what should i do?
By redkey65
@redkey65 (221)
China
April 7, 2009 11:54am CST
i am a female student, 25. and many of my year's friends already got married, only few of us single. so, you know, most people around me would like to introduce someone to me to help me finding my future partner. there is one, who is 2 years younger than me, and he worked in the army. so, it means that we are far away from each other, and the more important is that he had to work in a place far away from his home at least ten years, it is to say if he got a family, then he will have to be apart from his family (wife and children)at least ten years, while only 40 days a year to be with his family. it seems terrible, but it is true. and this guy is introduced by one of my best friends to me hoping we will be partner. while, i don't know if i should get along with this guy. you know, i have no confidence with our future. and i don't want waste time in trying to find the hope. i am a little affriad of the working style. but if i didnot even have a try, then i will never know if he is my mrright. so, what should i do? i appreciate your words deeply!
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8 responses
@hele86 (33)
• Italy
7 Apr 09
..only you can choose what's right for you, not a friend or also a internet friend, I could only say that you have to meet and know him well before decide, you can't decide only because you are lonely, many site can help you to find an husband..and distance is important, if you can't stay away too much from someone you love it's very hard..however the last choise comes from your heart, what do you really want in your future is important..
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
8 Apr 09
Let's imagine, if you start the first date with him, you two do fall in love and then what? Like what you said, you might need to get far apart with him for like 10 years whether before and after getting married, I don't think either of you will feel good about that. I think you are just wanting to look for a spouse, but if you are not confident about this relationship in first place, how can you start to remain this relationship in a good condition. That's what I think if you ask me. I wish you good luck and meet you Mr. Right soon!
@Shula101 (268)
• New Zealand
8 Apr 09
I'd nominate myself but im 18 :p. but hey, you never know who mr right is til you meet the guy.
Doesnt have to be a particular age and im not helping by trying yo put myself up to you lol.
Sorry.
TRy your luck with him. Does he have a good look about him? like do you have a nice feeling or do you have one when they talk of him?
Be sure he isn't a nutter ok. Some guys have a good record but may hide evil intentions.
A good hubby, is one who loves you most, not one who works most.
@pratik87 (1927)
• India
8 Apr 09
you seem to be in a very big problem but it is not whether you should get marry soon or not but if you should marry this particular guy or not. being in the army is one of things that everyone would be proud of. You would be the proud wife of an army man if you did marry this guy but you have to think for yourself if you would be willing to make the sacrifices that the wife of an army man has to make in life. Are you strong enough to make those sacrifices. Are you sure you like this guy that much to make these sacrifices?
@puneetchhokra (214)
• India
8 Apr 09
you should do because his future is secure and once if u got married then there must be ur children after few years then u will enjoy ur life with children and it is also a good reson to live a hapily life,,othher then this decession is yours think on it twice ..
@cupcyke (363)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
Im at your same age but still did not get married. i dont care what people say as long as im happy for what i have now im already contented. God has every plan for us ill believe on that, the right man for you will come in a right place and time that you haven't expect. if that person is really yours then no need to goggle time. but on my part i dont like that kind of relationship, a long distance? it will not really work. if he will give importance to a relationship then he will have to choose wither its his family or his work. besides he can always find works just to get closer to you and on your family someday.
@billgatexp (912)
• United States
7 Apr 09
i would like to volunteer myself for a relationship with you, since i am also single and searching lol... what do you think? i could be mr right
