Do you find it difficult to make new friends?

@deejean06 (1953)
United States
April 3, 2009 9:39am CST
Almost all of the friends I've made in the past ten years have only wanted something from me. When they have gotten that one thing I'm dropped like a hot potato! I've been in weddings and then have not heard from the bride, gotten people jobs and then been belittled in the workplace. I've had rumors started about me in the workplace from so-called friends...So are people becoming more and more shallow? Do you find it difficult to make friends?
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
10 Apr 09
Yes, I can talk to many of them but can't make friends with them. I think the sensibility and sacrifice, which is required in friends making, isn't strong inside me. I do find it difficult. I don't have my school time friends with me even college friends are out. Recent days, I have lost two of three of them who I trusted more. I just can't do good things to maintain a good friendship.
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@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Hi sanuana... I agree - it does have to do with sensibility and sacrifice. And trust is a very difficult quality to find nowadays. Thanks for the response.
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
13 Apr 09
So, how many friends did you made for this year? For me I have found many of them from mylot.
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@yamskee (827)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
im a people person. meeting others and staying in contact with them is not a problem for me. but of course, these people i just met are just considered as colleagues. because i have a hard time give my full trust to people i just met. i measure friendship in time and memories that i have with them so it really takes time.
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@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Hi yamskee... Staying in contact is a problem for me. I feel that life in general is so time consuming that I neglect my relationships sometimes. I also find it difficult to extend full trust to people and have been betrayed in the past. Thanks for your response.
@eLsMarie (4347)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
i find it really difficult searching for new friends because of i'm not fund of undergoing certain adjustments... when i became so attached with people, i find it hard to live a life without their presence and i think it is the most challenging experience that every individual could or should face.
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Hi els and welcome to mylot! I understand that we do get attached to certain people. I think that's what friendship is and it's difficult when it ends. Thanks for your response.
@besthope44 (12135)
• India
18 Jul 10
No its not difficult rather very easy to find