what have i done!!!!!!!

love - my friends girl
United States
April 1, 2009 6:48am CST
oh my God! i just slept with my friends girlfriend,please all, what do i do now? it was yesterday and we all went out to drink. me, my friend godwin and his girl.. he got so tipsy that i had to drive him home... on getting to his house, his girlfriend asked me to stay with them because it was late, and i decided to stay put.. we were all tipsy and slept in the sitting room but after some hours, his girl friend started playing with my D**KIe and you know whatt, i couldn't resist because i was high and we had it on the floor next to my friend who was deep and sokaed with alchohol.. please i regret doing it and dont know what to do.. help me... di i tell my friend....OH GOD WHY!!!!
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22 responses
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
1 Apr 09
For me, if just between the two of you, you don't need to tell you're friend. If you tell him, things may get worst. Just consult the girl that this event will never happen again..Stay away from her..^_^
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• United States
1 Apr 09
i will see if i can call her and tell her off. maybe that will help
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
1 Apr 09
$50 says she will start crying & telling him how you took advantage of her in her drunken state. So, he IS GOING TO FIND OUT!!! What will you gain from lying & hiding it??? Faith in yourself??? If you decide to be honest with him, you can take your punishment like a man. What will you gain from being honest??? Faith in yourself??? I bet you're NOT the first friend she has done this with!!!! He will not want to be your friend anymore. Eventually, he will find out that she's the problem. At that point, he will probably forgive you. But, if you leave it as a lie, that friendship is probably gone forever!!! You'll never be able to look him in the eyes without feeling guilty!!!
• United States
1 Apr 09
i wil try to tell him later tommorow and maybe i will continue with whatever the outcome is
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
1 Apr 09
damn my friend you are in some deep stuff. well if you two decide what to do about this, either keep it between you two. but if you do tell him you are looking at he might not be your friend anymore, and them breaking up. so you need to talk to her, and see if it would be better to keep this secert or not or risk it all
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• United States
1 Apr 09
i think i will talk to her... that is really a good idea.. thanks
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
1 Apr 09
She's gonna cry & beg you not to tell him!!! No matter which way you go, your friend is gonna be pissed!!! If you're honest & just tell him, he's NOT going to believe that his woman would cheat on him. You know she's NOT going to just say yes I did it & I'm glad. She's going to deny her part & blame it all on you!!! You dayum near raped her in her version. If you don't come clean & be honest with him, he will find out somehow. Then he will feel betrayed that you weren't honest with him. So, you're the bad guy no matter which way you go. Your options...(1) Do you want to feel guilty until he figures it out??? (& he WILL figure it out) or (2) Do you want to feel free & get it over with now. Either way you will probably lose your friend. I just hope you weren't real close. You do realize that I was so drunk I didn't think is NOT a very good defense don't you??? I'd advise that you avoid this woman like the plague!!! She's nothing but trouble!!! Think she was trying to break up your friendship from the get go???
• United States
1 Apr 09
that is what i am scared of... women can be deceptive, she might turn the whole story apart but my concience is clear because i never made any move but she did.. i will summon courage and see if i can tell him
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I've read some of the other responses and so now I'll add mine to the pile. I'd tell your friend the truth. You may lose a friend but then again you may not. The fact is that if his g/f goes to him first and tells him, it's going to look even worse for you. Also it would be your word against hers as to who started what...the fact that you hid it from him would make you look in the wrong. You owe it to your friend to be honest about it and to let him know what kind of g/f he has. I hope you don't lose your friend but it's better to be honest about it otherwise your going to constantly worry about him finding out. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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• United States
7 Apr 09
Iam on twqey68 side do as she said,it the only way!
• United States
8 Apr 09
i really appreciate the response and i sure will do that. thanks
@cbakin20 (150)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I would suggest telling your friend, that is the responsible thing to do. It will be hard and your friend will probably be very mad, but you will feel guilty until then. It may help your friend to use the excuse that you were drunk/high, so be sure to tell the story exactly how it is. Don't try to make it seem any worse or better. As for the situation with her, I'd ask her about it. Chances may be she wants to be with you more than with her boyfriend, or at least realized she didn't like her boyfriend that much. If not, she may want you not to tell her boyfriend, which you should decide which one you should follow. It would be very important for you to talk to her and see her side of the story.
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• United States
1 Apr 09
i will talk to her and if she thinks of something else, what do i do?
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@cbakin20 (150)
• United States
1 Apr 09
That's really up to you. If she tells you she wants you to do something, you have to decide whether her wants are more important than telling the truth to your friend. Make sure you think about anything you do before you do it, because this could be a big change in your life, depending on how close this friend and his girlfriend are to you.
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• United States
1 Apr 09
This is an aweful thing and bad situation to be in. I know the right and legit thing would be to tell your friend but I must say if this happened to me I would dump you both. So if you do choose to be honest you need to be ready for the consequences of these actions. I know from what you said it was probably an accident but your friend is still going to hurt about it. But on the other hand it will be worse if your frind finds out from someone else other than you. It will be a lot worse. Or you can not tell your friend and he might not find out but you will feel guilty. Also it will be very awkward between you and your friends GF.
• United States
1 Apr 09
thanks so much for being a friend... i am just so grateful for the response but i guess i wil have to prepare for the worst
@benny128 (3621)
1 Apr 09
well A) you shouldnt be high, and B) you have just wrecked not only your friendship with your mate but you have also wrecked their relationship with each other. Own up and take the punishment no matter what it is.
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• United States
1 Apr 09
oh God!!! why ? what am i to do now? but i guess i have to tell him and take the blame
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• Indonesia
1 Apr 09
Do not regret what has happened. Leave and do not repeat again. I think you should be careful in submitting it to your friend. Return to the woman you regret it and you show that you very appreciate their relationship. If you are rough on the women's action, I fear there will be information that is not true of the women. You will be lose good friend. Good name and reputation wil be bad. Thanks
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• United States
1 Apr 09
i will see if i can tell him and whatever he says , then i deserve it
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• United States
1 Apr 09
Wow,Hmmmm. How close are your friend and his girlfriend?..How close are you to this friend?...Do you guys have a bros before hoes kinda relationship or not so much?... I think you should tell him.. It will be better if you tell him now then keep it from him for sometime and behiding it you know. He might respect you more for telling him. You never know this chick could get mad at you one day and out of spite tell her boyfriend and then really put the blame on you saying you made the first move... Well,whatever you decide Best of luck to ya:)...
• United States
1 Apr 09
we are so very close that i just dont know how to tell him.. this might cause a stir and i am soooooooo confused..
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@keasling (723)
• United States
1 Apr 09
This is such a difficult thing to do. Case #1 You tell your friend. Either he gets mad at you or her or both. Depending on your friendship, you may lose him as a friend all together. If he and her have been with each other for awhile and she did that to him they should not be together. It is harder for a man to stop something when a female has taken such provactive e actions toward a man. You risk losing your best friend over this but it is the better way to go. case #2 You say nothing. She tells him he gets mad at you for not saying anything. Here again you risk losing your friend because you were not honest with plus the story maybe switched around and not the whole truth was told. Case #3 Neither one of you say anything and never mess with each other again. You will have this on your mind constantly and feel horrible and the friendship will never be the same again. I go with #1. It will be hard. The hardest thing ever that you do but you have to be honest with him.
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• United States
1 Apr 09
OH GOd... what is wrong with me. i just cant see me telling him. i know how i would feel if i was told something like that not to talk of me telling him... i am doomed
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@rajikoshy (741)
• India
2 Apr 09
Let me tell you - its not your fault so dont care about it secondly because you dont care she may repeat it and you will loose your friend, his trust and your reputation. so stay away from her......
• United States
2 Apr 09
sure you are right... i am staying real far awy from her.
@marciascott (25550)
• United States
2 Apr 09
The response you left me, I am really unhappy, please don't kill you-self, It will be ok, just pray about ti like I said. there is no women in this world that would make you want to kill yourself, please don't even think about that! I am really worried about you. Please come back and chat with me! Maybe some of these members here will make you feel better, they always make me feel better, It is not that serious! I hope you are feeling better by now. Have a wonderful day!
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• United States
3 Apr 09
thanks so much for the words of encouragement. do you yahoo? let me have your chat id so we can talk better. i appreciate
• Israel
8 Apr 09
Damn man that is something you just don't do! You need to go and talk to that girl, and decide together if you want to tell him. I suggest you to keep it to your self and still stay his friend. I can't imagin how he will react if he knew the truth about you two. I hope things work out for you.
• United States
9 Apr 09
i really appreciate your comments. thanks bro
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• Israel
9 Apr 09
No problem :)
• China
2 Apr 09
Don't worry! you can explain it to your friend I believe your friend can excuse you
• United States
2 Apr 09
i just pray he understands...
@marciascott (25550)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Maybe he will maybe he won't, like you said pray about it!
@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
2 Apr 09
wow..I do know what to say.. It is better to be honest but if this will lead to fighting, I guess it is better for you to just stay away from his girl and never allow yourself to be tempted again!
• United States
3 Apr 09
i will never fall for such temptation again.. this i promise myself
@goldeneagle (6773)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I don't think I would say a word man. As long as she is in agreement with you, he never has to know...
• United States
3 Apr 09
okay... i am trying my best to call her for a discussion and will let you know the outcome...
@marciascott (25550)
• United States
2 Apr 09
A real friend wouldn't do that. If you did it once you will do t again, well I hope not! Are you going to tell you friend you did this? Maybe he will forgive you maybe he won't? I hope he does forgive you, but he will never trust you anymore with her. sorry to say but that is probaly what will happen, I hope you all don't break-up friend-ship.
• United States
2 Apr 09
i have never been involved in such a situation before and i just think i should end my life.
• India
2 Apr 09
Dear friend,I think what you have done is wrong as she is your friends girl friend.It is an emotional crime.You should have handeled her carefully by telling her that whatever she is doing is not correct as just for satisfaction you she had killed her boyfriends feelings.Any way in future try avoid such things as our country has its own culture.Be a good friend.Now go and tell your friend the truth only then you can see thru his eyes.
• United States
2 Apr 09
thanks so much man.. i will definately heed to your advice.
@thina12 (94)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
OH MY GOD!How did you do that... Anyway,its not your fault.For me its just an accident,. Maybe the girl likes you,hmmm very hard situation. But if i were you,i will tell the truth to your friend.
• United States
2 Apr 09
i think you are right...
@haoli1118 (121)
• China
2 Apr 09
Keep it as a secret between you and your friends' girlfriend. Just leave as far as his girl.
• United States
2 Apr 09
thanks for your suggestion. i will adhere to it
@ajrox1810 (992)
• India
1 Apr 09
Sorry to say this but I think you are in a thick soup right now. I hope none of your friend is at myLot, otherwise he would come to know about it too. I advice you first talk about it with your friend's girl and request her never, ever to tell it to your friend. Some things are always good when kept secret, that's my advice to you. P.S.:That reminds me of a movie called "My Best Friend's Girl"
• United States
2 Apr 09
okay thanks for the suggestion
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I say talk to the girl.. It could have been possible that she thought you were her man if you all were tipsy. But talk to her see what she wants to do because she is involved too.
• United States
2 Apr 09
i will sure talk to her and hear from her