Do you let your partner go out
By moonchild1au
@moonchild1au (6240)
Australia
April 7, 2009 6:06pm CST
with the boys/girls? I ask this because I let my hubby go out with the boys & he lets me go out with the girls...however, our friends had his birthday about 2 weeks ago now & after work, the boys (including my hubby)took him to the pub as a birthday treat. Anyway my hubby & our friend/housemate (not the one who won't do the housework) came home & birthday boy was drunk so they had a game of pool/8 ball & birthday boy was going to go have a sleep for a few hours before driving to his girlfriends house where he basically lives anyway. Then his girlfriends rocks on over & has a go at him for not spending any time wth her on his birthday & tells him that going to the pub with the boys seems to be more important than her.
Now from my point of view, even though we are in a relationship, we still deserve to hae time apart with our own friends - that's what helps a healthy relationship. After that, our friend has been somewhat "grounded" & gets into trouble from his girlfriend. His girlfriend is a single mom & doesn't want to lose him so in a way I can see what she's trying to do but I know if she keeps this up, it's enough to make anyone want to walk away from her. I know I would never do this to my hubby or anyone I dated in the past.
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@chaselee (240)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
I think the girlfriend just wanted to have some quality time with her boyfriend on the day of his birthday. Of course it is his special day and special days should be spent with special people right? Since he didn't spend his special day with her it somewhat makes her feel left out.
@neerajpandey_13 (1765)
• India
8 Apr 09
No I don't allow. Even I don't like this thing at all.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
27 Sep 09
It's not that we "let" eachother do things, it's that we "trust" eachother to be responsible. My husband and I live right next door to the local veterans club, to which my husband is a member because of his combat service in Viet Nam. It's a Canadian club, but as an American, he's an ally of ours, so he is a member. Anyway, he goes there for a drink now and then. Sometimes I go with him, sometimes I don't. He's always responsible. Last month one of my best friends who lives in Toledo OH had a birthday party, and I went down to see her. Two of our other friends were going, so I decided that I should go too. It was wonderful!!!! Hubby didn't mind a bit. He would have come with me (one of the girls brought her husband, one didn't, and the birthday girl isn't married), but we're still waiting for his immigration papers, so it's best that he not leave the country right now.
