My friends' foster daughter moved in on the 11th.
By cripfemme
@cripfemme (7698)
United States
April 13, 2009 9:12am CST
My friends who are both lesbian disability rights activists had their foster daughter, who they are now moving to adopt, returned to them on the 11th. She lived with them before but then the court sent her back to her parents. Then she was abused again and was moved to another foster home, not theirs. But then those people abused her and so she called my friends who called the police. Now she's back with them, which she should have never left in the first place. Now they're going to adopt her and keep her.
Poor kid has so much going on. Three years ago she pulled out her own teeth. I can't imagine being in so much pain emotionally that that actually seems like an option. She's also developmentally delayed, in the cognitive sense, not like me.
I find this whole story pretty hopeful for my future parenting goals, although I don't want to go through what my friends have gone through. I can't imagine loving a kid, having to give them back to people I knew were going to hurt them, and then getting them back injured years later. I honestly don't think I could deal with that. Could you?
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Unfortunately most parents continue to be given their kids back even when they are abusing them as long as they are fighting for them. Here in WA State you are lucky if you have a chance sometimes to Foster before the kids are given back to their parents, and then sometimes killed before someone can get them again.
It does sound like they are making a Smart choice wanting to adopt the girl, and I do wish them the Best, because once a child has been abused it is hard to get them to come thru it as well.
