How do I teach my kid to Share?

There are a couple of things you can do. First, let her know that there are certain things she doesn't have to share, such as a select few special toys of her own. Second, model for her what you want her to do. Share something of yours. Play with her, let her use something of yours, and talk to her about what you are doing and why. 'I like playing with this doll. Would you like to have a turn? I'd like to share with you. That make it more fun for both of us.' Praise her for sharing. 'Thank you so much for sharing your doll with me. Great job.' 'You waited so patiently for your turn. Start with only making her wait a minute or two, and increase it from there as she gets better. Start with something that is easy to share, like sets of blocks, or crayons. Those types of things are easier, since sharing doesn't mean having to wait. Next, give her opportunities to practice with just one or two other children. Arrange a playdate. Be sure to talk with her about sharing before hand. Tell her that any special toys that she doesn't want to share need to be put away before her friend arrives. Play with her and the other child, and continue modeling sharing for her. Last, talk with her preschool teachers. Let them know what you are doing to help her learn to share, and ask for suggestions. Ask them how they handle it so you can make sure you are all on the same page. Remember, 3 year olds are just learning to share. It is developmentally appropriate to struggle with it. Guide her gently, model, and she will learn it.

I think you let her view of gift giving scenes, especially during birthdays. When she attended a birthday party see to it she has with her a gift for the celebrant or during her birthday upon receiving gifts from her guests you have the oppurtunity to explain to her the idea of sharing. Let your relatives, your nieces of her age bring her even little gifts or cookies or chocolates for her to see the idea of sharing. Little by little she'll realized she has to share as others do.

I've never had this problem, but I think it's important to talk about it. How does she feel if someone does the same thing to her? Askher that. It's not easy to be 3 years old and it's not easy for them to remember. I don't think it has so much to do with her being the only child. Some kids are that way (some adults also...) Just talking to her and explaining is a great start in my opinion. Going to pree school probably will help a lot!

Hi there! I am a mom of a 4 y.o kid. And this is also my problem. I always explain to her that it is good to share to other kids and that its okay for her toys to be borrowed by her playmates. Actually, there are just some things that she don't want to share like her favorite toys and foods. Maybe, we should be patient in explaining to them the value of sharing. Of course, we have to be an example to them. But I guess, they will outgrow it soon. That's the way kids are, I guess.

It's a pity that your child doesn't want to share things with other children. I think she is behaving that way because she has been with you, the parents alone in the house. She did not have her playmate within the family. She feels that everything that comes from her parents belongs to her alone. Punishing her will not solve the problem. What you should do is to try as much as you can to bring into your home a child of her age or thereabout, so she can play with him/her in the house. They can even share the bed, eat together, attend the same school, buy them clothes of same type and colour. If you able to do this, she will definitely change. Goodluck.

Hi even i'm going through the same phase..a friend of mine came to our house with a baby and daughter is not ready to share the toys with her...they have 6mnths diff in age. But i tried explaining her saying if u share with her now themn u can play with her toys too when u go to their place. They were at our home for 2 days n after a day she felt a bit more comfortable...may be if they grow up a bit they ll know it by themselves.

This is also my problem... my daughter will be turning 3 this April... and she can be very possessive when it comes to her toys and food... she just doesn't want to share... even to me... and when forced to... she will resort to crying her heart out... i am hoping that she will outgrow this possessiveness or selfishness stage... since my niece was able to grow out of it and she is now almost 6 years old...

I have the same sentiments. My son is turning 3 this June and I haven't had him started preschool yet but I'm training him this early so that when he goes to school he'll be a bit behaved. What I try to do sometime is turn his attention to something else when he and his cousin fight over some toy. This may not work at all times so sometimes I try bargaining with him. He likes to go out of the house all the time so when he doesn't want to share his toys with his cousins, I would promise him to go outside if he'll share. That works most of the time. You just have to know what to avert his attention to. Hope this helps. Happy mylotting.