did you ever hate your lover when break up?

@cindyhxf (1447)
China
April 7, 2009 3:26am CST
Hi guys,i start this discussion cause i am puzzle about my old lover then he said he hate me when we broke up.i am sure that i didn't do wrong thing to him just some reasons for us that we could't continue our relationship.he knew what i thought and i knew he loved me much.i had the strong feeling with him too,but i didn't want to be silly to love him and no result and i thought we won't go to marriage at the end.i was really sad when he said he hate me but we had to break up it was hard to change that result.any guys want to give me some advice ?thanks
4 responses
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
7 Apr 09
Hello cindy. Love without the result of getting married doesn't make much sense to those who desire to get married as the final aim, but not to those who don't want to get married or just want to maintain the relationship of being lovers. Well, I am married with a good wife giving me a happy family. We have been together for more than ten years and have been loving each other to help maintain our common family. But before getting married to my wife, I had an ex-girlfriend, who made me heartbroken due to her leaving me for another man. To tell you the truth, I once loved her so much as she was my first love for about five years or so. I found myself hard to accept the fact that she was not sincere and loyal to me, but I had to tell myself that we were not the right people to each other. Painful as it was to me, I had no choice but to let go her and my love for her. Life goes on and on. I am glad that I have found my Miss Right in the end, my caring wife. Life is short. There is no reason for any of us to hate the other. Try to love those around you is the best policy because it makes us happy when we give and are given love. Yes? I wish you happy, my dear friend.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 Apr 09
Hi william,i am so grad that you have loving wife.that is what you are!i understand you hurt from ex-girlfriend.yes,love is great but hurt each other so deeply sometimes.it is hard to say clearly who is right or wrong in relation cause we couldn't control our feeling so easily.i just hope i get more happiness and relax in heart.but he couldn't understand what i thought.Best wishes to you,friend.
• China
8 Apr 09
Hello friend. I wish you to enjoy more of your life and wish you good luck to find someone worth your love and I would be very happy to see you married with a happy family in the near future. Good luck to you, cindy.
• United States
7 Apr 09
why would i hate my lover because we break up? i believe breaking up is just a step tp making up.... i will appreciate her well because of the fact that we cant work things out...
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 Apr 09
yes,maybe you are right.i wish he could think that as your way.i didn't want his hate and we loved each other much before.
@springs (926)
• India
7 Apr 09
yeah, i am in that mood only.SHe broke up with me ,and enjoying her life.I don't know why girls fear to love.Family and something comes in the middle.They always wants to drop from love.I think ,they think love as sin.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
8 Apr 09
i understand your mood,somebody felt hurt from love,they would hate and tried to hide love but it was hard to stop love instantly.anyway,time makes us forget something.be happy.
@Dasari100 (3803)
• Anantapur, India
8 Apr 09
I haven't hate any one till now because i didn't commit with anyone so i didn't have any issues so i happy what i am now, generally in the end they won't get marry that is sure.