What if your partner has.....
By smooch091784
@smooch091784 (973)
Philippines
April 11, 2009 12:23pm CST
an STD/STI? What would you do? Will you still love her/him? Will you still accept her/him?...
Tough question huh? But yea, what if?! STD/STI - Sexually Transmitted Diseases/Sexually Transmitted Infection. I think pretty much people on myLot knowledgeable about these.. For those who don't might as well google it.. Anyway, going back to the question, if I had a partner with an STD/STI, I think I wouldn't do anything at the moment knowing it, but I guess would suggest to let him see his doctor ASAP for the checkup and immediate treatment, and despite of these, I will still love and accept him no matter what, especially if we were together for years.. Though it would be hard for me to accept the fact at first, but eventually I'll get over it. Afterall, love is also about acceptance and forgiveness.. 
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
I will do the same thing. Have her treated until she gets well. I just hope it's not the incurable type because that would be depressing for both of us. I will love her still of course. If there's one person she needed most during that time, it would be me. I'm curious, what if your partner has herpes, how will you deal with it?
@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
I don't know much about herpes, but I read about it. It has types, like you get it on your mouth and you genital area. Well, I'm not sure how to deal with it.. It's not curable but treatable. There are now quite number of medicines and supplements for this and so for HPV. If you have the virus, definitely have it all cleared out.. And the best way is to prevent it of coming back.
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@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
Forgot to add, Paris Hilton, Pamela Anderson, former President Bill Clinton, Tommy Lee, Britney Spears, Colin Pharell, Victoria Beckham, David Beckham and Jessica Alba have herpes.. I'm sure other celebrities have this, so this isn't really a new virus spreading around.. Imagine, if these celebrities have the herpes and yet they still living their life to the spotlight.. After all herpes is not a deadly disease, for as long as you treat and prevent it.
You know, I think PI government should talk about this to Filipino teenagers.. And this is a serious issues, I never had this knowledge from school, but from my own research and really big thanks to the internet!
You know, I think PI government should talk about this to Filipino teenagers.. And this is a serious issues, I never had this knowledge from school, but from my own research and really big thanks to the internet!@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
Well according to what I've read on the internet.. Pregnant women that have herpes in the run of her pregnancy will need total attention. There would be a possibility the baby might get the virus, but it's more of getting disabilities. There are certain ways to treat pregnant women in the course of her pregnancy. It's pretty delicate. For a person having an outbreak, herpes and warts, they should really have not to have contact, unless they're all cleared out. You've got a lot of readings to do.. Lol 
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
13 Apr 09
Now I am just curious how and why hypothetically 'your partner' should get herpes when you don't. 
just thinking....
So meaning, he got it from someone else along the course of your 'years' together, right? That also means, he was cheating.
After knowing about his 'cheating', then that's the time I would have to figure out my first move....:-)
just thinking....
So meaning, he got it from someone else along the course of your 'years' together, right? That also means, he was cheating.
After knowing about his 'cheating', then that's the time I would have to figure out my first move....:-)
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I got married when I was 32 and my husband gave me herpes. Nice wedding present, huh? I forgave that, he didn't know he had it. By the 17th year he started bringing home trychimonus (didn't spell that right) and gave it to me twice. It hurt really bad! But I loved him and thought it would be alright. Then he walked out on me and the kids for an old girlfriend and that was that. I have a lasting reminder of him the rest of my life so I'm celibate, I don't want to spread it to anyone.
@smooch091784 (973)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
I'm glad you living your life now.. I'm not sure what a trychimonus is though.. I think that if someone has a virus, their partner has the right to know and to have the choice of whether staying or not in the relationship. You don't have to think only about yourself, like he knows you love and you are afraid of losing him, but we have to let him know... Nobody wants to have these viruses, we make mistakes prior to our relationship without knowing the previous partner has it and might be selfish of not telling or didn't know of having it.. (If it happens you cheated that's a different story). You are brave to say this.. Thanks for sharing!
@catarina_rg (580)
• Portugal
12 Apr 09
well, a long as he didn't get it cheating on me... if he got it before we met, i mean how could i stop loving him because of it? we would need to wear coddoms and have extra protection, but his fisical illness couldn't stop our love :)
@KUSHANK55 (2437)
• India
12 Apr 09
well tha is the reality of life. many couples and their children are suffering because of the problem and the number is ever increasing!!
and with all other serious conditions like cancer , heart ailments added to the list , it will form a formidable figure.
well the fact of life is to realise the situation and to be prepared to face it in advance and if the unwanted so hapens face it and dont run away from it!!
@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
it would be hard to tell...it depends on the situation where i could consider. Maybe the chances of accepting the case would be tolerable if it happens prior to your relation. Of course there would be no regret because you both knew the situation.
It would be a big difference if the case happens after you build up your relationship. Maybe the std/sti happened as the result of dishonesty. If that happens it depends on how seriously and deeply sorry the concerned party would be. For me I don't know yet what to do unless in actual situation... I am sorry..Happy mylotting....
@net101 (157)
• India
12 Apr 09
We should do all in our power to help when we find a neighborhood person, or a near and dear one affected by STD/STI/AIDS/HIV. There is no harm at all in dealing with person having such disease. Who does not commit mistakes in life. We just forgive and do our duty that seems the best option in the situation.
@cassandradab (400)
• South Korea
12 Apr 09
i can't imagine if my husband got std/sti..maybe i i will still love him.but i have to ask him one question why he used another women instead of me?its bet insult for me as a wife, maybe i not that good enough if ever happend or maybe he is not contented for me,hope it will not happen for me in the future i know im not strong enough like other, my weakness is that,to use other prosti or any women, i can't say i will not love him but i can't promise to be with him,
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
If he already had it before you meet and honestly told you. It's up to you if you love him and you can accept anything about him. Inform yourself about what kind of STD he has and encouraged to consult a doctor for the treatment. Some STD are treatable so treatment is the key. If it is another way around that he gets STD when you still in the relationship. If I were you I can't forgive him and break him up.
@yuanxiang9988 (17)
• China
12 Apr 09
your review is excellent,right,we all should not desert love althought everything happen,your partner is just your partner,so,despite of everything,love exist all time.let us value it!
@laglen (19759)
• United States
11 Apr 09
I have been with the same man exclusively for four years. If he came up with an STD, he would be out!
t! @ds6413 (2070)
• United States
11 Apr 09
It would depend on if he got after he and I have been together. If he got it before I met then I would hope he would have taken care of his health before he got involved with me. Now if it was after we already met, that would take alot of explaining. It would say to me I was not that important to to him risk my health because of his selfishness. Different things factor in. How long I have been with him is a big one. If I had been with him for years, I would probably try to accept he made a mistake but if I had been with him for only a short time then I might be on my way out.
