If She's Gonna Trip Over It Then It Is On Her....Are You Kidding Me?!?!

Yes, at some point this woman needs to realize that you can't say whatever you want to people and not expect them to get their feelings hurt or get upset. My idea, I thought was a neat one. I do a "question of the day" at work and one day I had asked some of the men if they saw a rose and thought of me would they buy me one. I got so many good responses and I actually plan on writing an article. Well, I had won some money at work and one of the guys said, well now you can buy us a rose. So, that is what I did, I bought some roses at WalMart, only cost me $10 for a dozen roses, I had won $55 at work, so it wasn't that big of a deal. Now, I took these roses and I attached the quote that each man said to me and I gave them the rose that had their quote on it. The men who were married, I told them if they felt they shouldn't take the rose, then don't and the men who took the rose I told them if they felt like they didn't need it to give it to someone who they wanted to have it. I even had a few roses left over and a couple of the men took them to give to their wives. I hope that their wives were touched by them giving them some roses, even though I know I bought them, I know the men gave them to their wives because they were thinking of them and their wives should be happy about that. Maybe the idea was stupid and I can take critisism, that's not the issue, the issue was that you can't just say things to people like this "friend" did and think that it isn't going to hurt someone. I do feel like I have a big heart and mind than this lady. The men loved their roses and I know they appreciated the gesture even if everyone else thought I was crazy.

I thought the idea was AWESOME! That was really sweet what you did and it obviously made it's mark. You got a reaction out of "just an idea". This is what life is all about. You are right, she can't really get through life thinking that she can get away with saying things like that. I am very outspoken and sometimes stump the chumps when I have something to say. I have never been that harsh though--and now, I am laughing because your idea might have been crazy to her but you got great reactions out of the other millions of people who read this or that article. One person is so small compared to the many that seen the light honey! Keep that stuff up and you will be the richest person in the world. I loved the idea!

This wasn't something that was a response in a discussion, this was a close personal friend of mine. I don't take comments in my discussions personally, but when it is someone who is supposed to be a friend who makes such comments then it is hard to not let it get to you a little.

Yes, she obviously doesn't care about my feelings and that is fine. Honestly, I don't need friends in my life who are going to put me down so I feel I am better off without this "friend" in my life.

Exactly, she told me her point of view and I told her how I felt about the idea. She then proceeded to say that to me. I felt it was uncalled for. I can take her critisism just fine, but you aren't going to cut me down like that and just think that it's okay.

You are so right. I don't need someone in my life who is going to put me down just because they don't like and idea or think that I should do something, etc. I need friends who will be supportive of me.