 Mar 09
Well telling one truth is far better than telling whole lot of lies ahead. This makes your partner more reliable and honest towards yourself,make you bond better. So be true to yourself and others to make your life happy.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Hmmmm. I want to ask you one question. Did you sign up in mylot to answer this question? I can see you only made one post that's why i am asking you this.
• India
31 Mar 09
Me tooo... The same one if i dislike some person i did not speak with that person... They know that i not like them of my attitude... I will tell my answer in my attitude as that i don't like you.. I use hard words to avoid her...First i will give a warning and then i spoke to her straightly...So telling the truth is the best...
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Hmmmm. I don't like your way of telling the truth. Why can't you just say what's in your mind. Why you need to be ride????
• United States
31 Mar 09
Well, in my eyes, honesty is the best policy. And if it was me, I would tell the truth because I wouldn't want someone to say I'm beautiful but not really think that. No matter if it hurts someone, you have to be honest when it comes to relationships. But if it's just someone that asks your opinion about them, then you can make a little lie so you don't hurt their feelings or go about it in a better manner.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Hmmm. Well in that case it's ok. Beauty does not matter that much in friendship and totally does not matter in relationship. So there is no need to lie except when you are trying to impress someone with your beauty lie.lol
• Philippines
31 Mar 09
I think telling the truth is still better because when you have nothing to fear of afterwards when the person will discover.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Hmmmm. It is better if the person is dumb.lol Discovering the truth hurts more.lol
@emma1987 (107)
• China
31 Mar 09
I think u r right.but sometimes it is not very good for our relationship .some kind lie is needed in the identity situation, i guss.
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Hmmmm. I think everything can be handled with truth.
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
31 Mar 09
Hello darksorrow, When you love someone, you always want to talk to that someone. And, when that loved one doesn't want to talk to you, you will start to think negatively. However, if you are not free to talk, you can just tell that person straight forward. You don't have to lie. It hurts when someone that you love, lies to you. I don't like to lie and to be lied. So, the easiest way is to tell the truth like you do!
• Bangladesh
31 Mar 09
Yeah. Telling the truth seems helps people in many ways. At least there is less chance to get hurt.
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