good manners

i believe in that as well, manners are part of the first thing that must be learned by a person. their fammily has the biggest part in contribution to building a child's manners and it is true that manners does reflect a person's teaching to her kids.

Charity begins at home. Similarly manners - good manners are planted at home only. Good manners are the first mark of good breeding and reflect directly on a person’s upbringing. I have been given a very simple criterion for judging manners – good manners are based on consideration for other people. Tact, diplomacy and hospitality – all these are based on good manners. For instance, take table manners. You are not supposed to put your elbows on the table while eating because it doesn’t allow enough space for the person who is sitting next to you. Similarly, it is important for you to respond to someone who wishes you ‘good morning’ or says ‘namaste’, even if it a stranger. If you do not return the greeting, the stranger will feel insulted and will not greet others easily again. For parents and teachers, there is one simple norm – do not tolerate bad manners. Give incentives and affection in return for good manners. But do not expect too much too soon. Children will learn by and by, but it is no point expecting a three year old to know about butter knives and a finger bowl. There are some simple guidelines to follow actually, though there are cultural differences to take into consideration. What is rude in Japan may be perfectly acceptable in Latin America. However, you will be forgiven for not knowing the rules of an alien culture. You will not be excused for being careless in your own country. In any case, always remember the principle of not making others uncomfortable.