What Do You Say To A Friend Whose Husband is an Alcoholic?

United States
April 5, 2009 3:25pm CST
My best friend is married to a raging drunk. He drinks from the time he gets off work till the time he goes to bed. The Alcohol has become more important to him than his wife and his kids. I try to offer advice, but I try to steer clear of being to harsh when I speak to her, for fear that it will put a dent in our friendship. I am just tired of hearing how bad he is treating her and the kids. She has a good job making close to 20.00 an hour and he has a good job as well. So she has the means to be able to leave him and support herself and her kids, and she always feels as if she doesn't or can't make it with out him. If this were your friend what advice would you provide?
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@Dorrdavy (275)
• Jamaica
6 Apr 09
well she could probably try talking to him when he is sober (if he ever is) about getting help, if he refuses to get help for himself, then i will encourage no one to stay in a marriage like that. he needs to admit that he has a serious problem and its affecting his wife and the kids. in the mean while, your friend needs to pray and tell God about her problems, there is nothing too hard for God to do, we only need to trust him to do it.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Well like AA they have a program and it's free called Alanon and she can go to meetings face to face or she can go online to meetings too I'm not sure of the links but she just has to search for it and she will find something I'm sure. They will teach her how to live with him an not make herself a victim or lose herself in his disease.
• Indonesia
6 Apr 09
We must encourage her, to tell her husband has bad habit.. soon or later will damage her married. And with her job, she is very lucky has a job...if her husband not to cahange hos habit may be she must consider to leave him.