Baby Mama
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
April 3, 2009 8:31pm CST
I was watching the movie Baby Mama, where this 37 year old single woman wanted to get pregnant and couldn't. She tried everything and was desperate. She was a highly successful. So she decided to get a surrogate mother to have the baby for her.
This woman payed one hundred thousand dollars for this.
in the movie, cause I don't know if it is the same in real life, the surrogate mother got to decide who she would carry the baby for.
I think if I was given that kind of money for a baby I should be the one to choice because I would want to make sure. I would not want to my baby to be drinking or on drugs, or smoking and I would want her to be healthy eat well etc.
My questions:
Do you think it is right for a single woman to have a baby by surrogacy?
Who should decide how will carry the baby, the mother or the woman carrying it?
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12 responses
@Darkwing (21583)
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4 Apr 09
I think it goes against nature really, my friend, and that if you're carrying a baby, even somebody else's, you get attached to it whilst it's growing inside you. I couldn't do it, for the simple reason that I believe that when you're pregnant, your body adjusts to help you cope with the rearing of the baby, and I would find it difficult to hand it over to the woman I was carrying it for.
For that reason, I definitely think the person who's going to carry should have the choice whether they want to carry the child of this potential mother. I think they should both have a say but that the carrier should have the right to interview the mother to be and to turn her down if they thought fit.
Brightest Blessings my friend.

@Darkwing (21583)
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5 Apr 09
What I was trying to say was that whosever child the surrogate is carrying, then it's growing inside her, and unless she has a very, very, strong mind, she will become attached. I'm sure I would, and I would find it a very difficult job to give the child to the "paying" mother once it was born. I just don't think I could go through all that.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
4 Apr 09
yup I would pick a girl that was well groomed and healthy. ANd really both should agree and they should have the makeup of each other so the child would look alot like mom.
DOnt matter if the women is singel or not . the baby would be well took care of for she could afford a nanny if she decided to keeep at her work or she could possible bring it home to do.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
it doesn't matter what the surrogate looks like because her DNA is not in the baby the baby is made by the mother and father, the surrogate only carries that baby to term.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Well people do this all the time, but I am old fashison, Why not have it the regular way or Adopt a child.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 May 09
people do it because they can't have a baby, there is something wrong medically,
and these people want their own children there own flesh and blood, since I have my son I don't know what it is look not be able to have my own baby so I would not judge them I am not in their shoes
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@ILANEDRI19 (278)
• Israel
4 Apr 09
I think that every woman should have the right to have a baby. Babys make a woman happy, and having a baby is something that every woman dreams about when she get old, so why prevent from her ?
Being a single mother is hard, so I think the authorities should help them with money, and food or whatever they can.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
4 Apr 09
how should decide the surrogate on what woman she picks or the mom on what surrogate to pick?
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
20 Apr 09
i think actually, that if a person is a good person they would adopt. many single moms have adopted that are good and love their children. i do think the biological mom should have a choice tho as to who gets the baby. that was a very funny movie.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Apr 09
true but it doesn't mean you are not a good person just because you want your own DNA like other women have
@hustonphotography (569)
• United States
4 Apr 09
This is hard. Surrogacy helps people who can't have children have kids. But their are clinics and programs who find women for this. They screen them carefully to make sure they are not exposed to anything harmful I think big decisions would be made by the mother. that is what the Surrogant get paid for. She is just a host. I am not sure about single women having children. I know their are more single mothers now and some are really doing great jobs. But their are also lots of benefits to having a father in the childs life.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Personally I sometimes think too many times women often end up doing this for the money never really stopping to think about carrying a child, or what type of person they might be carrying the child for, etc. And how do you know this will be a Good home, etc. as well?
I am not sure many women could really carry a Baby for 9 months without wanting to keep it themselves, or not somehow be involved in that childs life from there as well. Even though the $$ is nice, how can they do something like this? It has to be a matter of personal choice for sure.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Apr 09
it is a matter of choice to decide if you want to have a surrogate mother, and if you want to be a surrogate mother,
that was not my question, my question was, who has the right to decide who will be that surrogate mother, it is the woman that can't conceive
or is it the right of the surrogate mother to decide who she will carry the baby fore,
@feathers26 (865)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
This is quite a delicate topic, when you want to have a
baby. Some resort to this kind of delivery because some couples
could not have a baby even how they tried to make it. I think the
single woman has the right to decide what vitamins to drink as long
as it is beneficial for the surrogate mom and the baby.
@chertsy (3797)
• United States
16 Apr 09
I think it's ok for a woman single or married to have a baby by surrogacy. I have a close friend that went that route after she lost her first child due to heart problems at the age of 3 months. Then having trouble to have a baby, her and her husband decided to go the surrogacy route. Sadly though it didn't work out with them, the lady they went with wasn't a pleasant person to be around once they got going with the process. I think the person that is paying for this and will later raise the child for 18 years should be the one that decides how to carry the baby. It's not any fault why the woman can't carry a baby on her own, and if she could she would do everything to make sure her baby is healthy. Now with that, wouldn't they want the person carrying the baby to do the same. By the way, my close friend and her husband is expecting a baby girl early this summer.
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@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
4 Apr 09
I do think it is alright for a single women to be a surrogate. It helps a women who can not have a child to be able to have one in her life. The decision to me should be the women who is paying for the use of a surrogate mother. She will be the one who takes care of the baby.
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@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
9 Apr 09
World has changed soo much. Strange world strange stories. I know all these technologies but i think this a total disaster for humanity. I think the mother who is carrying the baby should be the authority.
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@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
i hope it wont happen to me. well just in case it'll happen to me, i wold rather talk about it with that person whose going to carry the baby. maybe it's going to be okay for me if she will be the one to decide who will father the baby as long as it's going to be mine after.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
the surrogate mother does not choose the father all she does is carry the baby for the person who wants it usually it is a real married couple and the wife is unable to carry the baby so that is why they need another woman to carry it in her uterus













