Big blow ! My boyfriend kissed another girl ,i saw for myself !

China
April 9, 2009 7:50am CST
My heart is broken.I couldn't believe my own eyes .....Several days ago,i came across something heartbreaking.I saw my boyfriend was hugging another girl and kissing her affectionately.My brain became blank suddenly.I have been too sad these days and i lost any interests in anything ,i don't know what should i do.I found i loved him still.What should i do?I'm crazy.....
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• United States
9 Apr 09
You need to distance youself from him. Have you comfronted him about it yet? If not then you need to and then stay away from him, at least for a while. Then it's really up to you and him, if he wants to continue the relationship and work things out and if you feel this relationship is worth saving.
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• China
10 Apr 09
Yes,i have confronted him and talked with him sincerely.He said sorry to me and hoped i can forgive him.I has made determination to break up with him but he did not agree.He said i was the girl he really loves and he begged me for a chance.If not,he said would persist pursuing me and showing actions to prove his love to me until i can forgive him and accept him.I need some time to think about that carefully.....I hope everything will be gone with the wind.I don't want to get entangled in this poor thing.
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• United States
10 Apr 09
Yeah those situations are no fun. Best of luck to you!
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@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
10 Apr 09
Well he should have thought of that when he was kissing or even contemplating to kiss and hug that girl...I know how much pain that must have caused you...I suggest you just break up with him and if he's sincere about pursuing you no matter what, then let him...Let him regain back your trust if he's sincerely sorry and that he knows he was stupid enough to betray you let him do whatever it takes to get you back....It's the only wayto assure youself that he won't do it again...Don't fall for his sweet talk darl....May you seek the answer to this love, cheer up...^_^
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• United States
9 Apr 09
The best thing for you do is to confront him about it and tell him you saw him doing it with your own eyes and that no one told you that they saw him doing it. That would be the best thing for you and to not hold onto it for so long because then when you do tell him you might be raging about it and you won't be able to control yourself and might do something bad to him. This of course is all my opinion but i hope you can get some help from it and decide what you should really do about it.
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• China
10 Apr 09
Hi lologirl.Thank you for your advice and consolation.I have talked with him and he just said sorry to me and he hoped my forgiveness.Oh my god.I'm in a mess......
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@rmuxagirl (7552)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I would confront his butt too, but I would have done it the moment I saw them kissing. I would want her to know he had someone else in his life, if she didn't already know. I don't know if I would be able to forgive him for it I would probably end things with him because he would have lost my trust.
• Canada
8 Nov 09
I found a picture of my boyfriend kissing another girl... and i don't know what to think. but i hope you are able to work things out. ;)
• India
9 Apr 09
kick him out - He dont deserve you.
HELLO FREIND I dont think you should continue the relation with that boy,after seeing all this you both cant live comfortably with each other,i think yo just just kick him out of your life.You will be fine in few days.He dont deserve you.
• China
10 Apr 09
Yes ,I think you should to do so,kick him out!if continue,maybe this kind things will happen again ,leave him I think is the best way for you, there will be another guy who really love and deserve you appeared. best wishes !
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• China
10 Apr 09
Yes,i know that clearly.I will break up with him finally.Nothing can stop me.....Though i'm very sorrowful.I must conquer myself.Thank you for your advice and blessing.
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@prinzcy (33147)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
You need to confront him to know the truth. If he love someone else (and for all this time dating you 'cause he likes you too) then whether you'll slap, punch or just doing nothing and leave. Love only work if both party love each other, not just your side only.
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• China
10 Apr 09
Thank you for your advice .But i don't want to know the truth.....it will hurt me heavily......And i don't know whether he still loves me or not.he just said he loved me and didn't want to lose me .....Sometimes,i will become soft-hearted by his words.But i really don't know.....
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
11 Apr 09
If he loved you he wouldn't be kissing another girl! Of course you will become soft hearted by his words, you love him. But in the future there will just be even more problems because obviously he don't love you back. May be very hard but that is something you will just have to accept and move on. I have been there it is hard, but live will get much better. Trust me!
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
You have to listen to your boyfriend sides of the story, maybe he has reason why he do it. Now if he confess, ask him if he still love you and he still want to continue the relationship. If he say yes, you have to accept the wholeheartedly. And remember never to bought up again what happen. You will never mention it to him again if two of you fight, no matter what the issue of your fight. You also have to remember that once you said yes, you will always doubt if his honest and that one day, it might happen again. Now if you can't do what i say, you have to move and leave your boyfriend behind.
@jdyrj777 (6538)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Yes, i agree with this. The choice is yours. If you accept him back it has to be this way. If not you should just let him go. Karma if he goes through his life cheating everyone, later he will met the one he wants but she will cheat him.
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@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
9 Apr 09
I am sorry to hear that,you are not lucky to meet such man.well,you still love him and wish he comes back to you?i don't hope so if i was you ,why he kissed other girl and he didn't say anything to you?you should talk to him and know more what he thought i suggest.Be happy.
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• China
10 Apr 09
Thank you for your advice.Frankly speaking,i really hope we can get on well with each other like before,just like nothing has happened. But,I can't ,I know that clearly,what i need is a little more time to recover myself.God bless me....
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• Singapore
17 Apr 09
let go or else you'll end up one day with a child and a divorce
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• United States
16 Apr 09
Well, this is the hard cold proof that he doesn't deserve your love. He CHEATED on you, I repeat, HE CHEATED on you. Can you live with that? He won't change honey and that's something that's just way out there for me. People who are cheaters will always be cheaters. Just try to think of all the negative things he makes you feel, like cheating on you and you actually seeing it or other things that he did to upset you. Keep on doing that til you hate him. Then after that just keep yourself busy with work or school or both. It takes time, I know you might have heard of that, but that's very true.
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@csrobins (1120)
• United States
13 Apr 09
You need to tell him, then you need to slap him or something equally hurtful. Then move on with your life-howvere difficult it is...he is not to be trusted. Don't listen to anything he says about being sorry. I know these things first hand. He doesn't love you back if that's what he's doing -plus it wasn't like it just 'happned' he did it, affectionally, and he probably wasn't going to tell you about it had you not seen it.
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@MsTickle (25192)
• Australia
13 Apr 09
You haven't given much information. Was this a 'one of' thing? Does he know the girl well, have they been seeing each other? Did he explain how he came to be acting this way? If he is so conservative, this girl may have tempted him momentarily. It's hard to know what to say to you without knowing more. Are you long time friends? Lovers? Engaged? Only you know the whole truth and which way to go on this matter.
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@messageme (2821)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I seen someone say confront him to know the truth....well didn't you see the truth!? What see what he has for excuses on why. He will play you even more! Dump his dumb butt and know that you are better than that! I hate men these days because it seems you can never trust any of them! You will eventually find someone who loves you for you and would never imagine cheating on you. That person will find you, in the mean time don't waste your time on losers who don't care enough about your own feelings that they would be willing to do that!
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@savypat (20217)
• United States
10 Apr 09
This is always hard, but just picture yourself with a couple of kids seeing the same thing except now he's your husband. Leopards don't change their spots. Better to find out now.
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• United States
10 Apr 09
where did you see this at?? to tell you the truth if he was hugging her while kissing her "affectionateley" then you can tell it wasnt the first time he did this!!!
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@chulce (1539)
• United States
10 Apr 09
I have to agree, you should confront him. Let him know how hurt you are at what he did. In some cases, boyfriends will deny it and say are you sure, etc. But, let him know where you were, when you saw him. Let him know that it isn't fair to know that he is with someone else at the same time, especially if you have been going out for quite some time. If he feels he needs something more in the relationship, to be honest, he should be man enough to say so, let you know where he stands with you, instead of doing stuff like this. Shame on anyone who goes out behind their significant other's back. It isn't nice. You should be upfront about stuff.
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@jdyrj777 (6538)
• United States
10 Apr 09
What a bummer!!! Tell him what you saw. Thank God your were not married to him. Thats the possitive thing about it. You can either accept how he is or dump him. People usually dont change. Unfortunately some people are just cheaters.
• Canada
10 Apr 09
If he truly loved you he would not have been kissing another girl.i know that it hurts but maybe you should just tell him goodbye.You deserve so much more than that
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@Canellita (12040)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Well, I guess it depends on what you want to do. You could talk to him about it or you could go out and have yourself some fun and start dating other people. The relationship obviously wasn't that serious since you saw him doing that so I say try to put it behind you and move on. Eventually you will find someone who appreciates you and will respect you and treat you better. Make sure though in the future that you discuss with new guys whether you are going to be exclusive or not. Most guys don't want that until they are older and more mature so just be clear from the beginning so that you will lessen the likelihood of getting your feelings hurt and being disappointed again.
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@Shar19 (8235)
• United States
10 Apr 09
I think there is a reason why you saw this - to know the truth about him. I know you are hurting now but it's time to break it off with him. You were just given the sign.
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@cocooreo (705)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 09
If I am in your shoe, I sure feel the same as you too. Upset and angry for being betrayed. Yet, life still goes on. It is good to find it early than late. So now, be brave, and start looking for a better one. Definitely there is someone out there appreciate you more than him. He is the one losing a treasure but not you. Hope you forget the unhappiness and stand up again for a better future.
• India
10 Apr 09
Just try to put your mind away to other things. I mean go out with friends enjoy go for a vacation along with lot of people like group tours. I mean just do whatever you want but put your mind away from the current turmoil. Also remember if his love was true for you he will come back to you ........ if not then anyway you should try to forget him and go on with life. I know what I am telling is pretty hard to do but you know you always have to try and fight against adversities of life.
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