Why don't parents care anymore?

United States
April 2, 2009 4:56pm CST
I had to run to Walmart to pick up a couple things. As I'm walking through the store I pass a mom who has a few kids with her. The oldest of these kids looks to be about 12 or 13. This 12 or 13 year old is wearing a totally see through white t shirt with a white bra underneath. I could tell you the exact type of bra she was wearing because the shirt was so see through! I was totally shocked. I almost grabbed my own kids and covered their eyes so they wouldn't see this half naked little girl. What are parents thinking these days letting their kids go out in public like that? Would you ever let your child dress like this?
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@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
2 Apr 09
No I would not. My daughter had strict rules on how to dress appropriately for the occasion. Many mothers just let their kids dress as adults so where is the excitement coming in on being allowed to wear something grown up when you reach a certain age? childhood is being taken away from our children who are forgetting how to play. I feel very strongly on this subject. I often wonder if the morthers just want to be friends and not a parent to their child.
• United States
2 Apr 09
I completely agree. It's so sad that most parents don't even try anymore. I am a "meanie" mom, everyone tells me so. And I'm happy to be that way. To me, that means I'm doing my job right. My mom was a meanie mom too, and I don't know how many times I got angry at her, but then she'd say "You'll thank me someday". And I do thank her now!
• United States
3 Apr 09
i have three boys and they atend a christian school where there is a dress code and i always inforce the proper way of dressing. how ever i was told by one lady that has all girls and they are allowed to do just about any thing. she had told me that i smoother my boys and they will end up wild in the long run .i told her they will not because i will be there to make sure of that. so i guess that may make me a mean mom also . i am glad to see there is so many of us out there.
@mommyboo (13197)
• United States
3 Apr 09
SEE thru shirts? Uhm, no. Now I'm far from a prude, in my home we are VERY comfortable around each other, and the level of privacy my daughter wants is all her own choice, like not letting daddy see her change, etc. However, in PUBLIC? There are certain levels of appropriateness that extend to what other people have to see. I do kind of think kids should be dressing like kids. I might have overlooked it if I didnt really know how old the girl was and she was with other kids and not one of her parents. I think what's worse is seeing an 11 or 12 year old with thongs - sticking up over her jeans, or wearing more makeup than the mom. THAT'S kind of creepy.
• United States
3 Apr 09
I agree. Someone had once given my 5 year old daughter this little dress that did not have a back on it. Just a strap that went around her neck. It was a cute dress, something I could see an 18 year old wearing. My daughter wore it once, she dressed herself that day. It was middle of summer and the kids were playing in the front yard and I was sitting on the porch watching them while reading a book or something. Now I knew my daughter was wearing this dress, but I looked over at her and saw her shoulders and back bared to the world. I got a horrible image in my head when I saw my 5 year old daughter like that. So we went in and changed into something more appropriate, and I threw that dress in the trash!
@laglen (19779)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I would not allow this. My daughter is 15 however, I am very fortunate in that she dresses modestly. she likes to layer so she usually has 3-5 shirts on at a time and makes sure her essentials are covered. This is a pain in the butt for laundry, but worth it just the same that my daughter has enough respect and regard for herself!
• United States
3 Apr 09
Yeah, layering is a fashion these days, and not one of the worst fashions they've ever come out with I have to agree. But you know, so far as laundry goes... I don't think I'd wash every layer each time she wears it. Maybe just the bottom and top layers, leaving the middle layers to be worn another day. Or if there's just the 2 layers, if the top layer doesn't look dirty, or the bottom layer doesn't smell bad... you know... let her wear it twice before washing unless she spills something or sweats.
• United States
3 Apr 09
Oh I got a better 1.i had to rescue a little girl carrying her baby brother down the escalator.the little girl cried out for help so i reached out and took her arm.I almost went falling down the escalator with them.I tried to hit the stop button but couldn't reach it.the little girl finally sat down on the stairs with the baby in her lap.I followed them all the way down to the floor where their other little brother was waiting.The little girl just running from me.I saw no parent around or anyone in charge of them.I walked off feeling expasperated.I called the security office the next day and told them what happen and they were really upset about the incident and said the would look at the video tape.I'm glad i didn't see the parents of those kids because i'm sure i would have opened my big mouth and said something i know i would have regretted.
• United States
3 Apr 09
We're going to hear about those kids on the news someday, I'd bet you.
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
My daughter is already 12 but til now, whenever we go out, I still check what kind of dress she's gonna wear, she may not like it most of the times, but I know I'm doing it for her own good and I know that someday she may thank me for being like this.
• United States
3 Apr 09
Yes she will thank you someday.
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Hey kats! That's one of the problems! Then the parents wonder why the kids are so promiscuous! They let them wear whatever they want and don't seem to care and then they wonder why they are getting in the trouble they get into! It's like they just don't seem to realized that the kids are still just kids and they need to pay attention to that! What you are describing is just an example of the way the kids are acting and dressing and getting themselves into trouble before they are old enough to know any better and the parents are not paying attention and they are to blaim!
• United States
3 Apr 09
Well being promiscuous has more to do with what they wear and how they dress. Wearing revealing clothes isn't going to turn a girl into a sl^t. But that behavior does start at home as well.
@xhaylea (363)
3 Apr 09
I don't have kids but im i did have a daughter i would no way let her dress like that at all! it can attract all the wrong attention such as perverts, peadophiles and basically men. I think its very disturbing aswell to be honest.
@xhaylea (363)
3 Apr 09
if i did have a daughter*
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
2 Apr 09
I would never let my daughter dress like that. I have always been a firm believer in there are some things that should not be made in some sizes. Thongs for little girls, high heels for babies, and ANYTHING see thru for anybody under 18.
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Heck no, not my daughter. My hubby will be in the mall and point it out. (To my daughter) "Do you see her?" My daughter either nods or says "Yes daddy" to which my hubby or I will state "That is how You will not and aren't supposed to dress." I guess we have done an ok job. My daughter now says things like "Geez, mom that person needs to put some clothes on!" It is fantastic to hear that from a 5 year old!
• United States
2 Apr 09
I try to pretend like they're not there. I don't want to draw attention to it.
@cdxisme (17)
• Indonesia
3 Apr 09
Idiot moms always never care about their daughter.They always think about shopping or her need.My mom is always take care of me.Even i was 19 , she always combs my hair.Keep your child well and their heart is with you forever.Every people need her parents because their parents will teach them everything.Idiot moms will teach or don't care their child.They will make their child being stupid too.I think all of parents in this world will need to take care their child before theirs being bad people.
@blion23 (404)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I think that one of the biggest problems is the people have just stopped caring about anyone but themselves. I think that this is a prime example, a parent failed to care even about their own children. I promise you that as long as I live I will care about others, especially my friends and family and to not care about them is pure ignorance. I would never dress my child like that. There are some things that others should just never see.
• United States
3 Apr 09
I have no idea what parents are thinking these days. It seems that parents are beginning to care less these days about how there children dress. I would never let my children out of the house like that. It pains me to see parents allowing there children to act that way at such a young age, it does not set a good example it makes them think that it is okay if you dont stop them.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
3 Apr 09
When my daughter was living at home and at that age I wouldn't let her wear stuff like that and when I caught her trying to leave the house that way I stopped her an said Hey! Going someplace? and she would say Yes and I would say You wearing that outfit? and she would say YES! and I would give her a stern look an point to her room and say You can leave but only when you put some clothes on. And then when the offensive clothes came to be washed I would hide it and then when she asked about it I would tell her I haven't seen it. It worked for awhile then she got smart to it and stopped wearing stuff like that. One time I sat her down and said How would you feel if you saw me in the outfit, now mind you I am on the chunky side and tight clothes an me don't mix, she would get this weird look on her face and say EWWW! LOL and I said Exactly! That's how I feel when I see you in get ups like that, we laughed and she understood.
@yanyinju (86)
• China
3 Apr 09
I think there must be something wrong with the mom.Any sensible woman will not do that.All parents love her kids,just like you.I think what you did at that moment is right.You must be a good mother.By the way,are you sure that the kids are the woman's children?
• United States
3 Apr 09
I dont understand why some parents do half the things they do and I am sure they say the same about me. As far as the dress goes and what kids wear, some of it is insane. I see kids walking around here in such outlandish things, either too little or too much. Its one extreme to another. I hate the little girl pants with the writing on the butt...who needs to read my 5 year olds butt?!?! And then theyt started making thongs for her age?!?! WHAT!! Crazy. But as long as people are buying it people are making it.
@krissy32 (205)
• United States
3 Apr 09
No way in heck! I, too am a meanie mom, but so what? Like my mother and no doubt thousands of other mothers have said " you will thank me someday". So true. I could not understand why a mother would let her daughter go out with a see thru tshirt with a bra. If she is old enough to be wearing a bra, then she should as a matter of good taste cover it up with something dark or something other than white.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I feel the same as you. I can not believe at times how these young girls are allowed to wear the clothing they do. I remember one time, my ten year old neice was in the car on our way to church. The blouse she selected to wear was a little thin, and my sister noticed it while on our way to church. She immediately turned the car around so that my niece could change into something else. She is not yet wearing a training bra. It is up to the parents to enforce decent dress ethics for these young girls.
• Norway
3 Apr 09
You know. The manner in which you relate to your kids varies from the next parent. To that parent, the dresscode could be descent enough for an outing. Mam' you see a kid who wants to go bad will. We always have to tell them the true story.
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
They are parents that are liberated but personally I would not allow my future children to dress that way too.
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
3 Apr 09
because sh'e stuipd for sure. and i bet two to one if you said anything she would yell you are a pervert.. yeah she dont see allow her child dress that way is asking for trouble.