Don't believe in love

Vietnam
April 6, 2009 7:11am CST
At this moment, I don't believe in love. Let's I tell you why. The first time I seriously fall in love with a guy. He's good person, at least that what I think about him. At that time, I just 18 years old and naive in love. I was so lonely because that is the first time I have to live far away from my family. I didn't know it is love or not. But when I scared of everything I never scare of him. He always made me laugh a lot. When he closed to me, I felt confident and happy. I think that's love. He also showed that he loved me. I truly believe in that until he step by step lelf me alone. I was hurt terribly when I knew that he still not forgot his ex-girlfriend. I don't know about his girlfriend until that time. If that was, why he always tried to come to me. I afraid that he try to make fun of me. I kept my love for my own secret. Day by day, we was apart. I was never tell him my feelings. He was not, too. It's was three years and six months from the day. The second time with another guy, he avoided me in our first meet. Later, he slowly approached me, always tried to find a chance to sit next to me. Then, he began his campaign to win my love. I knew him has a girlfriend already but the feeling for him came naturally. I never forget to control my feeling to keep it in limit. I just think that because I was quite different from other girl, that my characteristics attracted him. Otherwise, I keep in mind that he has a girlfriend, and that I shouldn't stuck in that relationship. Actually, I find out that he like to tease girl, not only me. It's not so shock but I feel scare of guys already. They're, in fact, very complicated. I can't understand Now, there are some guys teasing me too, but I think that they just joking. I can be more friendly with many people but don't believe that anyone love me. That's the best way for me to feel more commfortable and keep my mind lucid.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I am starting to become bitter towards love because I wonder what is the point. I give my all in a relationship only to have my heart broken. I have had guys tease me and lead me on and it hurts really bad. I don't think it is so much to ask to be treated with respect and dignity we deserve.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I have too. I mean what is the point of giving your all in a relationship and falling in love when all that comes out of it is getting hurt. I hate crying myself to sleep because some guy doesn't realize that he has a good girl in his life.
• Vietnam
8 Apr 09
Love is a sweet but bitter thing. I think so.
• Netherlands
9 Apr 09
There are a lot of people on this Earth that just like to play with peoples minds, do not know what they want or as just as afraid to show love the same way you are because they have been hurt also and are afraid of it happening again. But do not fret, when the time is right, love will show up on your doorstep and catch you totally off guard, and when it does...watch out because you will be in for the most wonderful wild ride of your life!! Good luck and do not close your heart down so soon, you are very young and there is an entire big, long life out there with the right person just waiting for you when the time is right!
• China
9 Apr 09
Hello, gemmoney87! Though bad things happen occasionaly, I still think there is true love in this world. So what we need is to be confident in life, in love and also in ourselves. Good luck to you!
• China
8 Apr 09
Love is a double-edged sword in my mind. On the one hand, you wiil be cool when you indulged in love. On the other hand, you feel melancholic when you recognized that the love you have is a different ideal compared with the one in your mind. So, don't burden yourself. Take it easy to love!
@vheilugto (149)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LOVE! NYAHAHAHAHA . .^_^ actually, i also dont believe in love,lolz . . coz it sh*t, there making people's hurt, and they just giving pain to your heart, so the best thing you could do, live your life to the fullest without thinking if love does exist, because it not exist okey? hahaha. kiddin. . just one advidce from me. dont think too much about it., dont wait for him, just relax, and enjoy being human, time will come you will know what love really mean is. ok? PAIN is normal!
@bing28 (3796)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
Don't rush into falling in love with someone who just expresses his love, try to see first if he truly loves you and he's deserving of your love. Anyway you're still young, a right truly loving man will come your way. Pray to God to give you a man who will love you seriously and who will end up with you for the rest of your life.
@clickicy (571)
• Indonesia
7 Apr 09
Hi Gemmoney87, I think that every mistake made by our lovers are hurts a hundred times more compared to mistake made by a friend or even a stranger. The more we love someone the worst the effect. Didn't believe that there is someone who love you? Come on... Look around you. Yes there are many boyz who can't express their true feeling... A hidden lovers? Help yourself starting to believe in love again Gemmoney87. Make a peace with your mind. A mistake or two mistakes are natural in love relationship. A hurt is real but it can be reduce by open/intensive communication. Good luck.
• India
7 Apr 09
Well i think you were attracted to guys without knowing much about them. First try to know more about a guy as a friend then you can approach him. Never hurry after all this is a first step in choosing your life partner!
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
7 Apr 09
Hi Gemmoney87, There is a saying, "Don't cry because it's over, smile becasue it happened". You don't trust man now because you got hurt twice, that's isn't your fault, you are in love with them, that's your business, because you expected them love you,too. But they don't, you felt you were hurt. There still many good guys, all you need to do is keep you eyes open, keep you minds open, and get to know a person better before you fall in love with them, other than that, i can't give you any good advice.
• United States
7 Apr 09
Not all guys are the same. There are some guys that are good ones and there are some guys that are bad ones. Its just you got to get to know someone before jumping into a relationship and moving so far away and getting into a relationship slowly.
@rsa101 (31744)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
Well I guess those bad experiences of you about how love is and was is just a lesson that you have to learn and avoid in the next time you fall in love again. It is for you to experience its beauty and learn of its pitfalls. it is not there to teach you to hate what love has to offer but to be careful in its exercise and use. For now I guess its too early for you to give up on love. Continue on appreciating what it can offer you and learn from every step you made from it. From there there is always hope that the right one for you will come and reap the benefits of it later in life. Do not be discourage by the past but learn from it and grow from it that is what love is all about.
• United States
6 Apr 09
Well.. its how people really think about it.
@pinkceza (76)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
i dont believe in love also. maybe because im still a teenager im only 18 but i already experience heartache, before i had these guy he convince me that he loves me that im the only one girl in his life but then i descover something after i give my virginity.because im afraid that he might have ___ to other girls if i didnt entertain his request but dtill he did it to other girls. after a couple of months i met these guy ..but still he left me.
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
Good day.. Don't lose heart there is always someone destined for us and you just have to wait. We can't just turn away from love less we want our lives to be meaningless and lonely. Your young and maybe fate or circumstances played a trick on you but things will come around and you'll find that someone.
@Renmnm (9)
• United States
6 Apr 09
to me if love happens that is so great if not than oh well not gonna crimp life fall in love or not. there is many tpes of love.sometimes falling in love is a grander and sometimes it happenes when its least expected and even best friends has worked out for friends I know so if it dont work out with your friend and his g/f than go for it than u both make a play for romance and love. :) dont give up on love yet too soon for that girl :)
@sayh123 (150)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
Life is still busy, But we talked about love,It is something different for what we have feelings to the person. I believe in love but if you love the person you should not feel for him/her that you being in love. Just be natural for what you can do, just relax and feel it slowly. Well, if you lose for love, be open it anytime as long as you cannot hurt it. Be think positive...
@royjune (10)
• China
6 Apr 09
you're lucky for that you've been shot by Cupid when you were 18 that is the most fantastic period till now you are still a young girl but you leave the neverland and say that "I don't beleive in love" for the sadness you got in your love experience.It doesn't mean that you've been grown but mean that you've hidden your naive heart. love cannot be bought in 7&11 or put into your sort by Santa Claus.what we can do is to find or to wait. on the road we may be hurt,but it doesn't matter,c'est la vie. you won't find anything if you lost your brief to find. you're still young and you have the best thing--dream,but you now lock it into the box. open it,and believe it,and you'll find many guys who are worth for your love are around you
• India
6 Apr 09
I also support your opinion. You are completely right . I want to say that love yourself otherwise and after that your parents. Focus on your work. Don't give waitage to love.
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
I can tell you that someone really love you with all his HEART.!Do you want to know who he is?Of course,its GOD!!!He loves you and he doesnt want you to suffer.Dont worry about those past love for everybody experiences it.Its part of life and you should take it as a challenge.Dont worry about the things that happened to you,just keep in mind the good memories and the lessons learned along your journey.God is always witn you.Ask his guidance in choosing the right guy.Dont give up and be strong.Obstacles and challenges measures your faith and believe.Be strong and positive.Love is a wonderful feeling.Its a virtue that binds us all.Connects people.!Dont give up,look at the brighter side.You are worthy to bless,and deserving to be loved.So fight!!!Life is unfair,but it will not be when youll learn how to deal with it.So goodluck!:D..GODBLESS FRIEND.!
@syankee525 (6292)
• United States
6 Apr 09
well those guys are jerks to play with other people feelings. but there will be a real man who come along and sweep you off your feet and treat you how a woman should be treated. if a dude have a g/f or wife. stay clear of those jerks.