Who is the togher parent in your house? Father or mother?

Hi vanilla! My mother. She told us what to do and what not to do but if we disobeyed, once then twice it was father who got the slipper out He didn't set the rules though but he saw that they were obeyed. So it was teamwork on their part I guess. I'm thankful now that we were given rules to follow

I think my both parents are tough, but I can't compare them because we didn't have much time to live together. I lived. I passed my child hood mainly with my mother while my father went abroad. My mom kept me by her side most of time out of school, and I had to obey her. Then my dad came home for a short time before divorcing with my mom. After that, I lived with my father. He let me go out, but before that, I had to tell him "5 whs" : whom I would go with, where we would go, what we would do there, when I would go home, and why I should go out. If I didn't respect one of these 5 whs, he would punish me seriously.

In the family it should be the father because he is the bread winner of the family. but in my family its both of them the father and the mother. when one of us committed sins both them showed that they're angry and both of them will have to discipline to whom committed the sin. when that happen its very noisy at home, its just look like in the court, so many questions to answer and always be careful to what you are going to tell. that is why both of us will be very careful always not to commit sins because its just look like having Martial law in the Philippines again. (joke)

Hi!When it came to studies my father was tougher than my mom but when it was regarding cleanliness my mother was tougher.Infact other than matters related to studies my father was very soft.My mother never intervened when my father was punishing me but I used to run away to my father if my mother tried to punish me!

My mother was the tough one. My parents got divorced when i was 8, so my mom was tough on me. My dad never disciplined me because he was too worried about making me like him cause he knew i was mad at him for hurting my mom. He would never discipline me. He was always more worried about being the cool dad. Even though my mom was tough, she taught me alot & she today is my bestfriend. I have 2 daughters of my own & i am probably just as strict, but they dont complain.

my father is the one strict in the family, for me, i don't have any doubt about it because i believed that he's a good provider. if both parents are strict then i don't think that the child's role in the family would be given any priority... :)

To me, my mom was always the tougher of the two. Since I am a single child, daddy was generally happy to have mom take care of me and he was not very involved in my upbringing. It was my mom all the way and she was (still is) a very very strict disciplinarian and hard to please person. Even now, in my middle age, I am not free with my mom…I am always scared to talking to her uninhibited coz I don’t really know which comment of mine will upset her and then she will start grilling me with her lecture and accuse me of being impertinent and disrespectful and such. I maintain a safe distance from her.

I definately think that I am the more lenient parent. Definately a bigger pushover than hubby is. I tend to give the more chances, take away restrictions early for good behavior or sneak them chocolate because I felt bad for getting angry and over reacting. My dad used to do that to me when Mom would ground me for something, he would always sneak me Hershey Bars and M & M's to try and cheer me up.

hi vanilla in my case it was my father-he was really very strict who wud subject us to spanking when the situation demanded.on the contrary my mom was and still is the softer and more kinder parent who never ever said a word.she was and is alwayz loving and caring.i still remember the warmth that i felt when she used to lovingly hug us.

When I was growing up my mom took care of the every day issues, but I considered Dad to be the tougher parent. He would step in when I wouldn't listen to Mom! :) With my kids I think I am the harder one. I tend to discipline more often, but my husband will dole out harsher punishments if our girls cross the line with him. For example, where I might take away the Nintendo DS for a day, he will take it away for a week. I hope that makes sense.

well my mom has always been the tough one, but now she has to be even more tough cause my dad is sick and he wont be able to work again, so shes the one that stands out for us

In my family both mother and father are very friendly. But atlast htey are one. If they scold then they both scold otherwise they both loves me. I am the lovable person of my family

that is a really tough question for me. my father will let me do things my mom won't and on the other side my mom will let me get away with getting in trouble some times when my dad would want to punish me. that is so weird i don't know why they disagree like this, that maybe why they are divorced lol.

Like you, my dad is strict too...Once when my brother and i were small, he wanted to smack us for i don't know what we'd done, i can't remember..Anyway, my mum came to our rescue, she had to hide us in one of the rooms and lock us up in order to soothe my dad who was fuming mad...My dad was a bad tempered man but i know he means well...^_^

When I was growing, our father seldom talked but when he talked, everyone was afraid. My mother always talked but we became used to it and later never got afraid of her words.

My father has always been the stricter parent. He sets all the rules and he sets the punishments when any of the rules is broken. He is still very strict today and even though we're all of legal age, we still tell him when we're leaving the house and such. Some think it's mainly for respect, but we're really still somewhat asking for permission because we know he gets mad when he doesn't know where we are :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!

My Mother I must say! My father is much more considerate and kind. HAHA! But I love both of them! Happy MyLotting!

In my childhood, my father was working in another place. SO my mother always threatened me by his name. SO I was really afraid of my father when he come shome. But later, I found both my mother and father are very friendly and approachable. Now I think I am the tougher in my house....LOL