Discussions that never should have been started.

@savak03 (6693)
United States
April 2, 2009 3:24pm CST
Have you ever started a discussion that takes on a life of its own and you don't quite know how to deal with it? I sure have. I learned one, no make that two, very important lesson. People take their politics seriously. And just because I think something is funny doesn't mean everyone or anyone else will. I guess all is not lost if I learned something from the experience.
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17 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
2 Apr 09
yes, i have, it wasn't about poitics. i try to stay away from politics & relegion. as you say we learn from out mistakes. happy days to to you.
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I don't know anything about politics so I should have stayed away from that. However I sometimes enjoy a good discussion about religion since I have some knowledge on that subject. However I avoid the ones that turn into arguments.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
3 Apr 09
i don't want any arguments either. sometimes on here u run into smart alecks but the biggest majority of the people have been real nice to me.
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Yeah, me too. Fortunately I received some good advice when I first started and made some good friends along the way. For the most part I am enjoying this experience, even the embarrassing moments.
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@sconibear (8011)
• United States
2 Apr 09
is this supposed to be some kind of joke???
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
No just a backhanded apology for trying to be funny yesterday. Apparently funny is not my strong suit.
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@sconibear (8011)
• United States
2 Apr 09
now that's hilarious!!!
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Hi Irish. Can I have a lolipop too? My self esteem needs a sugar high.
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@mysdianait (65070)
• Italy
2 Apr 09
I have started some - then instead of hitting 'submit' I hit the 'back' button instead. Better safe than sorry
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Yes that might have been better here too but up until I started getting some responses I really thought it would be a good discussion. Oh well, I guess I live and learn.
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@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
28 Apr 09
I am a bit of a back buttoner myself
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@mysdianait (65070)
• Italy
28 Apr 09
Join the club zone!
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@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
28 Apr 09
I have thought about starting some but then my better judgement gets the better of me. I don't want to deal with another thing I can't handle. I always try to stay out of the politics and Religion, but sometimes I dabble. Just popped over to spam your discussion as promised
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Hey That's why I followed you here. It's always fun to spread the love. Now where are you going next? *reminds all I'm not a stalker*
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@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
29 Apr 09
Spreading the love is always good. I am just going with the flow at the moment. I might just stalk you Chimes
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Now that could be fun.
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@zahfran (851)
• Singapore
28 Apr 09
Actually, I've started a few discussions. Seriously, I wasn't expecting so many responses to some of the discussions. But they generated quite a few responses and I would love to reply to all the responses but somehow got tired. The discussion just seem to have a life of it's own!
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@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
28 Apr 09
Don't you just love when that happens
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@zahfran (851)
• Singapore
29 Apr 09
Absolutely man, especially when you're around (and not sleeping), the discussions always have their own life. Sometimes, I just feel afraid that either you or cannete might come out of my computer screen and talk. Or even anybody else for that matter.
@savak03 (6693)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Well, this one sure took off on it's own again. That's pretty good. Maybe it'll beat my old record. Of course that wouldn't take much.
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I've started a few that got me in trouble but I just deal and move on. Nobody notices a little nut case like me anyway. Mine were more of a life kind of topic but some people still only see their way. And some people can't take a joke. Pain in the bottom. And no kidding that some discussions take on a whole new life that the poster never could have seen coming.
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@thezone (9447)
• Ireland
29 Apr 09
Yes I would agree with you on that one sometimes a discussion will just spiral out of control. New life to a discussion is good
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@zahfran (851)
• Singapore
29 Apr 09
Yeah.. Let's bring some life to this discussion. Bet savak wouldn't see this coming.. The rest of you guys : Got your ninja gear on???
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
29 Apr 09
You're right I didn't see this coming but it is a great way to end the day. I didn't think anyone noticed me much either but every now and then my mouth (er fingers) can stir up a hornets nest.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Hoo boy, have I ever done that, too! I won't mention what they were about because I don't want to EVER stir them up again! LOL Sometimes, we can hear ourselves saying the things we are writing but they don't come across in the same way when written. I've done that and stirred up a hornet's nest! I had to comment under a lot of responses that I was trying to say something completely different. There are some subjects I try to avoid now whenever possible: politics and religion being the top two. My step-father and I had conflicting views on both and I learned early not to bring those subjects up around him. MyLot, with it's diverse community, is the same way. You're never going to have everyone agreeing with you or even giving their different view calmly and tactfully. There always seems to be one (or several) who get their hackles up and, instead of simply saying that they don't agree, they'll pound on you. So, I avoid those two topics whenever possible. Too much of life is spent worrying or regretting some things and that's not what I want to do with my life. I want to spend the majority of my life being happy or at least content. If I read a discussion here with strong views on politics or religion, I'll either avoid them or try to get my own view across without any animosity because everyone is entitled to their own views and opinions. Even so, we all make mistakes but, to learn from them, they are indeed worth something. I agree with you 100% on that!
@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Apr 09
The problem was I don't hold any strong views on the subject. I was just trying to present a tongue in cheek presentation that I thought would get a few laughs. Unfortunately everybody took it serious and started pointing out the flaws in the statement. arrgg.
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@mentalward (14695)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I think it's a good idea to mention STRONGLY and in bold that what we're trying to say is taken just the way you explained it, light and, hopefully, with a few laughs. But, even then, there are some people who have absolutely NO sense of humor. We can't make them lighten up no matter how hard we try but we can take solice in knowing that we, most likely, will live healthier, longer lives because we can laugh. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. My evil grandmother, nicknamed "The General" (behind her back), lived to be 94! She was mean, cheap and very controlling. She had over $1 million in assets and we used to joke that she found out she couldn't take it with her so she wasn't going! All we can do is move on and KEEP LAUGHING!
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I think our grandmothers must have been related. Thanks so much for the chuckle.
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@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
3 Apr 09
I guess you learned it the hard way as many of us did. If you are unlucky there will be members giving you a negative rating because they disagree with your viewpoint. Politics and religion are two sensitive areas and should be approached with care. So do issues related to certain human rights. I guess many of us tend to be emotional on certain issues, and have blinkered viewpoints. all the best in your postings, rosdimy
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Well maybe that won't happen. I didn't really have a viewpoint as such and didn't argue with anyone so maybe they will let me just slink away quietly.
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@littleowl (7157)
2 Apr 09
Hi savak, I don't really think so one I stay away from politics as it is something I know not a lot about but only make a few discussions when I feel there is something interesting to say or ask....littleowl
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I really should have too. I don't know that much about politics and have no desire to learn but a friend sent me an email and I thought the subject would make a funny discussion. Unfortunately everyone took it serious. I really didn't mean to start a debate just wanted to tell a funny story.
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
29 Apr 09
ya....i'm sure we all have started a discussion that either got out of control or seemed silly afterwards or something and we wish we could just get rid of it. live and learn...right?
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I could handle silly. That was what I was going for. The problem was everyone took it serious. Go figure.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
29 Apr 09
oh so you had a "oops" moment, huh? I'm not sure if I saw that one. It is so easy to be misunderstood on the computer.
@savak03 (6693)
• United States
29 Apr 09
At the risk of stirring this up again, here's the link to it. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1963517.aspx Do you see the joke right off or is it oblique?
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
20 Apr 09
Not really, no. I've often been surprised at the success or failure of some discussions before, but I don't recall ever starting one that ended up causing me any major drama's trying to maintain it. I've also started discussions that I kind of wished I hadn't too, but thankfully some of these are buried deep in the archives and heaven't come back to life. I've also not awarded BR's for those particular discussions too for fear of them being seen again! lol. And last but not least, I've had discussions I've started that I KNEW were going to be deleted and ultimately did end up being removed. These ones have usually come about because of something that happened here that pissed me off and I'm just venting. This has happened maybe 2 or 3 times to date and it can be pretty therapeutic I must say! Religion and Politics are two catagories where you really do need to keep your wits about you at times though!
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Petty good advice there James but knowing me I probably won't take it seriously. As a matter of fact a thought came up yesterday that I thought I would turn into a discussion as soon as I have a free moment. It will encompass both religion and politics so I'm not sure which category I will put it in. This one however will be a serious discussion and not an attempt at being funny which I obviously suck at.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
16 May 09
I was thinking about this discussion of yours today because of your comments about people not getting that something's supposed to be humorous. Check out the 30th response on my latest Axe discussion and you'll see that I caught myself a live one! People never cease to amaze me! lol.
@savak03 (6693)
• United States
16 May 09
Fortunately it was only one person who didn't get the joke. I think the rest of us picked up on it pretty good. Now when a whole discussion grows horns and a tail then you got something to worry about.
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• United States
29 Apr 09
So let's see if we can get this discussion to turn a corner... Now if that guy coming from the side doesn't get in our way we might be able to move forward, ooops! We have to stop... Wow! That was close did you see the person behind us almost crash in our back end? Imagine if we watched them get struck from behind, as a witness we should be charged with a crime... It is simple to get into politics and religion when we pray and the law is broken! Can we connect and comment now? I need a good system of support and I know what I'm looking for... Maybe one day soon I will find what I need...
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Wow, look at that. Just a few more and I will be on my third page. That will be a record for me. You know I always support you Ricky.
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@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
29 Apr 09
You've got my support too!
@suzzy3 (8352)
7 Apr 09
People do take politics seriouly and religion stay away from those discussions to keep safe I do not know enough about those subjects .like you I have learn't my lesson as well.x
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Yeah but in my case find the lessons don't stay learned. I will probably get a thought in the future and do the very same thing. Maybe by discussing that here I will break myself of that tendency.
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• United States
3 Apr 09
Yes, many a time. Even if I thought it was a good discussion, other people thought otherwise.
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Apr 09
It just goes to show that we all are different and don't react to things the same way.
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• United States
3 Apr 09
Nah, I try to state the topic in the beginning, if it goes rogue I'll just hang on for the ride.
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I have always made it a rule to respond to the people that comment on the discussions I start. I generally love the interaction with the other members but this time it just didn't work out so well.
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@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Oh yup---been there, done that. If fact there was one discussion where things got really heated up and I actually asked MyLot to delete it, which they did. I just wanted to put the whole thing behind me, so figured the only way to do that was to ask that it be deleted on purpose
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@savak03 (6693)
• United States
3 Apr 09
The discussion didn't get heated because I didn't try to change any attitudes. In fact most of the responses had really good points. I just didn't expect people to take my offered 'plan' seriously. It was meant as a joke. I guess I'm just not very funny. Maybe it lost something in the translation.
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
I learned about that very early on in my mylot experiences too.. should have known better. lol. At least we've learned. I didn't write about politics though, nor was i trying to be funny.. i was trying to use proper terminology and be politically correct.. but i used a wrong word. . i was trying to discribe all people with mental handicaps, no matter what the handicap, and i said something like mental defect.. i didn't mean the people were DEFECTIVE though.. just a bad choice of words.. oops.
@savak03 (6693)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Political correctness is something that is hard to keep up with. Who ever decides that certain words are offensive will change them from time to time. And some of the words they choose would not be something I would want to be labeled with. But the ones that get my temper up the most is the words that a group will call each other but take umbrage at anyone else using. Sometimes it's just hard to know how to talk.
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
i agree.. sometimes its best to just live under a rock with a zipper on your lips!
@TLChimes (4838)
• United States
29 Apr 09
But then you miss out on the fun stuff too.
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