Are you comfortable asking your gf/bf Money?

@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
April 11, 2009 4:46am CST
Asking for money it's a big NO! I don't want to ask money not from anyone else. I might just hate the feeling! I want her to give it to me with out asking her, and if ever I'll pay it back to her. I don't want any money issues usually money is the root of fights and issues. Anyway have a nice day to all of you!
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7 responses
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
No, If he's only a boyfriend. He has no financial responsibility on me so why should I ask money from him. Even If I badly need the money, He will never be my option.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Hi larish, well I think the same way! That there is no financial responsibility with both parties. But sometimes it comes voluntarily. As long as she pays me back or I pay her back as soon as possible. So it wont become an issue. Have a nice day to you!
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
Yes, of course. hahaha. Joke. I dont do that. Even now with my husband I dont ask for money though he gives me his salary and we use it for expences but I jot it down on a notebook of where and what was the money out for. Now that our son is at the Philippines we have more expences but soon we will be getting him there. But when it comes for our child I do ask my husband money for that is not only my child that is his child as well.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Hi se7enthbird, I think usually the one who handles the expenses is the wife. Husband should provide. Well we were taking about that the other day too responsibility and obligations. I don't think there is something wrong giving you wife the salary it's a must I think. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
It depends on how deep is your relationship with each other. I share her my money and she share me her money as well. I ask her sometimes if i really need it but i always pay her back. We were both student that time so i know she doesn't have that much. I also let her borrow my money if she needs it.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Yes it's how deep your relationship is., but usually I see a lot of couples usually the issue is money and I don't like that to happen to us in the end. It's just a give nd take sometimes but I don't want people to say that she abuse me or abuse her. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• United States
11 Apr 09
why not... if she is comfortable asking me for things she needs, they won't i feel confident asking her too. sometimes a man might not have some dough and he has to ask his gf if she has some to spare and there is no big deal about that.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Hi billgatexp, well I call that give and take. It's just fine with me if it comes voluntarily on her part, but do return it. I just don't want money issues. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@mira91 (985)
• Singapore
11 Apr 09
Yea...It's true when you say money is usually the issue..People tend to get really sensitive aobut money issues and i can understnad why...For me, well i avoid asking for money only when i need help and if so i will offer to pay back but he would usually turn me down because he doesn't mind helping me...I would still feel bad about it but since he really insist that i leave it be, i'll just thank him graciously..=] have a nice day to you too mate...
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Hi mira91 usually I see couples the issues is always money or cheating. I think the root of evil is usually money. Well for both of us, it's just give and take sometimes. Well I don't ask her, but it comes voluntarily, but I return it back, same with her, so no one could make it an issue. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@kayebee (55)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
asking money, yes. i am comfortable when i really need it so much... though, money issues will create a problem but make sure to repay it back.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
14 Apr 09
Hi kayebee, I don't like money issues, well if it comes voluntarily to her, it's just fine, but begging no way, and I return it back to her as soon as possible. I don't like to hear her family say anything bad about me. Have a nice day to you!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
Oh, I don't like the idea as well. I think it's not just with our boyfriends and girlfriends, it's more of a general idea. Nobody wants to beg, neither are we really open to the idea of admitting that we are in financial trouble. Indeed money matters is a sensitive area in a relationship, and I could say it is too in our relationship. Though there are several times that he had to ask me for some or borrow, he has always made it known that it is the most difficult thing for him to do, and if he could avoid it he would, but there really are instances when he has no control over things. Yes, sometimes there are some bickering caused by such an action but he proves to me that he's doing his best to earn more and evidently he does return what he borrows. And now that he's up and moving with a new job and all, it's been a whole year now since he last borrowed money, and I could definitely say he is working hard for a future that I may be in, I hope. Good luck!