Do you afraid to talk to the person you like?
By clorissa123
@clorissa123 (4926)
United States
April 5, 2009 11:42am CST
For many single individuals, they are either too shy or too afraid to talk to the person they like. For example, a friend of mine has admired this girl for while. Every time he saw her, he was speechless, and afraid to approach her. He afraid that he gonna be rejected. Do you have the same problem as my friend here?
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6 responses
@captain_zhang (5)
• China
6 Apr 09
I have such a problem. When I saw girls I like, when I really want to talk with her, then I became speechless. I'm really afraid to be rejected. But after rejected, I talk with her easily instead. I don't konw why. Can someone give suggestions?
@pacaveli1 (36)
• United States
6 Apr 09
maybe the reason why you arent nervous after the rejection is that you no longer have expectations for whatever kind of relationship you were looking for and can instead be yourself without the fear of be rejected. my advice to you is when you see the girl you like immediately strike up a conversation even if you have no idea what to talk about instead of giving yourself time to play through rejection scenarios in your head and make yourself nervous. i hope this helps
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I always talk with the person I like, but in a normal conversation not confronting him about my feelings. Well, I also noticed that most guys are afraid to talk the the girls they like.
If they are afraid to be rejected then they must know the person very well first before making a move to avoid being rejected. If they get some hints that the girl don't like them then better move on, but if they noticed some mutual feelings then pursue her gently and carefully so that everything will be okay.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
19 Apr 09
Hi clorissal, as a friend, I think it is nice for you to advise and encourage your friend to approach the girl whom he has admired for quite a while. Tell your friend just to treat her as a normal girl, so he won’t feel difficult to utter a word when facing her. He at least should give himself a chance to start the conversation. Yeah, a person would always feel hard to utter a word for he has set in mind earlier that the opposite side would reject his friendship.
I would try to approach the person I admire so that we could start our friendship. It is more practical than just to keep the feeling in heart and no any action taken. By doing so, at least I could know whether she would accept or reject to be my friend.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
18 Apr 09
No, I do not feel afraid to talk to any stranger, if I need to. I know that he/she is a human being like us and worst s/he will do is not to respond to my query. If he replies, I can carry on the conversation with him/her and can befriend her/him. I know if I approach somebody I have nothing to lose, s/he may or may not respond, but if I do not confront anybody, how can a conversation begin.
@IchigoLover (177)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
i do not have the same problem as your friend as i normally would like girl who i used to be with.What the use of liking a person which you see her and you will get shy.Even if you successed in chasing her,does that mean you will get brave enough?
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@pixelangeljm (13)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 09
I am very shy, i dont know why. I have dating this guy who i use to know in high school for almost 2 yrs and i still get shy when i talk to him. He thinks its cute but i hate it. I would really like to know how i van change that to make it easier to express myself to him but i don't know how.
