April 12, 2009 11:46pm CST
I new that after i gave birth that sleep would no longer be an option. How ever i thought that i would get at least a break every now and again at least more than once a month. But now that im back at work and have been for a month its been hard my husband helps out during the week but then during the weekend I expect myself to make sure he can get some sleep so there for i get hardly any sleep during the week and then make myself be the only one to get up with him during the weekend, yet i feel no need to let anyone help me. I don't understand i want the help but then again i just feel that i would be the only one able to deal with the crying and screaming when he is upset and that i am the only one that can calm him down. How do you let others help you with out worrying about your baby?
• United States
13 Apr 09
I think that mothers have this special thing that when we don't get enough sleep we are still able to manage things, not very well mind you, but we can do it. I think you need to find one person, besides your husband, who you can trust completely to come over and help with the baby. I know your going to worry and that's normal but you must put your worries aside and get some rest so that you can take better care of your baby. If you don't take care of yourself then your not going to be able to take care of your child as well as you would like to. When you don't get enough rest and what not then you are more at risk for getting sick. I'm sure you'll manage we all do and you will get over this as soon as the baby gets to sleeping through the night.
• Puerto Rico
15 Apr 09
I agree totally with what Amberina (1248) said. You have to have one person that you trust completely and then get the rest you need. Or else the baby is going to suffer not having your total attention when you are somewhat awake. Also remember when the baby is sleeping you too should sleep. No matter what housework needs to get done. This shouldn't last very long a couple of months and the baby should be sleeping thru the night. Good Luck!
30 Jan 12
This problem is there for all new mothers. Managing the child is really an interesting and tough problem. People living with parents can manage to some extent. Couple living separately will find it hard to find time for the child and also work. This problem is more in western countries and is not spreading into India also. It is because both husband and wife have to work to make both ends meet.