problem between my sister

South Korea
April 10, 2009 4:45pm CST
i having a big problem with my sister lately, she is in philippines and i am here in korea but the problem is, she has a business related in korean surplus like bags,shoes, curtains,and other more. but my problem is this, she keep sending her payment in my bank account so i am the one who responsible to pay for their suplier, but my husband insist like this i don't like you to help them because that business is illigal, if the suplier have some illigal business because you are the depositor someday you might have a problem, what will i do?i wnat to help my sister but i dont want to hae a fight with my husband as well.
2 responses
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
Find another way to help your sister. Like the idea of her depositing the money directly to the supplier. Therefore, you avoided hurting your sister and your husband.
• South Korea
11 Apr 09
yes, i really hate the way i hurt them both. i promised my husband not to do it anymore but i can't say no to my sister.
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
You have to have the guts to say no to your sister. I guess you have helped her enough. Its time for you to say no now. It is not like your her sister and you have to do what she wants. You have your own life now. Its their business you can help them in the beginning but not for the rest of the running.
• South Korea
11 Apr 09
thanks a lot atlast i have some clue what i should do and should not..thanks angel
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
If you know its illegal i think you have to talk to your sister about the problem. I have no idea if its illegal or not. If u think its illegal in korea and you're in korea i know ur sister will understand if u explain her everything.
• South Korea
10 Apr 09
but they also insist thats not illigal, that the big problem conflict between my husband my sister and i.
@busyB4 (875)
• United States
10 Apr 09
if it is illegal, I would not participate. I would just have to explain to her that it is something you just wont be able to continue now. You can mention that it is affecting your family if you want to. If it illegal , and she knows it, then it is one thing. If she does and still keeps it up, she may get caught and you will not want to be invovled and have that on your record either.
• South Korea
11 Apr 09
thanks for your advise. hope this will help. i know i can't blame my husband why he doesn't want help my sister either. sometime my reason also is valid to help my sister its because she is my sis. my blood,but they can't understand my point.if i don't help them they also say my husband doesn't like them,ect. there is a reason why my husband hates to help them, because they don't know how to managed their own money.if they have plenty of money her husband acting like they are more riches among other. if her husband want to buy new car he will get what ever. they have too many workers, thats the point why my husband hates. and if they don't have enough money they tend to barrow my inlaws, and one more thing now they barrowed almost 10thousand dollar to my father inlaw younger brother who happend living in philippines with filipna wife. i felt so depressed. my sister always says, i can pay it don't worry.but the reason is thats my family.family problem isn't it bad?hope she can understand my situation. she already made me over.